Nowadays, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become an unavoidable hot topic in the family. Since many families in modern times have only one child, parents show a strong desire to control their children and often overspoil them. This has led many young people to develop various problems in an environment where their parents dot on them. Especially in most families, parents place special importance on their sons, sometimes even treating them as private property. As a result, the attitude of many mothers towards their daughters-in-law after their sons are married is often dissatisfied.
Most people in modern society are only children, which makes parents more inclined to over-indulge, and even regard their children as treasures in the family, as if they were emperors. However, this behavior is difficult for many girls to accept.
Recently, Huang Xiaojie decided to break up with her boyfriend because of the three house rules proposed by her mother-in-law.
Huang Xiaojie and her boyfriend are college classmates, and their fate began on the day of the opening ceremony. Huang Xiaojie's gentle and kind personality and outstanding appearance have always attracted many suitors, but she is cautious about love and does not easily choose a partner, which makes her relationship stagnant for a while. However, when she met Yang Haonan, her caution seemed to disappear in an instant.
Yang Haonan is not special in appearance, but as people often say: "He is also ordinary, but your liking has gilded him." In Huang Xiaojie's eyes, Yang Haonan was this special existence, prompting the two to come together quickly. However, after they fell in love, Huang Xiaojie discovered that Yang Haonan was quite lacking in life skills and liked to command others in life.
For her boyfriend's behavior, Huang Xiaojie felt very uncomfortable. She has always believed that even in love, relationships should be equal. Therefore, she is disgusted by her boyfriend's constant calling of her. Despite Huang Xiaojie's expressions, Yang Haonan began to work hard to change her attitude in life, which made her very happy. She did not choose to break up with her boyfriend because of this, but was willing to give him a chance to change.
Huang Xiaojie and Yang Haonan did not directly enter the palace of marriage after graduating from college. Huang Xiaojie believes that before entering the stage of marriage, she must first ensure that she has a stable financial income so as not to be despised by her partner and her family in life. She quickly and honestly expressed this idea to Yang Haonan.
After learning of his girlfriend's idea, Yang Haonan did not object. Due to Yang Haonan's average family conditions, he also agrees that the two should achieve some achievements in their careers first, and then consider marriage. Therefore, the two did not rush to put their marriage plans on the agenda.
Although both parents' parents had always known about their relationship, they had never met each other. As the two grew older, Yang Haonan's parents became more and more dissatisfied with their son's girlfriend. They felt that Huang Xiaojie and Yang Haonan had been together for a long time, but they had not come to visit, which made them feel disrespectful. So, Yang Haonan's mother made up her mind that when Huang Xiaojie came to visit, she must show her majesty.
Three house rules for first meeting
Huang Xiaojie and Yang Haonan have known each other for a long time, and the two have a strong relationship, and finally Yang Haonan proposed to her and received a positive response.
After Yang Haonan successfully proposed to Huang Xiaojie, the two quickly shared the good news with their respective parents. However, Yang Haonan's mother found it difficult to accept the decision not to be informed in advance, and shifted the blame to Huang Xiaojie, seemingly believing that she had influenced her son. Without meeting, Yang Haonan's mother had a prejudice against Huang Xiaojie in her heart.
When she took Huang Xiaojie home for the first time, Yang Haonan's mother did not hide her dissatisfaction. After facing Huang Xiaojie, she immediately proposed three house rules. After hearing these regulations, Huang Xiaojie decided to end their relationship.
The first rule stipulated by Yang Haonan's mother is that Huang Xiaojie must hand over her income after marriage. Article 2 stipulates that after marriage, Huang Xiaojie will be fully responsible for housework. Article 3 stipulates that if a daughter is born, it must be divorced and no property can be acquired.
After listening to the regulations of the future mother-in-law-to-be, Huang Xiaojie said with emotion: "Your son is the emperor, and I don't have the queen's life." She left her boyfriend's house straight away. After that, the two who originally planned to get married chose to break up. Huang Xiaojie is glad that she recognized the character of her mother-in-law before getting married, otherwise it may be too late after marriage.
After the news spread, Yang Haonan's mother's three family rules became a topic of conversation. After hearing these regulations, the girls also stayed away from Yang Haonan. In such an atmosphere, Yang Haonan's marriage was stranded, and his mother regretted seeing that her son could not find a girlfriend for a long time.
In life, many parents often show obvious partiality towards their children, especially when their children get married, and some parents are not friendly to their daughters-in-law. There are even some mothers-in-law who, due to their son's attitude towards their daughter-in-law, have some inexplicable hostility towards their daughter-in-law, resulting in deliberately embarrassing their daughter-in-law in life.
As parents, we must understand that when our children become adults, especially when they have established their own families, our priority is to make space for them. Many parents are reluctant to let go of their control even after their children get married, and continue to interfere in their children's lives. However, this practice can actually cause great distress to the children and seriously threaten the children's marital relationship.
Many mothers-in-law set a set of rules when their daughter-in-law first joins the family, believing that their son has grown up under their care from an early age, and therefore the daughter-in-law must serve. However, we should understand that everyone grows up with the pampering of their parents, and therefore, as a married woman, there is no obligation to serve her husband excessively. As an elder, you should not interfere too much in the marital life of your children, otherwise it may backfire.