Everyone has hidden complexities in their hearts, but we also need to remember that kindness should be placed in a wise and appropriate place. There is nothing wrong with kindness in itself, however, we must recognize that not everyone deserves our kindness. The true intentions of the other person are often difficult to guess, and if we are too much of a virgin mentality, we may mistakenly think that in the process of helping others, we are actually causing a bad influence.
Especially in areas involving relationships and marriage, we should act with caution. The manifestation of kindness also requires the right degree and distance. Sometimes, even if we don't have any improper intentions, it is easy to attract unnecessary turmoil because of our appearance or outstanding conditions. Some people will do whatever it takes to achieve their own ends, and if we fail to discern the true intentions of the other person, it may end up having a devastating impact on the family.
This may explain why we emphasize that kindness needs to be sharp, and that we should not be too idealistic. Whether it is kindness or good intentions, it may only be a means and an opportunity for others. Therefore, when faced with things that may have negative consequences, we should be thoughtful and make decisions carefully so as not to bear an unbearable price.
The entanglement of Xi students
Chen Yan and her husband, Zhou Shuo, work in the same company, and they first met because they were competing for the same project. Although people in the company describe them as a tacit pair, Chen Yan and Zhou Shuo don't see competition as a theme between the two. On the contrary, they have maintained a happy relationship in their marriage.
Although there are rumors in the company that Chen Yan and Zhou Shuo are a dreamy couple, and both are very good, they have not evolved into fierce rivals in the company, but have become an enviable couple. This statement made Chen Yan and Zhou Shuo feel a little funny, but they also admitted that although there was inevitably some competition at work, as soon as they got home, they would leave their work behind and think about their families wholeheartedly. Therefore, for three years, their relationship has been very good.
However, despite their marriage, they are still a very attractive couple to some people, as they have never planned to have children and are both focused on their careers. Especially Chen Yan, she has attracted many suitors in the three years of marriage.
But Chen Yan has a tough personality, does things happily, and never drags her feet. Such a personality has not affected her marriage too much. However, this time the suitor did not come to pursue Chen Yan, but fell in love with Zhou Shuo at first sight on the first day he entered the company, and even began to take the initiative to ask for Xi in the company.
Although Zhou Shuo is very good at work, he is slightly lacking in interpersonal communication, and he is soft-hearted and easy to talk. In order to avoid Zhou Shuo's difficulty in refusing, Chen Yan simply confessed her husband and wife relationship with Zhou Shuo directly to this beautiful Xi student.
This Xi named Xiao Lin is said to have a privileged family background, and his entry into the company is also arranged through some connections. Although she had only been here for a short time, everyone could notice that she was a little willful. However, Chen Yan is not intimidated by this, because she knows that the most important thing is her family.
To Chen Yan's surprise, once Xiao Lin understood the relationship between the two, she did not feel embarrassed or stalked. Instead, she immediately turned her attention to Chen Yan and began to pester her passionately.
The encounter is commensurate with the best friend
Chen Yan never thought that Xiao Lin might have been the fuse of her family discord at one time, but she became her fan sister in the next moment. Xiao Lin not only called her "sister", but also insisted that Chen Yan personally lead her to practice Xi.
After rejecting Zhou Shuo's request just now, rejecting Xiao Lin again seemed a little unkind. Chen Yan said frankly to her: "I can take you to Xi, but I have high requirements for work, and it is best not to have the idea of being lazy, otherwise I will not show mercy." ”
Xiao Lin nodded very happily this time and began to work diligently with Chen Yan. Chen Yan has a set of methods for bringing practical Xi, and always gives them a huge amount of work at the beginning, while Xiao Lin has never shown a trace of complaint, although she has done it a little jerky.
This made Chen Yan's impression of Xiao Lin gradually change, and after getting along for half a month, she gradually fell in love with this little girl. And Xiao Lin also obviously felt Chen Yan's change, from "sister" to "sister", and began to say that they were about the same age, but also because they liked Chen Yan and hoped to become good friends.
Chen Yan is five years older than Xiao Lin, and at first she felt that such a relationship was a little inappropriate, but Xiao Lin always liked to talk to herself. Within a few days, the news spread in the company that they were already best friends.
Chen Yan didn't bother to explain, thinking that her best friend was her best friend, and it wouldn't have any effect. However, Chen Yan underestimated Xiao Lin, because after claiming to be Chen Yan's best friend, Xiao Lin quickly got along with the people around Chen Yan. As her relationship with these people deepened, she found Zhou Shuo again.
Xiao Lin excused herself to be a little troubled at work, saying that Chen Yan had been too busy recently to take care of her, so she asked Zhou Shuo for guidance. After learning that Xiao Lin was Chen Yan's best friend, Zhou Shuo was naturally willing to help his wife.
So, Xiao Lin added Zhou Shuo's WeChat, and the two frequently discussed various matters in WeChat, although most of them were about work, Xiao Lin would always have a few words of praise and confession to Zhou Shuo in it. It's a pity that Zhou Shuo, a straight man, never saw the mystery.
Reveal the essence of green tea for girlfriends
A month later, Chen Yan stumbled upon a message sent by Xiao Lin to Zhou Shuo, which aroused her doubts. It turned out that Chen Yan never knew that there was a work exchange between Xiao Lin and Zhou Shuo. When Zhou Shuo was asked, he was surprised to find that Chen Yan had been kept in the dark and had no idea about it.
Under detailed questioning, Chen Yan figured out that Xiao Lin had been approaching Zhou Shuo in her name. What is ironic is that Zhou Shuo has never been aware of it, and simply thinks that he is helping his wife share the burden and guiding the little girl who has just joined the company.
After learning the truth of the matter, Chen Yan laughed and realized that Xiao Lin turned out to be a pretending green tea. Her enthusiasm for herself before was all an illusion, and in fact, she wanted to seduce Zhou Shuo.
However, Chen Yan and Zhou Shuo are both people with normal three views, and they disdain Xiao Lin's little tricks. At Chen Yan's behest, Zhou Shuo directly removed Xiao Lin from the contact list.
However, it didn't take long for Xiao Lin to start texting Zhou Shuo restlessly again. Zhou Shuo ignored it, but while he was taking a bath, Chen Yan happened to see a message: "Come and accompany me tomorrow night, let's make things clear, and I will never harass you again." ”
Xiao Lin really didn't achieve her goal and vowed not to give up. Chen Yan understood that she had to take harsh measures, so she replied instead of Zhou Shuo: "Come to my house, she is not here." ”
After Xiao Lin replied, Chen Yan waited for her arrival in the living room. Sure enough, within half an hour, Xiao Lin ran over happily. However, as soon as she entered the door and saw Chen Yan and Zhou Shuo sitting on the sofa, she was stunned.
This time, Chen Yan showed the domineering spirit of Zhou Shuo's wife and directly reprimanded Xiao Lin. She also took screenshots of all the harassing text messages sent by Xiao Lin, warning Xiao Lin that if she couldn't wake up, these screenshots would spread everywhere, even to her parents.
Faced with these words, Xiao Lin gritted her teeth and finally apologized to the two. After that, in the company, Chen Yan never saw Xiao Lin again, and the problem was finally completely solved.
Sometimes, when the opposite sex appears around us, the initial thought may be to make a friend or do a favor, while our partner may feel that it is not a big deal. However, these little things may arouse the other party's favor or ulterior motives, which is the ** outside of marriage.
Zhou Shuo has become an obvious example, and because of his own excellence, he has attracted the attention of Xiao Lin, a Xi who has just joined the company. Even though he has made it clear that he has a family, Xiao Lin is still stalking, and even tries to become a third party. In this process, Zhou Shuo was a little sluggish and almost ruined his marriage.
Through Zhou Shuo's experience, we are able to understand why our partners ask us to distance ourselves from the opposite sex. For us, it may be a small help, but for others, it may be different. If the other party really has bad intentions, we may get into trouble and regret it.