Growing up, I had a unique Xi of having a reunion dinner with my family every weekend.
This Xi continued after I got married. However, at a recent reunion dinner, something happened that made me feel depressed.
That night, my husband and I prepared a great dinner for the arrival of my mom and dad and in-laws.
At the dinner table, the dishes were neatly arranged and fragrant, and we were all a little impatient to wait.
Finally, Mom and Dad and in-laws arrived. Everyone sat around a table and had a good time. However, when I put a pair of baby shoes on the dining table to announce that I was pregnant, the expressions became a little strange.
Children are a blessing, congratulations. Mom spoke.
The little couple still has to pay more attention to their bodies. Dad said with a smile.
However, when it was the in-laws' turn to express their opinions, their blessings were particularly stingy: "Congratulations, but we don't have much pension now, so you have to be ready."
My husband and I looked at each other, a little crying and laughing. I understand that my in-laws have never taken our children very seriously, but I didn't expect them to be so indifferent to the news of my pregnancy.
Moreover, my mother-in-law only handed me a red envelope, which was only 200 yuan. There was a sudden sour feeling in my heart, and the grievances piled up in my heart seemed to weigh a thousand pounds.
After a meal, everyone dispersed and returned to their respective small families. There was also silence between my husband and me.
I silently thought, how will my future children face such a family?
After that, my relationship with my husband became a little strained. Every time the topic of in-laws is mentioned, we invariably avoid it.
Just as I was uncertain about the future, an unexpected event happened. One day, I unexpectedly overheard my in-laws talking about my family background behind my back.
What's more, they even thought that my pregnancy was just to tie their son's heart and a means of misdeeds.
This kind of news sounded like a bolt from the blue to me, and it instantly shocked and angered me. My husband and I have always respected each other since we got married, but they beat me behind my back.
I don't know how they will treat my children and myself after they are born.
This incident made me start to re-examine our family relationship. I began to wonder if I should continue to maintain such intimacy with my in-laws, because every contact brings new hurts and conflicts.
The struggle left me feeling tired and depressed like never before.
I know that this conflicting family relationship will not be easily resolved. I was facing pain and struggle, and I didn't know how to sort everything out.
After all, the arrival of a child means that I need to be stronger and more stable in the face of everything that lies ahead. My relationship with my husband and my family will affect the growth and destiny of my children.
Before the birth of the child, the relationship between my husband and I was strained. The attitude of my in-laws overwhelmed me, and this alienation and indifference filled my heart with disappointment and uneasiness.
During a casual conversation, I learned that my husband was hiding some questions about the family's finances. He never told me that the family was not short of money.
Stepping into the role of mother, I looked forward to the condolences and care of my in-laws, but I was disappointed by their indifferent attitude.
I began to worry about my child's future and whether the apathy in a family would affect his development.
However, these contradictory events also made me think about how to deal with these issues. I am well aware that conflicts and trials in family relationships are inevitable in any family.
I know it's not going to happen overnight, but I'm willing to work hard to solve these problems for the sake of my children and family's future.
Perhaps, this is an ordeal and an opportunity. I hope that through this ordeal, our family will be able to understand, tolerate and care for each other more.
I don't want to passively accept the injustices of these realities, but I hope that I can work hard to make the family relationship more harmonious.
I believe that as long as we work together, the family relationship will definitely become better. This conflicting incident also gave me a deeper understanding of family relationships and a greater appreciation for what I had.
I tried to let go and get back to normal as soon as possible, but the disappointment in my heart slowly built up and could not be dissipated.
The days gradually passed, the baby slowly grew up, but the mother-in-law's attitude remained the same.
Once, when my husband was on a business trip for a few days, I took the children back to my in-laws' house alone. In their family, I used to be very polite and respectful to my mother-in-law.
This made me feel very aggrieved. I don't know when I started to be an incompetent daughter-in-law in her eyes, which made me feel very frustrated.
After returning home this time, I began to observe my mother-in-law's attitude towards me vigilantly, and gradually realized that her harsh criticism of me did not seem to be impulsive.
I began to reject contact with my mother-in-law more and more, and every time I went to my in-laws' house, I always tried to avoid being alone with her.
As my child grows up, he can also feel the conflict between me and my grandmother. Once, he jokingly asked me, "Mom, why is Grandma always so fierce to you?"I didn't know what to say to him.
These things made me start to suspect that the conflict between me and my mother-in-law was not a temporary conflict, but a long-standing backlog.
For me, I don't want my children to grow up in such an atmosphere. I began to think about how I was going to deal with the situation in this family.
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