Recently, Dong Mingzhu, chairman of Gree Electric Appliances, said in a live broadcast that young people should not be self-centered. She believes that society will not be able to maintain harmony if everyone is self-centered. Money should not be the dream of a college student, money is the result of struggle.
Dong Mingzhu believes that today's young people should be diligent, responsible, and able to endure hardships, rather than being free and casual, unruly, and self-centered. She hopes that young people can establish the right values, care for others, and believe that the future world must belong to such people.
Some netizens agreed with Dong Mingzhu's point of view, believing that young people should abandon their self-centered mentality and pay more attention to social harmony and development. However, some netizens said that Dong Mingzhu's suggestion was too conservative and did not conform to the values of modern young people.
The reason why Dong Mingzhu's views have a completely different understanding in the hearts of netizens is undoubtedly related to everyone's inconsistent views on "self" and "self-centeredness". This difference may stem from a variety of factors such as the individual's growth background, cultural traditions, and educational concepts. In some home and educational settings, an emphasis on individual self-awareness and self-worth is encouraged, which helps to develop a child's self-confidence and independence. However, overemphasizing self-centeredness can lead to a child's neglect of the needs of others and a lack of empathy and teamwork skills.
From a psychological perspective, ego and self-centeredness are two different concepts. The differences between them are mainly reflected in the following aspects:
Self: Self refers to an individual's perception and evaluation of his or her own identity, worth, and abilities. Self-concept includes aspects of self-identity, self-efficacy, self-presentation, self-protection, and self-criticism. The ego is a relatively stable psychological structure that develops gradually as the individual grows and experiences accumulate.
Egocentrism: Self-centeredness is when an individual is so psychologically and behaviorally preoccupied with his or her own state that he or she neglects the needs of others and the environment. Self-centered people often manifest themselves as selfish, self-willed, and lack of empathy. Self-centeredness is a temporary, modifiable psychological phenomenon that may be caused by some dilemma or unmet psychological needs in the process of an individual's growth.
The difference between ego and egocentrism is:
Stability: The ego is a stable mental structure, while self-centeredness is a temporary psychological phenomenon. As an individual develops and grows, self-centeredness may gradually diminish or translate into other psychological traits.
Content: The self encompasses the individual's awareness and evaluation of his or her own identity, value, and ability, while the self-centeredness mainly focuses on the individual's state of being overly concerned about himself psychologically and behaviorally.
Manifestations: Self-centered people are usually selfish, willful, lack of empathy, etc., while ego-centric people are more concerned about their own growth and interaction with others in society.
Development: The ego is a process that develops gradually with the growth of the individual and the accumulation of experience, while the self-centeredness may arise due to some dilemmas or unmet psychological needs in the process of individual growth.
There is a clear distinction between ego and self-centeredness from a psychological perspective. However, in the real world, people's perceptions of self and self-centeredness are often complex, and different people may have different positions in different situations. To properly understand and deal with these two concepts, we need to pay attention to various factors such as individual psychological development, family and educational background, so as to better cultivate individuals with healthy self-awareness and interpersonal relationships. Understanding these differences helps us to better understand the laws of individual psychological development and take appropriate psychological development measures according to different psychological characteristics. It is no wonder that the average person is confused by the fact that it takes decades or even decades of formal training and personal growth for a qualified counselor to dynamically recognize the changing differences in these concepts in reality.
Therefore, we need to carry out psychoeducation and advocacy to raise people's awareness of self and self-centeredness, so that we can better balance self and development, the relationship between self and others, and achieve a harmonious coexistence between the individual and society in real life.
In short, Dong Mingzhu believes that young people should not be self-centered, but should establish correct values and contribute to social harmony, and this position is not deviated. The core of the contradiction is not this, but whether some young people are "self-centered" and what is "self-centered"?The widespread attention and discussion of netizens caused by this is indeed a question worth discussing and pondering. Dong Mingzhu said that young people should not be self-centered