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My girlfriend is in love with someone else, how can I get it back?
25-year-old Mr. Chen consulted: My girlfriend and I are high school classmates and have been in love for five years. Recently, I found out that she was particularly wrong, so I logged on her WeChat and found out that she was having an affair with a man. I was very angry and confronted her directly, and she did not deny that she had feelings for others. I don't know what to do next.
In fact, in order to save a changed woman, you must first know what is the purpose of your lover?
Psychologists believe that if a person is happy on his own lawn, he will not look at someone else's lawn.
Therefore, understanding a woman's motivations for betrayal can make her change her mind and not easily give up her friendship with you for many years.
"Dawn Street" written by Japanese writer Keigo Higashino tells the story of Watanabe, a middle-aged man from a seemingly happy family, who still cheats.
Watanabe, in his self-reflection, points out that most people who betray their feelings pursue only one thing: passion.
For couples who do not have the ability to manage intimate relationships, it is easy to get bored with each other after being together for a long time. Add to that the daily routine, and it's easy to want to fall in love again and have fun.
So, some women like Watanabe don't have much affection for their significant other. But the lovers on the outside are no different, they cannot be fully understood, and the source of happiness is fleeting.
In this case, a man may wish to remind a woman of one thing: if you give up on someone you love for a long time in order to feel fresh, it is actually easy to enter an endless loop. Next time, fall in love again and again for the sake of freshness. But psychologists believe that people who are not determined and have too many partners are unlikely to be happy.
Social Psychology points out that although women also care about their appearance, they pay more attention to men's economic ability.
So, whether in love or marriage, if a woman feels that a man is not capable of satisfying her material desires, then she will still look outward, even if the original personality is good.
Just like in the TV series "I Am Yu Huanshui", an honest man married a greedy and vain woman, and was constantly belittled and blamed after marriage, and finally the woman also cheated on the rich man.
So, material things are what most women want from their partners. If a man doesn't want a woman to leave, he can only tell the other party that he will work hard, will improve himself, and hopes that the other party will not take money too seriously, after all, happiness in life should also be obtained in other things.
Some people say: Men betray mostly for a more harmonious life between husband and wife, and women betray mostly for emotional outlets.
In fact, in the process of dating between men and women, if men do not understand the emotional needs of women and are unwilling to work hard to meet each other, the relationship between two people is really like a crumbling building, as long as a third party breaks in, it is easy to collapse.
It's like a counselor's high school girlfriend, it's easy to fall in love with someone else. Because men don't care about her as much as they used to.
I don't prepare gifts for birthdays, I don't pay attention to rituals anymore, and even the behavior of playing games with me doesn't exist anymore. "Lovers, on the other hand, seem to talk endlessly, listen to similar **, spend time with me, and often praise me. ”
Women are actually very hungry for love and companionship, including the approval and praise of men in relationships. So, if a man has been together for a long time and ignores these things, he can remember to apologize to the woman who has two hearts and tell her that he will pay more attention to her in the future.