1. The quasi-adolescent son begins to show the oppressive feeling of "the mountain is overwhelming", always declaring that he is taller than his mother when comparing his height, and most of the time he quarrels with his mother. The son's behavior left the mother confused and exhausted, and at the same time, she was worried that it would bring more challenges and waves when he really entered puberty. However,Brain ScienceThe study revealed the development of the brains of adolescent boys, who exhibited strange behaviors that were not deliberately disobedient to adults, but due to the fact that the brain was not yet fully mature. The various parts of the brain develop in a way that is connected by nerves, among them".Frontal lobe"Functioning is not yet fully developed, and this part is responsible for emotional control and judgment. As a result, adolescent children are prone to mood swings, moodiness, impulsiveness, and disregard for consequences. In addition, they also react differently to stress and are more likely to feel anxious. Therefore, parents need to understand their children's brain development and not fight against them, but create an environment of understanding and support for them.
Second, the eccentric behavior of adolescent children is related to the stage of their brain development. The order of brain development is from back to frontFrontal lobeParts are the last to develop. However, even when a child's body is already close to that of an adult, their brain development is only 80% of the time, and the remaining 20% is responsible for emotions and judgmentFrontal lobePart. It is the imperfection of this part that causes adolescent children to lose control of their emotions and behave uncomfortably. In addition, one study found that when faced with stress, adolescent children and **'s brains respond differently to one hormone, which makes them more prone to anxiety and nervousness. It can be seen that the behavior of adolescent children is not that they deliberately oppose adults, but because the brain is not yet mature, and they cannot fully control their emotions and behavior.
3. Parents should deal with the eccentric behavior of their adolescent children, first of all, they must maintain their mental health, believing that their children's brain development will mature one day. Don't argue with your child, using parental impulses to stop your child's impulsiveness will only lead to more confusion and exhaustion on both sides. Instead, parents can convey dangerous messages to their children and make them aware of the possible consequences of their actions. Children already have a certain level of judgment at this age, and by showing them real-life cases and consequences, they are able to reevaluate their behavior. Parents should not easily trust their children's promises and need to instill in them many times with real cases because of their ownFrontal lobeThe functionality is not perfect enough and needs to be strengthened several times.
4. Although the behavior of adolescent children may be confusing and exhausting for parents, please do not lose confidence in them. Recalling his youth, he also experienced confusion and struggle before he finally became sensible. I believe that a child's brain will always be fully mature. Although this process can be painful, parents are asked to work hard to give their children understanding and support to grow together.