My name is Li Mei, I am 45 years old, and I live in a small community on the outskirts of Beijing. My husband Li Qiang and I have been married for 20 years, and my son Li Yu has been in college for almost a year.
We have been living a plain and happy life, until my father-in-law, Mr. Li Jianguo, died suddenly 3 years ago, and our life changed dramatically. I have always had a good relationship with my father-in-law.
The father-in-law is a typical traditional northern man, who attaches great importance to family and righteousness, and has a slightly stubborn personality. But he was very fond of me and my grandson, and often brought us dumplings, fruits, and other delicious food.
I am also very respectful and filial to my father-in-law. Mother-in-law Zhang Suzhen has a strong personality, but she is actually very soft in her heart. When her father-in-law was alive, she was in charge of her father-in-law, and rarely had her own opinions.
Mei'er, eat dumplings, your father-in-law specially wrapped them for you. "Thank you, father-in-law!I took the dumplings from my father-in-law's hand and said with a smile. The father-in-law had a kind smile on his face and touched his head.
My husband Li Qiang is the only son in the family, he has a more easy-going personality and is not very likely to conflict with his parents. He was also very nice to me and often gave me a head massage when I was worried or tired.
Baby, haven't you been stressed too much lately, I'll help you press your head. Li Qiang stood behind me and helped me rub my temples.
I smiled and narrowed my eyes. Our son, Li Yu, was a good student from a young age, and later he was admitted to a prestigious university in Beijing. He has a gentle personality and always does things for us quietly and never causes us trouble.
Will definitely be happy!You have to celebrate it yourself, we're all so proud of you!I gently stroked Li Yu's forehead, my heart full of pride.
In this way, our family of four lived in harmony for many years. However, three years ago in the winter, my father-in-law suddenly passed away at home. That day, I happened to go to the supermarket to buy groceries, and suddenly received a ** from my mother-in-law, who cried and said that my father-in-law had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage and fell to the ground, and he had passed away after rescue efforts failed.
The vegetable basket in my hand fell to the ground with a "snap", and the double ** began to soften. My husband also rushed to the house, and we accompanied my mother-in-law to complete the funeral. The sudden death of my father-in-law had a great impact on our entire family.
During that time, my mother-in-law burst into tears all day long, and the heartbroken appearance made me feel very uncomfortable. My husband was silent every day, and he also fell into deep grief. In addition to helping my mother-in-law deal with the aftermath, I could only endure my grief and persuade my husband and mother-in-law to explain something.
Just half a year after my father-in-law died, one day, we received a surprise visit from a girl. This girl named Li Xiaobei is very beautiful, with waist-length hair, **fair, but her face is a little melancholy.
Auntie, I'm Xiaobei, I don't know if you still remember me?The girl stood in the doorway, looking at me with some uneasiness. "Hello, Xiaobei. Have I seen you?Sorry, I don't remember exactly. I looked at her quizzically.
Little Bey's eyes were red, and she told me what she had always wanted to do to visit us. In retrospect, she seems to be the little caregiver left behind after her father-in-law's death. When she entered, her mother-in-law's face turned pale, and her voice trembled and asked her why she had come.
Xiaobei looked scared, and her mother-in-law told her to leave in a tough tone.
You still have the face to say!My husband has raised you outside for 18 years, do you still need to ask how my life is?The mother-in-law said angrily, "Hurry up and get out of here, don't bother me in the future!."
After speaking, Xiao Beitou left the house without looking back, and soon disappeared into the corridor of the community. I still can't understand what happened. Mother-in-law said that her father-in-law had raised Xiaobei outside for 18 years
What does this mean?Could it be that my father-in-law and Xiaobei have an affair?"Mother-in-law, what do you mean by 'father-in-law raising Xiaobei' just now?Can I know about this?I asked tentatively.
The mother-in-law was silent for a long time, and finally raised her head to look at me: "Since you have heard it, I will tell you." Actually, your father-in-law has been raising Xiaobei for 18 years with the money from medical treatment!
She's your father-in-law's lover!"There was an instant bang in my brain, as if I had been hit by five thunderbolts. What?Father-in-law having an affair?And it was concealed for 18 years?
Is this possible?My brain was short-circuited for a while. "No, no, my father-in-law is so filial, how can he find a lover behind your back?You must have misunderstood something. ”
I subconsciously defended my father-in-law. The mother-in-law smiled bitterly: "I also hope that I misunderstood, but this fact is here, and the cards and ** I found from his relics after my father-in-law died have said it all."
I've been patient for 18 years, and now that my father-in-law has passed away, I can't pretend anymore!”
I was shocked to see my husband hurrying back. The in-laws immediately told her husband everything about it, and his expression was at first incredulous, then angry and sad.
Mom, how is this possible!Dad, he won't!It must have been made up by that little Bei's brain!The husband apparently couldn't accept this fact either. My husband and I were stunned.
Is this family just going to break up?The affair that his father-in-law had concealed for 18 years was finally revealed after his death, which directly led to the mother-in-law divorcing her husband!I was troubled and saw that this home was about to break.
The mother-in-law cried and went to pack her belongings and prepare to move out;The husband blames himself and argues with his mother-in-law about the sloppiness of this decision. I stood on the sidelines, with so much confusion, shock, and pain.
Mother-in-law, I made a few dishes, can we sit down and talk slowly?"I try to keep my tone as gentle as possible. The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and finally opened the door for me to enter and sit at the table.
Mother-in-law, I know this is a huge blow to you, and it must be painful to endure it for 18 years. I looked into my mother-in-law's eyes and said.
With a hint of firmness in her eyes, the mother-in-law nodded gently. "But I want you to think twice about this decision, like my husband said, we don't believe in the Guild doing such a thing.
Even if this is the case, people will inevitably make mistakes, can you give him one last chance?I said in as gentle a tone as I could. "He has been wrong for so many years, how can I easily forgive him?
The mother-in-law choked up and said, "I gave him a lifetime of time, but he wasted 18 years!.""Mother-in-law, I understand your pain, but if you insist on divorce, it will also make me very painful.
With red eyes, I said, "Our family is facing great changes now, shouldn't we understand each other and get through this together?"The mother-in-law was silent, tears rolling down her cheeks.
If you have to get a divorce, our family will break up. I choked up and said, "What my husband and I need most now is your understanding and tolerance." After a long time, the mother-in-law finally spoke: "Mei'er, I know it's sad for you too.
But these 18 years have been too painful for me, and I really can't forgive my father-in-law for what he did. Even if I don't get divorced, I can't face this family anymore. "I wiped away my tears and tried to stay calm.
Mother-in-law, I would like to beg you to give my father-in-law one last chance. Just like you have been tolerant of him for 18 years, although he has done wrong, he has always been a member of our family.
On behalf of him, I would like to sincerely apologize to you and hope that you will stay in this home and live with us. ”
But what will happen to my husband and I if you leave us?I choked up and said, "What's the point of this home without you?"I will worry about your life day and night, and my husband will also blame himself deeply for not being able to take care of you.
Please, think twice, mother-in-law. "You're talking about Xiaobei?"I asked hurriedly. The mother-in-law nodded, tears in her eyes again. I hurriedly said, "Regarding Xiaobei's matter, I can cut off contact with her and let her no longer appear in our lives."
I'm sure my father-in-law was just confused for a while, and if he was still here, he would have apologized to you. I beg you, for the sake of our family, give my father-in-law a chance!The mother-in-law was silent for a long time, finally wiped away her tears, and sighed deeply: "Okay, Mei'er, Mom promises you, I will stay in this home." It's just that my mother can't see that Xiaobei anymore, and when she thinks of her, her heart is like a knife. ”
I finally breathed a sigh of relief, tears filling my eyes. "Thank you, mother-in-law!I promise to cut ties with her and never show up again. "Then it's decided. The mother-in-law's tone finally softened, "From now on, we will still be a family." I threw myself into my mother-in-law's arms and wept silently.
My mother-in-law also hugged me tightly and comforted me softly. At this time, my husband also ran over, and when he saw the scene of our reconciliation, his eyes were moist.
Thank you for your company, Mom. From now on, I will take care of you and be by your side every day. I took my mother-in-law's hand and said softly. "Okay, okay, stop crying.
My mother-in-law patted me and my husband, "We have to support each other as a family and get through this together." "I wiped away my tears and my heart was filled with hope. Although her father-in-law's affair deeply hurt her mother-in-law's heart, she eventually chose to forgive and stayed in the family.
I also decided to cut off contact with Xiaobei and stop mentioning her, so that my mother-in-law's wounds could heal slowly. This experience gave me a deep understanding of the complexity of human nature. I believe that everyone can make mistakes, but as long as you are tolerant, any pain can be suffered.
From now on, I will care more for my mother-in-law and make her feel the warmth of home. After that turmoil, the relationship between our mother and daughter became more intimate. My mother-in-law started chatting with me often, sharing her thoughts and feelings.
I will also listen patiently and give her some advice. One day at noon, I was preparing lunch in the kitchen, and my mother-in-law sat on a chair next to me and watched me busy. "Mei'er, my mother has been reflecting on it recently, is it that my previous attitude towards my father-in-law was too serious and inconsiderate. ”
The mother-in-law sighed deeply. I put down the kitchen knife in my hand, walked up to my mother-in-law, and gently patted her on the shoulder: "Mom, you don't need to blame yourself. Every couple has their own way of getting along with each other, and it is impossible to fully understand each other. ”
The mother-in-law looked at the boat by the lake and said happily, 'It would be nice if I could go out for a walk every day.' I advised her, 'Mother-in-law, you can go for a walk in the park every day, exercise is good for your body.'
We chatted while taking a leisurely walk along the paths in the park. At dusk, the afterglow shines on the lake, and it is breathtaking. The mother-in-law lamented: 'When I find myself old, I am always prone to excessive anxiety and stuck in the past.
We need to learn to look forward and live in the moment is the most important thing. I nodded in agreement, "You're right, people are really cranky when they get old. But as long as you understand this, you can change your mind and live in the moment.
When my mother-in-law heard this, she smiled at me and said, 'With you, Mom's mood will be better.' I was very relieved to see the life on my mother-in-law's face.
Perhaps, time can really ** all pain. I believe that my mother-in-law will slowly come out of the haze and start enjoying life. Since then, my mother-in-law has developed the Xi of going for a walk in the park every day.
Her mental state has also become better and better, and when she chats with me, she will talk a lot about the past and what she has seen, and she is no longer always depressed. I will do my best to take care of my mother-in-law's life and make her feel the warmth of home. "
In the journey of life, we will inevitably encounter some painful and desperate things. However, as long as we learn to be tolerant and reflective, we can slowly come out of the difficult situation.
I am convinced that tolerance is the greatest strength in a family. It can help us rediscover hope and rejuvenate our lives in the gloom. As time passed, the mother-in-law's mood gradually improved.
She would take the initiative to share some past stories with me, and occasionally mention her father-in-law. I could feel that she had been able to recall her father-in-law calmly and was no longer full of resentment. "Mom suddenly remembered today that when we first got married, my father-in-law was kind to Mom.
One day at dinner, my mother-in-law said, "Every day, I would buy snacks that my mother liked to eat, and I would secretly stuff some money for my mother." "Yes, mother-in-law, the bits and pieces between you and your father-in-law in the past must be very warm now.
I say with approval. "Later, after giving birth to your husband, my father-in-law was even more happy, and always said that our family finally had an heir. At the mention of this, the mother-in-law smiled, "At that time, our life was still very difficult, but we also felt very happy.
I smiled, I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be able to recall the past so calmly. This is undoubtedly a good sign that the knot in her heart is slowly dissolving. "Mother-in-law, every bit of the past is the most precious treasure in your life.
We must cherish the people in front of us, and don't let the imperfections of life affect the nostalgia for the past. I said encouragingly. "You're right, Mer. When we get old, we should also learn to tolerate and let go.
The mother-in-law also nodded.
After a while, the community will organize a mountain climb, and I decided to take my grandma with me. During the climb, my grandmother was out of breath, and I helped her to move slowly. "Grandma, if you get tired of walking, we can stop and rest.
I asked with concern. "It's okay, grandma is just exercising, let's take our time. Grandma waved her hand. In the end, we made it to the top. Standing on the top of the hill and looking into the distance, you can see the entire community.
Grandma breathed deeply, her eyes shining with serenity. "The view is so beautiful. Grandma sighed. "Yes, grandma, you can participate in this mountain climbing activity, and you will definitely feel that life is full of meaning when you see these beautiful scenery.
I say. Grandma nodded: "These days, grandma has locked herself in her room all day long, unable to feel the beauty of life. Today I finally came outdoors to empty my mind, and my grandmother felt that she was alive again.
This is the true meaning of life, to be actively involved in activities, to accept life, not to run away from it. I replied with a smile.
I see,"Mother-in-law said with a smile"In the future, let's participate in more activities together and cherish every moment of life. "Looking at the serene smile on my mother-in-law's face, I couldn't be happier for her.
Being able to climb this mountain is a sign that my mother-in-law's heart is open, indicating that she has been freed from the pain of the past and has learned to enjoy the present life again. I believe that in the days to come, my mother-in-law will become more and more sunny and cheerful, devoting her time and energy to good causes for her family and herself.
The pain of the past will be slowly healed by time. I will always support her and make her feel at home. Because the most precious gift between relatives is a heart of acceptance and tolerance.
Thanks to the joint efforts of my mother-in-law and me, our lives are finally back on track. The mother-in-law gradually came out of the shadow of her father-in-law's death, and her smile became more and more. One day, my mother-in-law said to me:"Mei'er, I've been wondering if I should take my father-in-law's urn back and put it at home.
I was a little surprised because my mother-in-law had never mentioned my father-in-law before. "Mother-in-law, have you thought it through?Would you be emotionally acceptable to take the urn back?"I asked with concern.
The mother-in-law nodded and said"I figured it out, my father-in-law is our family after all. In the future, let my father-in-law's ashes accompany us. "
The mother-in-law's heart has been relieved and she is willing to accept the company of her father-in-law. She whispered to her father-in-law's urn, "You're back." At that moment, my mother-in-law's eyes flashed with tears, and I couldn't help crying, so I held her hand and comforted: "You did a good job, and my father-in-law will also feel your intentions."
Since then, my father-in-law's urn has been placed high in the living room, and my mother-in-law and I will pay our respects to him every day with fresh bouquets. Sometimes, after finishing the housework, I would sit in front of the urn and share our recent life with my father-in-law.
Father-in-law, Yu'er was recently admitted to a good university, and he said that he would study hard to reassure you. "Father-in-law, I take my mother-in-law to the park for a walk every week, and her health is getting better and better.
We miss you all too much. I believe that if my father-in-law were still alive, he would also be glad that our family was in harmony. After some time, my mother-in-law told me that she wanted to repair my father-in-law's cemetery, and I immediately agreed to go with her.
We added flowers and plants to the cemetery, cleaned the fallen leaves on the tombstones, and replaced them with new ones.
Father-in-law, may you rest in peace in the spirit of heaven, and we are all well. The mother-in-law prayed devoutly. "Father-in-law, thank you for taking care of our family back then, we will support each other and live a better life.
I also pray to my father-in-law. After the tomb was repaired, we sat in front of the tomb for a while, whispering softly. At this moment, I saw the serene smile on my mother-in-law's face, and I couldn't help but feel tears rolling in my eyes.
In life, there are many unsatisfactory things, but as long as we learn to be tolerant and grateful, life can still be beautiful. My mother-in-law strongly chose to forgive and accept, and our family walked out of the haze of life.
This power of tolerance will always warm my heart. As time passed, my mother-in-law's memories of her father-in-law changed from painful to nostalgic, and she became more and more actively involved in family and community affairs.
One day, when our family was having dinner, my mother-in-law suddenly said, "Daughter-in-law, mom wants to go out and sing, it's in the community activity room." "I was a little surprised because my mother-in-law rarely made such requests.
Mother-in-law, do you want to sing?That's great, singing is great for emotional regulation!"I immediately expressed my support. "I also accompanied my mother-in-law to sing in the community!My husband also said.
Then it's decided. The mother-in-law said with a smile. "Let me sing an "Autumn Hymn". The mother-in-law's words were full of anticipation. With the sound of **, the mother-in-law's always peaceful and transparent singing echoed in the activity room.
My husband and I listened quietly and hummed along. "Mother-in-law, your singing voice is so infectious, it sounds so beautiful!I praised it from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you, daughter-in-law, singing has made me feel a lot more cheerful. The mother-in-law replied with a smile. Since then, my mother-in-law has regularly gone to the community room to practice Xi singing. Sometimes I would sing with her, and the bond between our mother and daughter became stronger.
In addition, my mother-in-law will also participate in outdoor activities organized by the community, such as hiking and listening to lectures, so as to enrich her life. When I came back from a hike, my mother-in-law said to me, "The mountain scenery today is really beautiful, and I feel a lot younger!"”
Yes, mother-in-law, you actively participate in the activities, and the whole person seems to be in a much better state of mind. I responded with a smile. "That's what life should be, to feel, to experience, not to choose to escape.
The mother-in-law's eyes sparkled with wisdom. I nodded, feeling that my mother-in-law's state of mind was so open and indifferent. She is no longer haunted by the pain of the past, but lives in the present and enjoys the beauty of life.
Life is short, we must learn to be tolerant and grateful, cherish the people around us, and don't let the past consume the energy of the present. My mother-in-law gave me a good example, and I want to enjoy life like her.
Now, whenever I see the firmness in my mother-in-law's eyes and hear the warmth in her singing, I feel sincerely relieved and moved. Over the years, she has influenced us with her tolerance and wisdom, making this family more harmonious and happy.
I will always remember these life lessons that my mother-in-law gave me.