On the big stage of marriage, there is a type of story that is not common, but it is also full of heaviness and helplessness, and that is sexless marriage. When you and me, everyone who walks into the marriage hall has looked forward to the sweetness of mutual affection and skin-to-skin intimacy. However, sexless marriage, like an indescribable scar, is deeply engraved in the lives of two people.
There is a man named Xiao Ming, who has been married to his wife Xiaohong for many years, but because of physical reasons, he is unable to have a normal sex life. Xiao Ming once suffered, he felt that he could not bring happiness to his wife, and even thought about giving up the marriage. However, Xiaohong did not leave Xiao Ming because of this, she chose companionship, understanding, and tolerance. She said, "I married you not because I wanted you to bring me much material satisfaction, but because I wanted to spend my life with you, no matter how hard life may be." Although Xiao Ming's marriage was difficult, he did not give up, they were looking for solutions to problems together, and they were working together to make life better.
We often hear that marriage is the grave of love. But for those living in sexless marriages, marriage is more of a cage from which there is no escape. They can't share the trivialities of life under the wrap of love like other people, and they can't find the warmth that should belong to them in the lonely night. In the crowd, they seem to be extremely affectionate, but in fact, their hearts are full of unspeakable pain.
How hard is it to have a sexless marriage?First of all, it deprives two people of the most basic emotional communication. Imagine that when you are in the long night, longing for the embrace from your lover, but you can only face the cold bed, that loneliness, that helplessness, does it make people's hearts like knives?
There is a woman named Xiaofang, and her marriage is extremely happy in the eyes of outsiders. However, only she knows what is missing from her marriage. Her husband is a workaholic who is busy with work every day and has no time to spend with her, let alone communicate emotionally. Xiaofang once tried to communicate with her husband, hoping to get his understanding and support, but her husband thought she was making trouble. Xiaofang's marriage seems to be happy, but it is actually full of helplessness and loneliness.
Second, sexless marriage makes two people more and more distant from each other. You may ask, can a marriage without sex still be called a marriage?In fact, the lack of sex is only one aspect of sexless marriage, and what is even more painful is that the emotional communication between two people has become extremely rare. The distance between them is like an insurmountable chasm, making the two people more and more strange and indifferent.
However, the most painful thing about sexless marriage is the unspeakable pressure. Although society's openness to sexuality is increasing, the understanding and acceptance of sexless marriage is still low. This makes people living in sexless marriages not only have to face their own pain, but also face misunderstandings and pressures from the outside world. They can't confide in others, they can only bury their pain deep in their hearts.
But believe that no matter how difficult life is, as long as we have the courage to face it, there will always be a solution to the problem. Please don't give up, don't give up your love for life, don't give up your expectations for love.