I'm 48 years old and I'm still a big sister.
Over the years, my mother has been urging me to get married, but I have never found a suitable match. I've always focused on my career and have always focused on my work. Coupled with mediocre looks and not good at socializing, it is difficult to meet excellent men.
It wasn't until this year, at the urging of my mother, that I finally started to take the initiative and participated in some blind date activities.
Mom, leave me alone, I'll take care of it myself. ”
You're 48 years old, do you still want me to ignore you?A few years later, there really won't be anyone who wants it. For your mother's sake, I want to hug my grandson too!”
I know my mom has good intentions, but going on a blind date made me very nervous. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to make a good impression on the other person, and I was even more worried about finding someone who wasn't a good fit.
The first blind date was very embarrassing, and when the other party saw my **, he directly said that it was not suitable, and turned around and left. I was aggrieved and embarrassed, and I almost cried on the spot.
The next few blind dates also ended in failure. Either the other party puts forward all kinds of harsh conditions, and I can't meet any of them;Or I'm too old and not beautiful enough.
How is it, is the blind date process still going well?"My mom always asked me about my blind date.
It's okay, I'm working on it. "I couldn't bear to tell my mother the truth, so I had to perfunctory it.
Just when I was about to give up, I met Mr. Zhang at the blind date corner. He's 5 years older than me and he's an old bachelor. At first, I didn't have a good impression of him, and I felt that his personality was irritable and not suitable for me.
I think the two of us are a good match, if you think it's okay, let's register our marriage. At the third meeting, Mr. Zhang directly proposed to get married.
I hesitated, but I thought I could give him a chance. Maybe his irritability is just for face, and he will get better when he gets married. Besides, I'm not young anymore, and it's not easy to meet someone who is still satisfied with me.
So, at the age of 48, I married Mr. Zhang, an old bachelor who was 5 years older than me, ending my status as the eldest sister and becoming a married woman. The days after I got married were different from what I imagined, and life problems came one after another.
Mr. Zhang dictated to me and asked me to do all the housework, while he himself watched TV at home all day and never helped.
Wife, where's my clothes?Why haven't you washed it yet?”
Wife, isn't the meal okay?I've been hungry for a long time!”
I couldn't help but ask him, "Can't you help me with the housework once in a while?"”
I am a man, and housework is a woman's business. All I have to do is make money, you should obey your husband!Mr. Zhang said confidently.
I was very angry, but there was nothing I could do. When you get married, you need to understand each other, and I can only work harder to adapt to this life.
But gradually, Mr. Zhang's temper was also exposed. Whenever I didn't do what he wanted, he would lash out.
One time I forgot to cook noodles for him, and he actually flipped the table and threw the dishes and chopsticks everywhere, and I was shocked.
I asked you to cook noodles, why don't you cook them!Do you treat me as a dead man?Try to touch my minefield again in the future!Mr. Zhang roared.
I bowed my head and apologized, but tears flowed in my heart - this man was really terrible.
Later, Mr. Zhang intensified his anger by smashing things at every turn, but I couldn't resist, so I could only swallow my anger.
One time Mr. Zhang couldn't find the key and started to get angry again, and I explained that the key was under the dinner plate on the table. He slammed his fist on the table, smashing the plates and throwing the food to the ground.
What nonsense!It's clear that you lost the key, and you still don't admit your mistake and make so many high-sounding excuses!”
In the face of Mr. Zhang's vexatious accusations, I couldn't hold back anymore and cried bitterly.
What the hell do you think of me?I've worked so hard to do so much for you, and not only are you not grateful, but you're making trouble every day, I'm so fed up!”
Only then did Mr. Zhang realize that the situation was serious, and begged me not to divorce and promised to correct his mistakes. I cried and nodded, deciding to give him one last chance.
This is how I married Mr. Zhang, an old bachelor. I really hope that our married life will be better, but it has been difficult and has given me mixed blessings.
After that, Mr. Zhang seems to have really changed his past mistakes and stopped being unreasonable.
At first, I was a little unconvinced. But slowly, he really showed a change in his life.
One morning, he took the initiative to get up and make breakfast for me and also participated in the dishwashing work.
Wife, can I eat the breakfast I made?I've cleaned the dishes too, haven't you?He asked me cautiously.
You're doing a great job, I'm happy. I smiled and complimented him.
Mr. Zhang also had a long-lost smile on his face. I could feel that he really wanted to make amends.
Another time, Mr. Zhang took me to the supermarket to do some shopping. I used to take the bus by myself, and this was the first time he had said that.
Wife, I'll send you to buy groceries today. Think of it as sharing the burden for you. ”
I nodded movingly. Mr. Zhang not only took me to the supermarket, but also patiently helped me pick fresh vegetables and fruits. We are like an ordinary couple, going about our daily life warmly.
Mr. Zhang no longer loses his temper casually. One time I accidentally spilled tea on his clothes, and I quickly apologized, he would have been furious in the past. But this time, Mr. Zhang just smiled and said, "It's okay, I accidentally bumped into it." Then he helped me clean up the tea on the floor.
I am really pleased with Mr. Zhang's change. At one point, I thanked him directly.
Xiao Zhang, I want to praise you for really changing a lot recently, making me feel that our marriage has been saved. Thank you for your willingness to change yourself for me, it takes a lot of courage. ”
Wife, in fact, I should thank you for being willing to give me a chance. I will continue to work hard to make you live the life you deserve. Tears welled up in Mr. Zhang's eyes.
Although there are still many unsatisfactory days, Mr. Zhang's change gives me hope. Perhaps the sufferings of the past are all arranged by fate, which allows us to benefit a lot and cherish the present. I will also continue to work hard with Mr. Zhang to maintain this marriage that is not easy to come by.
There is still a long way to go in life, and I believe that with mutual understanding and tolerance, we will be able to overcome these difficulties and eventually become a family.
When Mr. Zhang gradually changed himself, I also began to reflect. Maybe I was too demanding of him and didn't fully understand his inner world.
I began to observe Mr. Zhang's preferences more closely. Although he is no longer vexatious, I can feel the loneliness and loss in his heart.
One day, I made Mr. Zhang's favorite kung pao chicken. As he happily munched on it, I took the initiative to ask him:
Husband, do you like to eat Kung Pao Chicken because it reminds you of the taste of your mother?”
Mr. Zhang looked at me in surprise, and his eyes turned red all of a sudden.
Yes, my mom used to make this for me a lot, and it was very delicious. How do you know?”
I took his hand and whispered, "Because I am your wife, I should know what is in your heart." Thank you for this opportunity. ”
Mr. Zhang squeezed my hand tightly, tears welling up in his eyes.
After that, I often found opportunities to ask Mr. Zhang what he thought, so that he could open up and confide in me. I also share my own experiences, and our relationship has grown closer.
One day, Mr. Zhang suddenly said to me, "Wife, I want to take you to see my mother." ”
I readily agreed. Mr. Zhang's mother is a very beautiful old man, and she hugged me warmly: "Girl, thank you for making my son better and better. I can see that you are on good terms, and I am relieved. ”
Mom, you've won the prize. I would also like to thank my husband for the changes he has made during this time, and he has made me experience the happiness of being a wife. ”
The three of us had a warm lunch. I could feel that the stone in Mr. Zhang's heart had fallen to the ground, and the recognition of his family was very important to him.
I am also extremely relieved to see Mr. Zhang gradually open his heart. Maybe marriage is like this, after running-in, you can cultivate sincere feelings.
Now we're getting better. Although there are still occasional skirmishes, they are far less tense than they used to be. Because I know that Mr. Zhang's heart is also soft and fragile.
Thank you for giving life the opportunity to start over. I believe that the future will be better and that we will cherish each other more than ever.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, Mr. Zhang and I have gone through 5 years of married life.
Nowadays, we have blurred the boundaries of age and become friends and confidants. We would go for walks, watch movies, try out new restaurants, and enjoy each other's company.
Occasionally, I still think of the heated arguments we had when we first got married. At that time, I was almost breaking down, and the weight of life was overwhelming me.
Husband, do you remember when we first got married?We quarreled so much in those days. ”
I remember that I had a really bad temper at the time. It must have been a painful time for you, right?Mr. Zhang said guiltily.
In fact, you can't be blamed entirely, maybe our age gap is too big, and there is a gap in understanding. Thankfully, in the end, you changed yourself and gave us a chance. "I comforted him.
I really appreciate that you didn't choose to divorce, but insisted on giving me a chance to make amends. Now that we can live like friends, it is the happiest thing in my life. Mr. Zhang's eyes were filled with emotion.
Hehe, don't be so sensual, we can't just say a few words between us. The important thing is to feel a state of mind of peace and contentment. I laughed and punched him.
Now that life is on the right track, we will discuss life plans together. Mr. Zhang no longer forced me to do housework, but took the initiative to share housework such as laundry and cooking.
Wife, let's go shopping at the supermarket together, and then I'll make a delicious meal to celebrate!Mr. Zhang happily proposed.
Okay, I'm looking forward to your craft!”
Recently, Mr. Zhang has been learning to cook a variety of new dishes, and the results have been remarkable. Tasting the delicious food he made with his own hands is the greatest happiness in my daily life.
Looking at Mr. Zhang's happy smile, I felt extremely relieved and satisfied. I'm no longer worried about the age difference. Love is like pure water, which can wash away all the dust in our hearts and leave a pure glow.
Thank God for giving us the fate to meet. I believe that through the precipitation of time, our marriage road will be smoother and more joyful in the future. As long as we don't forget our original intention and cherish the present, happiness is all around us.
When Mr. Zhang and I are both middle-aged and our hair is graying, we will talk about life in our spare time.
Man, the most precious thing in life is time. We are all no longer young and cherish every moment we have now. Mr. Zhang said to me earnestly.
I nodded and squeezed his hand: "You're right. We've passed half of our lives, and the few moments we have left are even more precious. ”
Then let's plan the second half of our lives!Mr. Zhang was in high spirits.
So, we set a lot of small goals. For example, practice drawing together, learn a musical instrument, read historical masterpieces, and so on.
At first, I was always not good at learning to draw, so Mr. Zhang patiently guided me. Although my paintings are very immature, Mr. Zhang always compliments me on my amazing talent, which makes me very happy.
At one point, we planned to hike a mountain together. I couldn't walk halfway because my knees weren't good. Mr. Zhang carried me on his back without hesitation and carried me all the way to the top of the mountain.
Wife, as long as you're happy. I will always support you and go through all the ups and downs of life with you. Mr. Zhang said shyly.
I was moved to tears. Over the years, Mr. Zhang's changes are the thing I am most proud of.
We also have two kittens together. They are lively and cute, which adds a lot of fun to us. We feed the cats together on the balcony and watch them eat happily and feel very satisfied.
We are like a family. Once, Mr. Zhang said suddenly.
I nodded approvingly. Indeed, we have lived a life like glue.
Life should be like this, even if you have experienced storms, you must keep a kind and satisfied heart. Be grateful for what we have so that we can live happily.
I am very glad that God let me meet Mr. Zhang. Although we didn't get off to a good start, we finally got to where we are today, and I never complain again.
In the days to come, I look forward to welcoming every tomorrow of life with Mr. Zhang. Whether it is wind and rain or sunshine, we will walk hand in hand and shine with love.
As Mr. Zhang and I entered our twilight years, we no longer liked to go out and wander the world as much as we did when we were younger. Instead, we cherish every moment at home more.
Our two kittens are also old, and they spend their days lazily nestling on the cushions on the balcony to bask in the sun.
We're all old, but we feel so happy. Looking at the cat, Mr. Zhang sighed.
Yes, although youth is good, it is also satisfying to grow old together. I replied with a smile.
We will plant some flowers and trees together in the yard. Although the movements are no longer agile, we enjoy it.
Come, wife, let's transplant this little tree together. Mr. Zhang said.
Okay, we'll have to be careful not to hurt our waists!”
As the sun sets, we sit on benches and reminisce together.
Remember when we first met?Your fierce look scares me. I laughed at him.
Hehe, I'm too impulsive. It's a good thing you didn't give up on me, otherwise we would have missed out on the happiness we have now. Mr. Zhang laughed too.
I was young and vigorous at that time, and now I think about it as a good memory. ”
During the conversation, Mr. Zhang's mobile phone suddenly rang. It was our son who called***
Son, mom and dad are thinking about you!”
Mom and Dad, I'm going to be a dad next month!Come and meet the baby!The son said excitedly.
Okay, we'll definitely come. As grandparents, we can't wait!”
Thinking that a new life is coming, we suddenly feel that life is very beautiful.
Together, we welcomed my son's new life and watched him grow. Mr. Zhang loved his grandson so much that his eyes were full of joy.
Wife, we are really grateful that we have passed all the important points in our lives. Mr. Zhang sighed.
I nodded and took his hand: "That's right, I am already satisfied with your life by my side." ”
Although the beginning of Mr. Zhang and I was not smooth, we have gained sincere feelings after experiencing the run-in. When we are old, there will be no more past sorrows, only this love is enough to warm us for the rest of our lives.
I am sincerely grateful for every wonderful fate in my life. May the world be long, and we will complete this journey together.