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The family environment is crucial to a child's development, especially the atmosphere of the family, and the influence on a person can be carried over the course of life.
Among all family members, the role of the mother is irreplaceable, and her speech and behavior are directly related to the child's future development and choice of direction.
We all want our children to have a smooth and happy life, but we never think about what kind of signal our words and deeds will send.
Especially when the mother has the following three Xi, it will leave a great negative impact on the children, causing them to grow up without a big interest, don't believe it.
01: Always count down Dad
For a child, the two most important people when they first come to this world are their father and mother.
Although they have different priorities and roles in their responsibilities to their children, they all affect their development.
In some families, the mother turns the unsatisfactory life, the difficult guidance of the child, and the husband's lack of interest into an emotional catharsis, and constantly outputs it to the husband, resulting in the child receiving the message that the mother often counts down the father and complains about his shortcomings and defects.
Maybe the mother is just telling the truth, but for the child, it is a major blow.
Because, no child does not want their parents to live in harmony, and the mutual accusations of two couples will make children feel that the home is like a battlefield without gunsmoke, and there is no happiness at all.
As they grow up, they unconsciously learn from their parents Xi and imitate.
If the mother always counts down the father, the child will do the same and may treat his partner in the same way in the future.
What's more, they will fear marriage, because they don't know what happiness looks like, and what they feel from childhood to adulthood is their mother's resentment and father's lamentation.
02: Always complaining about fate
Childhood children will not understand the fatigue of adults, and even if they do, it is difficult to empathize.
When the mother complained about the injustice of fate, what they saw was the mother complaining and living according to the rules.
If the whole family is full of negativity and pessimism about life, then this oppressive atmosphere can lead to children who are also unable to live actively, rejecting efforts and fearing setbacks.
We all know that even if a person tries his best, he may not be able to achieve anything, but life is toss, and if you don't toss, you don't even have the slightest possibility of turning over.
If you want your child to live a positive life, please stop complaining about fate and use your own hard work to set the most positive example for your child.
In this way, not only will their mentality suddenly be cleared, but the children will also regain their enthusiasm and confidence in life, so that they can be brave and determined in the face of wind and rain.
03: Always a word
Many women become strong and angular after being tempered by life.
Because they have achieved something small or are forced to support the whole family, they cannot enjoy life in a happy way, but need to compress and compress their time and work hard to make their children achieve a standard of living similar to that of children in other families.
Therefore, they gave up the softness that originally belonged to women and became what people call "strong women".
Such a mother is usually the kind of mother who "speaks the truth", and her opinions and decisions are beyond doubt.
This personality leads her to also show a strong desire to control in front of her children, demanding that they do what they want.
This kind of inertia will make children grow up without initiative and creativity, and end up just mediocre.
It is important to know that children need to be treated with respect and freedom as they grow up.
If the mother always speaks, the child will lose the desire to express his opinion and gradually lose the ability to make decisions.
Then, when these children grow up, they will not take the initiative in their careers and families, and they will always seek perfection.
As mothers, we should be the guide and companion of our children, not the hindrance and stumbling block to their healthy growth.
Children have their own sky, we give them the courage to spread their wings and return after fatigue, and watch their soaring, is the greatest love and prospect for them!
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