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As we all know, China's current aging population is already very deep. Some people even made the ratio of labor and the elderly based on the data and information given by the official website of the country. At the moment, the ratio is about one to three.
In other words, at present, one of my country's labor force is burdened with the pressure and status quo of raising three elderly people. This situation is only likely to get worse in the future, as the group of older people expands further;Conversely, the labor force is shrinking further.
This is not the most important data, the most shocking data is the number of newborns born in China in the first half of this year. According to relevant data, the number of newborns in China is less than 10 million. Even if it is estimated with 2x the data,
The number of newborn births in China is only 10 million. This already shows that the phenomenon of population fault in China has begun to show signs. Under the premise that the number of elderly people is increasing, and the number of newborns and the labor force is getting smaller and smaller
The pressure on the entire pension system will undoubtedly increase. At that time, the issue of old-age care may become the main prominent problem in our society. Therefore, the friends who have entered the stage of pension are relatively lucky. Take a sixty-year-old manIf you are 60 years old and you still have a pension, it will be more comfortable, and the reverse is more dangerous, because not having a pension means reaching out to your children. Although this hand is not tight, it exposes three problems.
I'm sure many of you have heard some real-life cases: many children can't reach an agreement, so their parents are like a ball, kicking around. At this time, the old man lost his ability to take care of himself and independence, and he was also in a state of daring to be angry and not speaking out. So I had to let my children kick everywhere. In this way, the situation and phenomenon created are that the elderly often live in one child's house for less than a year or two before going to live in another child's house. Of course, some people are more trouble-free.
Parents are sent directly to local nursing homes, retirement apartments or nursing homes, and the elderly live together in a group in the form of regular payment of money. It is also beautifully said: so many old people have a companion together, and their lives are more satisfactory.
But the facts and truth are not so simple, the reason is that the expenditure of this pension fee will also cause the major children to fight each other. Some daughters will say that they are married, and they have not received their parents' property, so they can come and see it during the New Year's holidays.
I have no obligation to contribute money for retirement. Some sons will say that they don't get much and don't get much love when they are young. If you want to make yourself dig out your heart and lungs after starting a family, it's impossible. Therefore, this is the general end of not having the ability to live independently.
If you are over 60 years old and have no pension or pension, you will be considered a dry eater. Some elderly people who live in the homes of their children who have already started a family may feel this well. Although the daughter-in-law didn't say it, her intention was obvious.
That is, the occupancy of the elderly has brought her a lot of inconvenience to do housework. Moreover, the medical expenses and insurance expenses of the elderly have also become.
the necessary expenditure items for the family. In this situation of occupying other people's territory and spending other people's money, the mentality of some elderly people will change significantly. That is, it was easy to raise a child, but now I feel that I am overwhelmed by being raised by a child. This is actually universal, especially for some old people who like to work on various things when they are young.
Over time, live and be careful not to provoke anyone;If you don't live, you may not have a place to go. You may also not see your grandchildren on a regular basis. If you have a pension and retirement fund that pays well, the atmosphere is much better.
At least let the children feel that they still have value and oil and water to scrape. Then you will be more dedicated to the elderly. Although this situation may be a very rare case, it is definitely not to be ignored and underestimated.
Without money, there is no stable relationship of support. This logical derivation is undoubtedly very correct and reasonable. Because people who have deeply experienced it will understand: in an atmosphere where everything looks at money, any ethics is papery. As soon as the wind blew, it dispersed.
Or to put it another way, the main and core content of a family is actually the specific distribution of money. If you don't have the money, then you are not eligible to participate in the specific distribution. It's like a parent who earns money to support the family will discuss everything on their own.
People who are making money and contributing will naturally sit on the throne. Those who do not have the ability to make money or have not yet made money, such as the elderly and children, do not have much right to dominate and choose. Therefore, from this point of view, the degree of marginalization.
will become more and more obvious. Over time, the lives of the elderly will become more and more casual. There may also be a conceptual reality: that is, the elderly will be very unaccustomed to being the head of the family after they are no longer the head of the family, and even if their children are married, they are still used to pointing fingers.
However, if the old people who have no money point fingers, it will undoubtedly exacerbate the outbreak of contradictions within the family. Therefore, we can see that the elderly in European and American countries are self-reliant and live alone, and do not live with their children.
Only in this way can we motivate and avoid the emergence of contradictions and conflicts. On the other hand, the protection and tilt of the pension group should not be too small. This is a practical need and the best way to make the elderly live happily.
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