On Zhihu, someone asked: "In a relationship, at what moment do you feel wronged?"”
The answer is thought-provoking: "It's not that I was bullied by outsiders, nor was I reprimanded by my boss, but I made a mistake, and I blamed myself for being sad, but my lover not only did not feel relieved, but also blamed endlessly." ”
In life, we can always be strong to survive the suffering and silently heal the wounds in our hearts.
But if your efforts are exchanged for the reproach of the other party, you will definitely feel particularly aggrieved.
We've all done bad things with good intentions, and if a loved one can give us a hug, our hearts will be comforted.
Because "The Weakness of Human Nature" tells us: "Criticizing and blaming others is meaningless, it only increases people's psychological defense, and the person being criticized will also defend his own mistakes." ”
In relationships, love is more important than reason. Even if the other person makes a mistake, blindly blaming will only increase the other person's dissatisfaction and guard.
Instead, we should face problems together and give each other more tolerance and understanding.
As a good lover, we should avoid blaming the other person, especially when the other person is in a bad mood.
We should learn to save the best patience and temper for those closest to us, giving them praise and encouragement.
Because tolerance and understanding not only forgive oneself, but also treat oneself well.
For the rest of our lives, may we have more praise and understanding for our loved ones, and less blame and criticism.