Feng Zikai said: "Don't mess with your heart, don't be trapped in love;."Don't be afraid of the future, don't think of the past. ”
When people reach a certain age, they are easily disturbed by mistakes, have uncertain worries, and feel like a boat on a page in the sea.
In fact, Buddhism teaches that the state of mind can change according to the heart, and if we can be at peace in our hearts and have a calm attitude towards everything, our life will be calm and stable.
In life, there is no hurdle that cannot be crossed, and there is no river that cannot be crossed. Only the attitude of being overwhelmed by everything.
If you want to become free and easy on the road of ups and downs, you must have the following three mentalities.
Not afraid of the past
If you are too entangled in the past, it is easy for people to lose their direction in life, and if they enter a pathological state, they will ruin their life. However, people are sometimes obsessed with finding a standard answer to their behavior. But in everything in the world, who is the master of ups and downs, there is a standard answer.
Especially the feelings, divided and combined, grievances and grievances, constantly chopped, and chaotic.
Xu Meijing, a generation of singer diva, once had two boyfriends, Chen Jiaming and Yuan Yaofa. Chen Jiaming is Xu Meijing's agent, and Yuan Yaofa is Xu Meijing's boyfriend who returned to Taiwan after breaking up with Chen Jiaming.
But it's a pity that the two boyfriends Xu Meijing knows are scumbags. Her life also fell into the abyss of no return.
Chen Jiaming is a married man, and his lover is the editor-in-chief of a magazine in Singapore, but he still maintains an ambiguous relationship with Xu Meijing, and after being with Xu Meijing, he fell in love with Xu Meijing's assistant.
Xu Meijing returned to Taiwan in a fit of anger, and in Taiwan she met Yuan Yaofa, Yuan Yaofa had a bad temper and often beat Xu Meijing when her career was declining, when Xu Meijing was two months pregnant.
Xu Meijing is torn between two scumbag boyfriends for love. They loved Xu Meijing, but they also deeply hurt Xu Meijing.
In 2006, Xu Meijing went crazy, she actually ran to a strange room in the hotel and asked the guests to kneel for herself. The family sent Xu Meijing to a psychiatric hospital and took away all her property. Later, someone once saw Xu Meijing wandering the streets of Singapore, making a living by singing.
A generation of music superstars has fallen because of the love brain and incorrect view of love. What can leave us is empathy, and it is a profound lesson.
The world is impermanent, as long as the world is happy, how can there be so many feelings**, only envy the mandarin duck and not the immortal.
When people reach middle age, they must read all the sails, they must turn the page in time, don't be nostalgic for their past, they should be relieved, you can't carry the past forward, it's too tired.
Venerable Hongyi once said, "Only when you learn to let go of your mind can your life start again." ”
Don't be nostalgic for the past, it will only make us more obsessed. Life is complicated, we should empty ourselves and give up the past, so that we can come out, free up our hearts, and cultivate our future life.
Don't be afraid of the moment
In "Hong Kong Love Story", the father played by Bai Biao reprimands his children loudly every day, and he has no good attitude towards his wife.
Later, he finally paid for his bad temper, his wife divorced him, and his children left home and moved out. My father was left alone. He was very sad.
In fact, the father's nature is not like this, in his heart he loves his wife very much, and he misses his children very much, but he loves in a different way, he does not know how to express his inner feelings, and their relationship is getting worse and worse.
Years later, the eldest daughter spoke her heart to her father, and the father realized that he was wrong. became a man who was willing to do everything for the family. He began to take the initiative to wash dishes, cook rice, and clean.
In the finale, my father went to coax his wife with flowers in his hand, and my wife asked, "Are you willing to spend this money?"He replied, "You like, I owe you so many years, give it to you." ”
Many viewers were moved by the scene of the two of them busy in the kitchen at the end.
In life, how can there be so many cares, if you look at everything away, it is not a matter. If you can get by, you can get by, and turning over old accounts from time to time will not solve any problems, but will only hurt each other's harmony.
Life, seeking but not being able to get is the norm, and it is difficult to be fulfilled is life.
Remove the fog of life, cherish the time in front of you, enjoy the current luck with a normal heart, and turn the bad days into a scenery along the way, and sing and walk.
Not afraid of the future
Singer Coco Li is dead, although a period of time has passed, there will still be people on the Internet**Coco Li's performance before his death**.
This can't help but respond to the sentence "A good person leaves us, we will go to miss;."When a wicked person leaves us, we will hate it. Coco Li is the first Chinese singer to enter the American pop music scene, and she has the glory of the Chinese people.
She married Le Yumin, a wealthy Canadian businessman, although she did not give birth, she was very good to Le Yumin's two daughters, like her own mother, but Le Yumin's two daughters did not have very deep feelings for her.
Coco Li tried her best to do everything, even if her leg was injured because of work, she was also working hard, she said: "As long as she can bring joy to the audience, she is worth it." ”
However, during a rehearsal, when the director was filming a scene, Coco Li didn't resist because of leg pain, and knelt down all of a sudden, and a colleague next to him helped Coco Li, but the director said why did he help her, let her get up by herself.
Coco Lee turned around, bleeding tears of sadness. The strong Coco Li secretly cries even when she is sad.
Coco committed suicide due to depression. She is not wrong, the fault is that she married a foreigner, the fault is that she is too strong.
Depression is largely the fear of the future, which will avoid oneself for the sake of life, and the fear that the future life will not be bearable, so depression occurs.
Let's not worry about the future, because we don't know what the future holds. Maybe your future is magical, or maybe your future is very different from what you think. However, life is uncertain.
No one's life is smooth sailing, and no one's life is full of ups and downs. We have to accept what the future holds.
British Prime Minister Winston Churchill said: "What you have been worrying about will not come true." ”
A lot of people are so worried.
Those who think too much will be tired, and those who are heavy will be bitter. Don't think of bad things to tear yourself out, think more good things, let your life be full of surprises, and you will usher in a better tomorrow.
04, the people ** have a night reading insight: when people reach a certain age, they fight for four abilities. One of these abilities is the ability to turn the page.
The days are complicated, life is disrupted, and if you cling to the past, you will lose yourself;Worrying about the present moment will exhaust oneself;Fear of the future will lose oneself.
The past is a foregone conclusion, and we cannot change it;The future has not yet appeared, and we cannot predict it. Only by being a person who can turn the page in time in life will he hold the present and win the future with a smile.
From now on, let the heart return to zero and be a transparent person.
*Originated from the Internet invasion and deletion.