Xiao Zhang and his wife relied on the demolition of the village to get a brand new house and a compensation of more than 100,000 yuan. Xiao Zhang is a famous ruffian in the village, and he usually likes to gamble in the mahjong parlor at the edge of the village with three or five friends. After having this money, he completely emptied his pockets, indulged in gambling all day long, and borrowed loan sharks to pay off his debts when he lost. 
At first, Xiao Zhang's wife advised him to be modest, not to lose all his hard-won money into the gambling house, and Xiao Zhang would perfunctory a few words to her. Later, Xiao Zhang's gambling debts became more and more, and his wife saw that he was untidy and went home with dark circles under his eyes every day, and she was already anxious. Just a few days ago, Xiao Zhang mortgaged the only remaining savings in the family and his wife's jewelry, and settled the huge gambling debts he owed. The wife finally couldn't bear it anymore and yelled at him, asking for a divorce. Only then did Xiao Zhang realize the seriousness of the matter and begged his wife for forgiveness. But it was too late, and his wife insisted on divorcing him, and there was no room for negotiation. Xiao Zhang knew that he was at a loss, so he could only pay off all his debts by selling his new house, and then accept the fact that he was divorced from his wife. 
Now Xiao Zhang is back to the situation of having no home and no money. Every time he thought that if he could quit gambling, he would not lose his wife and family, and he regretted not being at the beginning. Xiao Wang and his girlfriend Xiao Fang have been in love for many years and are ready to enter the palace of marriage at the end of the year. Xiao Wang's parents knew that their son was getting married, and they were happy and anxious. They bought a new house of nearly 100 square meters in their hometown county, and prepared to give it to Xiao Wang as a wedding room after it was renovated. The parents who work as farmers save money to save enough for a down payment on the house. 
Yesterday, Xiao Wang took Xiao Fang to see a second-hand house he liked, and Xiao Fang signed to buy it when he saw it. The house is nearly 180 square meters, and the asking price is very expensive, and Xiao Wang's parents can't afford it at all. Xiao Wang mentioned that his hometown was waiting for their new house, and hoped that Xiao Fang could live for a while. Unexpectedly, Xiaofang had a tough attitude, she bluntly said that she couldn't look down on the broken house in that small county, and she had to buy a house in a big city to accept it. She ordered Xiao Wang to call his parents over the next day and tell them about it in person. Xiao Wang was very embarrassed, he knew that the elderly parents would definitely be heartbroken, but he didn't want to quarrel with Xiao Fang. I can only do it the next day and communicate this embarrassing matter with my parents. 
After hearing Xiaofang's request, the parents were silent for a long time. They looked at Xiao Wang, their faces full of helplessness and sadness. It's not Xiao Wang's fault, they just ignore the change in the minds of girls in this era. In recent years, there have been more and more young people working outside our village. They went to the city factory to do odd jobs, and it was not easy to earn two or three thousand yuan a month, and then they were separated from their wives and children for a long time. My fellow pony is a typical example of this. He has been working in a neighboring big city for 5 years, and he only goes home to see his wife and children during the New Year's Festival. The pony has strong bones and can endure hardships, and the boss looks at him more pleasing to the eye, and it is not easy to fire him. But the long-term separation has caused the relationship between him and his wife to drift apart. The pony can't stand the wind and snow over there, and lives with a female factory worker. The wife and the children can only go back to their parents' house, and they want to divorce the pony. 
I talked to the pony a few times and told him not to be fooled by the world of flowers. His wife and children are his home. Pony knows it's wrong, but he's been living with the factory worker for a long time, and it's hard to break up. Now the pony is in a dilemma, the child is still young, and the wife can't help much. I still feel sad when I think about it. Nowadays, the problem of singles in our village is still quite serious, mainly because of economic reasons. Many young people in rural areas are poor and white, and girls' families feel that they are willing to accept it, which leads to them not being able to find wives. I learned from my investigation that less than 30 percent of the unmarried men in our village have the financial strength to get married, and the remaining 70 percent are too poor to start a family. Some of them went to work in other places, but their income was not high and they could not save much money. 
I believe that to solve the problem of singles, we must first improve the overall economic strength of rural areas, so that more young people can have jobs and incomes on the spot. The second is to change the concept, not to judge a person by material conditions such as houses and savings, but to pay more attention to feelings, responsibilities and connotations. Of course, the remaining singles also have to work hard in life to improve themselves. Don't lose confidence because you are temporarily poor, let yourself be an excellent person, and believe that you will eventually find a confidant. I believe that as long as we work together, the singleton problem will one day be solved. Through these typical cases, I can't help but feel the various predicaments and sufferings in the rural areas. Xiao Zhang's parents are typical working people, and Xiaoma and other migrant workers are just to fill their stomachs. 
None of them are easy. In the past, maybe I would have scolded them if they were strong-blooded. But now I understand that the root of many rural problems lies in the economy, and if the economy is solved, other problems will be solved. Therefore, I believe that in order to develop the rural economy, we can encourage more foreign or local capital to enter the construction of factories and enterprises, so as to truly achieve both employment and people's livelihood. Of course, we should also attach great importance to agricultural science and technology and infrastructure construction. In addition, there is a need to strengthen rural culture and morality. Through publicity and guidance, let the vast number of farmers establish a correct value orientation, improve moral quality and the concept of the rule of law. This is also very important for bringing the rural atmosphere under control. In short, the two-pronged approach of economic development and ideology and morality is the fundamental way to solve the predicament in the rural areas and make the vast number of peasants truly prosperous. This will also be the key to getting rid of the "three soul traps".