Hello book friends, welcome to continue to be a guest in the reading circle of little scholars, today we will continue to talk about this book, reverse business, today we will talk about it, stop catastrophizing, what does it mean, that is, everyone will often catastrophize the expression, such as thinking that there is going to be a financial crisis, a catastrophe, a war, and some people make catastrophic statements about their setbacks, such as not being admitted to a good university, thinking that this life is over. The author also thought so at the time, during the high school entrance examination, physical education was taken first, the performance was abnormal, and he accidentally lost a point in the shot put event, you must know that in that era, the physical education test accounted for 30 points, and almost 80-90% of people would get full marks. I was determined to focus on the exam, but I lost points in such a trivial matter, and I felt that the sky was about to fall, and this difference of one point means that thousands of people are in front of you. But now that I look back and think about it, was it a disaster?In fact, it's useless, there is that point, and now it should be what it should be.
Some people react too strongly to things and always think of it as a harbinger of disaster, which is a sign of low contrarian quotient, especially in the investment market. Some people spend their days worrying about whether a financial crisis is coming, or whether an asset will collapse. This catastrophic thinking can lead to extreme negativity, and they may even question why they are still accumulating wealth and why they are continuing to work. This mood spreads to all aspects of life, making people feel that the end of the world is coming, so they are depressed and lack confidence in the future.
To avoid this from happening, there are a few things we can do. First of all, we need to stop the spread of emotions in time. In this case, we can give ourselves a strong stimulus, such as pinching ourselves hard, so that the spread of pessimism can be stopped immediately. In addition, we can also reduce our emotional burden by sending a signal to start rational thinking, or distracting ourselves to look at the details of a pen, or to watch a movie, play a game, etc. In addition, we can also look at those majestic places, such as standing on the top of mountains, building tops, or looking at the sea, blue sky, etc., which can make us feel small and relieve pessimism. Finally, we can go to someone who is more miserable, such as a hospital or a welfare facility, which can help us better understand the meaning of life.
In short, we must stop the spread of pessimism and return to a normal state of mind, and then we can analyze problems with an objective and rational attitude, instead of blindly complaining.
Next, we need to apply the lead rule, listen to the adversity first, understand the details of the problem, analyze who is responsible, and how much we have lost. Finally, use rational thinking to analyze the root cause of the problem and find a way to solve the problem. In this way, we can come out of negativity and embrace a better future. Have you ever experienced a setback and felt powerless?In the face of loss, have you ever wondered if there is something you can do to alleviate your pain?
First, we need to acknowledge that, no matter how desperate, there is always something we can try. We need to think about the size of the loss and how much it will affect usCan we grasp the possibility of change?Is it really incompetent?
When you understand these problems, you need to take action as soon as possible to fix the existing situation. Remember, the Lead tool is a universal thinking tool that anyone can use to improve their logical thinking skills without having a special background or skills. You can confidently use it to help your colleagues, friends, loved ones, clients, students, and subordinates. While this may not be a panacea, there is at least a reduction in the likelihood of loss.
For example, if you don't get into your dream university, you can choose to study harder to prepare for graduate school or another better major. Although the first degree is important, you can continue to improve your ability and make up for some deficiencies through learning. Even if the four-year college experience delays a certain amount of time, your life journey still has a long way to go, and there are still many possibilities in your life.
However, there is also an adversity that is inevitable, and that is the responsibility and consequences that you cannot escape. No matter what you do, running away is not the solution to the problem. Therefore, when we face adversity, the best way to cope is to deal with it positively, control our emotions, and try to minimize the possibility of loss.
For example, when you are abused by your leader, you should not choose passive confrontation, but should find a solution and better communicate with the leader to reach a consensus on both sides. If you're always being passive, you risk complicating the problem and eventually losing your job or even being blacklisted by the industry. On the contrary, if you respond positively, work hard, and maintain good communication, then you may end up with better performance and even more opportunities.
In short, no matter how many difficulties we face, we should maintain a positive attitude and try our best to solve problems and mitigate losses. We may not be able to change our fate, but we can control our emotions and make the right decisions to create a better future for ourselves and those around us. "Ignorance is never advisable in the face of adversity, and this is an important manifestation of reverse business. This is the experience of a wise man after going through the storm. Unfortunately, some people tend to choose the most negative way to deal with problems, and this approach will only lead to deeper and deeper losses, even causing irreparable damage.
For example, if we have such a person around us, he will complain that his work environment is not good, his income is not high, and his co-worker relationship is complicated, but he does not realize that these difficulties occur because of his lack of work ability or unreasonable way of dealing with problems. These problems, if they can be improved through reflection and improvement, are likely to be improved and make his work and life better.
So, how to improve the adverse quotient?We can use the lead tool to guide our friends to think more and see if there are any remedies that can reduce the damage. At the same time, be careful not to give overly specific advice, as everyone's experience and situation is different. More importantly, as a leader, we need to create a positive atmosphere in the team, boost the morale of our employees, and give them the confidence and determination to overcome adversity.
For example, we often face the situation of ** and volatility, at this time, we need to strengthen our beliefs, clarify our investment philosophy, understand the market trend and risks, and prepare for long-term investment. Although the probability of adversity in the market is high, it does not mean that we should give up our beliefs and hopes. Instead, we should use adversity to hone our willpower and skills to grow and improve.
In short, the level of adversity quotient has a great impact on a person's achievements on the road of life. Only with a high adversity quotient can we stay calm, analyze problems, and find appropriate solutions in the face of adversity, so as to achieve a win-win situation for both individuals and careers. Therefore, we should continue to improve our level of adversity quotient and make ourselves stronger and more confident in the face of difficulties. In the big tuyere, there are many opportunities to make money, and you need to be extra cautious at this time. As the clever author put it, "adversity is an opportunity to temper people", especially in this time of prosperity that is celebrated by all.
The author uses the example of a district where education is strapped to pay for it, and leads to the head of the school, who is angry and believes that it is the fault of the legislators and his victims. The author skillfully leads him to think, asking him: "Why do you think ** will cut the budget?".He replied that it was due to the short-sightedness of those **s**. The author goes on to ask, "Why are they increasing their funding needs for prisons, road construction, and others?."His answer was: "Because they want to follow the wind for the sake of votes." ”
The author is well aware of this truth, and then continues to guide him to think, asking: "Then why don't people pay attention to education now?".His reply was, "Because of stupidity, they started complaining again." The author doesn't stop there, he continues to guide him to think, asking, "So, why are people so stupid?".His reply was: "Because the public doesn't know what we're doing, they don't think the money was being spent." ”
The school leader was stunned by these words, and he suddenly understood that it was because they were not getting enough publicity to the public. It dawned on him that they needed to tell the public what they were doing and what the importance of education funding was. The authors conclude: "Will this budget cut make it difficult for your school to function, or even regress to the Stone Age?"The school leader began to become rational, and he replied, "No." "However, if the cuts continue to be continued, such problems may arise.
"Okay, that means the disaster of the budget cuts, which is basically something you imagined, and there will be some damage, but it's not that serious," the author told school leaders. The school's leader nodded affirmatively.
The question now is how to deal with this adversity. So, they walked over to a whiteboard and asked the school leaders to write down what they were going to do. On the action list, he clearly wrote down that he should use the limited funds rationally, reduce losses, and should communicate more with the outside world to let everyone know the importance of education.
In such adversity, everyone needs to learn to think flexibly and face challenges with courage in order to turn crises into opportunities. As the saying goes: "Difficulties are like springs, if you are weak, they will be strong;If you are strong, it will be weak. After some thought, the headmaster was no longer as depressed as before. He became more and more aware that the degree of transformation determines the future path, and although adversity is difficult, as long as there is the right direction, the difficulties can be overcome. So, with a grateful heart, the principal looks forward to tomorrow's guidance to lead others to overcome adversity and move towards success together.