How to educate children can be described by Shakespeare's words, "There are a thousand Hamlets for a thousand readers." That is, different parents will have different interpretations due to different life experiences, education levels, hobbies, etc.
That is to say,Different parents play different roles. Some parents love to lose their temper, some parents are good at reasoning, some parents set rules for their children early, and some parents are masters of parent-child communication.
Parents should be supportive of what their children are able to do, follow their children's wishes and give them encouragement. In real life, most parents ask their children's life planning to be arranged by them, and when they see other people's children doing so well, you should learn the same from him. Then even if the child does what you want, he is very unhappy in his heart, and there will be various pressures on the way, which will affect your parent-child relationship. If you let your child follow his or her own wishes and do what he loves and can do, he will feel happy and confident.
More positive encouragement and less sarcasm.
Some children are very arrogant, and even if they say a few more words to him if they do something wrong, it is no problem. When criticizing a shy child, you need to be careful with your words. Try to be encouraging, and don't inadvertently hurt your child's self-esteem with your words.
Usually, don't put a "hat" on your child in front of others, such as "this child is shy", this kind of qualitative words will only have a negative reinforcement effect. After a long time, the child will think that he is a shy child.
Complimenting tone
Every child has strengths and a desire to perform, and discovering and appreciating their strengths will make him more willing to perform.
If a child draws a picture, he may not be very good, but the enthusiasm and seriousness of the child's painting are the greatest advantages.
When a child shows you a painting, you can't deal with it lightly: "Draw averagely, practice well." ”
This will make the child lose enthusiasm and confidence in drawing.
Active listening
When it comes to listening, probably the vast majority of parents think: who doesn't listen?It's just that the child says, I listen, this doesn't need any skills and education!The idea is wrong, listening and active listening are two completely different states: listening, is hearing, which is the physiological function of our human body;Active listening is not only about listening, but also about understanding and letting the other person know that you are listening and understanding.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care, in order to succeed, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't understand, you have to ask others for advice, and learn Xi experience and art of raising flowers.
If parents lack relevant knowledge of children's education, and do not know how to obtain scientific methods, if they are also looking for books to learn Xi, then this set of books to educate children is the best choice.
This set of books is known as a must-read parenting book set for parents.
It includes five hardcover volumes, including: "Positive Discipline", "Don't Roar and Don't Scream to Cultivate Good Children", "A Good Mother is Better Than a Good Teacher", "You Are Your Child's Best Toy", "How to Say Children Will Listen" Five volumes.
In the process of children's growth, there will be many thorny problems, such as rebellion, isolation, sensitivity, school boredom and so on.
I always feel powerless in the face of these parents, but these 5 books are close to life cases to help parents sort out the problems comprehensively and guide their children correctly.
The content of the book focuses on practical operation, does not talk empty words, and combines thousands of real cases to discuss, what parents should do, what children should do, at a glance. After reading it, you can learn a lot of practical methods, and it is a very practical set of family education tools.
While letting children learn to respect and be grateful, parents can also learn how to communicate with their children calmly and truly enter their children's hearts.
Through this set of books, parents can clearly understand what methods and strategies need to be adopted to educate their children.
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