My surname is Sun 40 years old this year, and my wife and I are high school classmates, because I also have an older brother above me, they moved out in the early years, and my parents didn't have the money to buy me a house, so we lived with my parents.
In fact, my wife is a very good person, when she first lived in my house, she was also diligent, but she and my mother have some similar personalities, both are a little strong, these days have been a long time and both of them want to call the shots, and there are conflicts in the family.
Later, the conflict broke out after my son was born, my mother's parenting concept is more traditional, I can understand, but my wife can't understand, they have a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for five days, and I also feel a headache after a long time.
Since I can't get by, I can only think of countermeasures.
I discussed with my parents and let them pay 100,000 yuan, and we also had some savings in our own hands, so we wanted to buy a house, and then my parents-in-law knew about it, and my father-in-law generously gave us 200,000 yuan to support us, and I have always been very grateful in my heart.
Because we moved out decisively, the conflict between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was resolved, because I didn't go home often, every time I went back, my wife and my mother's attitude was much better, of course, I also knew that there were old people on both sides, and sometimes we would go back to my father-in-law's house to see them.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law have always been very good to meMy mother-in-law often said that she had no son, and her son-in-law was a son, and I always remembered these words of hers.
Over the years, I have had a good relationship with my wife, but she has a strong desire to control me, she has to go home after work, and I rarely participate in friends' gatherings, and I don't have a chance to do weekend activities.
A few years ago, I went fishing with my friends, and gradually became obsessed, and my wife later found out that she was very angry, not only threw away my fishing gear, but also quarreled with me, she felt that I should put my mind on the family, in fact, I also knew that we had to raise a son, to pay off the mortgage, and everyone was under a lot of pressure.
But it was because of the pressure that I wanted to relax, and I asked my wife to find some hobbies, but she said that she didn't like anything.
Two years ago, my father-in-law fell ill and left, leaving my mother-in-law alone.
My wife felt sorry for her mother, so she went back on weekends to accompany her mother, and I always wanted to hide and go fishing with my friends, but my wife refused to ask me to pick up the children to take interest classes, so we always quarreled.
My mother-in-law was in poor health for a while, and my wife discussed with me that she wanted to take her to live thereI said yes on the stroke of inspiration.
My mother-in-law moved into my house at my invitation, and at first I was very attentive, not doing anything, and we were the husband and wife.
Maybe because of the physical conditioning, or maybe because of the good mood, my mother-in-law's body recovered quickly, and then she offered to help us with some housework, I thought it would be exercise, so I agreed.
Since then, the children are picked up by my mother-in-law, she helps us buy vegetables during the day, and my wife goes back to cook the vegetables when they are ready, and my mother-in-law refuses to wash the dishes at night, she asks me to accompany the childrenThis kind of warm family atmosphere, my wife smiles sweetly every time I see it.
Unknowingly, my mother-in-law lived in my house for more than a month, and she asked to go home several times because she didn't want to go, but my wife refused.
My mother-in-law was afraid that she would always bother us by living here, but I found out that she was becoming more and more diligentalways said intentionally or unintentionally that she wanted to go back, and I knew that I was testing me, hoping that I, as a son-in-law, would keep her and continue to live.
And my wife, who has the same mind as her mother, is also worried that my mother-in-law will be unhappy if she has been living with us, and I obviously feel that my wife's temper has changed, she used to be very strong, but now her temper has faded, not only is she not angry with me, but she does not object to me when I go fishing on the weekend.
She picks up and drops off her children for interest classes on weekends, and spends the rest of her time enjoying the warm weekends of their three generations of children and grandchildren.
Now my mother-in-law is still living in my house, I get up early to fish, my wife will prepare the food in advance, tell me to pay attention to safety, and then happily run to my mother-in-law's room to ask her what she wants to eat today.
When I go home in the evening, my wife will not ruin my fun, but look at the fish I caught and praise me, of course, I also know in my heart that this is the credit of my mother-in-law in my house, and my wife's mentality has also changed, and at night I take the initiative to wash the dishes and help with housework.
It is said that there is an old man in the family, and there is a treasureIf I had known this, I would have taken my mother-in-law over earlier.
She is not very old, and she can help us do some housework when she comes over, otherwise she is idle at home alone, and she is now here, we can take care of each other, and my wife looks at my mother-in-law's face, and I don't care about everything, and I have my own space on the weekend.
I am a man, I know very much how important my family is to me, and I also remember the help my parents-in-law gave me back then, and I also know that my wife really wants to be filial to her mother, and I hope that my mother-in-law will live in my house for a longer time, and also give me courage, so that everyone will have a very easy life.