As parents, when our children are looking for a partner, we must give our children some reminders in time so that they can avoid detours.
1. Don't blindly pursue appearance, and your conduct must be passable.
When looking for a partner, some young people pay special attention to the appearance of the other party, and ignore the quality of the other party. Regardless of whether the three views of the two are the same, when they see each other beautiful, they see each other handsome and chic, and they fall in love at first sight. If this is the case, even if two people get married in the future, it may not be long-term. To put it mildly, no matter how good a woman looks, the snake's heart will make you regret it for the rest of your life. No matter how graceful a man looks, he has nothing to do all day long, and he is lazy to eat, which will make your life worse than death. Therefore, no matter how good it looks, it can't be eaten as a meal.
I have a female classmate who has a very good family condition, and she has a daughter by her side, who has already started a family. She and her husband are both civil servants, and her husband is also a cadre in the unit. Both are now retired. The pension alone costs about 15,000 a month. My husband is now being rehired by the unit to use his spare time to speculate on ** tickets, and he has two houses in his hands. Once I inadvertently heard from a classmate that her deposit was already 2 million.
Finish. It really made those of us who were not as good as her very envious and jealous of her. It stands to reason that her later life should be very happy.
But there are unforeseen circumstances, and the son-in-law of his classmate has not been very competitive since he is also a person who does not ask for progress. The year before last, because of participating in online gambling, they borrowed more than 1 million, and in order to repay the debt, the young couple also sold their new house. After that, I lived with my classmates and the old couple. However, no one thought that in less than half a year, the son-in-law's ** illness was committed again, and he borrowed 2 million yuan outside to participate in gambling The money was finally repaid by the two classmates.
I think that when I was in college, it was my daughter's son-in-law who chased after me first, but I was fascinated by my son-in-law's empty skin, and I rushed to stick to the man. Because of the woman's good conditions, most of the expenses for marriage are taken by the woman. Before marriage, the son-in-law had a good mouth and coaxed the classmates, and the two of them were confused, and they didn't forget to praise him as a son-in-law, saying that the son-in-law would come to trouble.
However, now, in order to repay the debts of this son-in-law, the old couple has really scattered their family wealth. The savings in hand are hit, and a house is built, which is actually a bottomless pit. Although her classmates still laughed in front of us, in fact, she was bitter in her heart, just slapping her swollen face in front of our classmates and becoming fat, and she knew whether she was bitter or not.
2. The other party's family background and parents' conduct.
In real life, there are many young people looking for a partner, only focusing on whether two people love each other, but ignoring the quality of each other's parents. You must know that the three views of your parents, your character and your state of getting along all determine the life status of your future marriage. If the parents have good character and good upbringing, even if the child has some shortcomings, it will not be much of a problem.
As the older generation says, a family with a good atmosphere will have its children prosperousIn a family with a bad morals, the children will decline. There is truth to these words. Therefore, when choosing a partner, don't pay too much attention to the other person's economic conditions, character is crucial.
I have a neighbor with a son and a daughter. The son got married four years ago, but divorced a year after the marriage. When the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child and was confined, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law went to war. The reason is that the mother-in-law not only does not serve the confinement, but also goes out to play mahjong every day. If you don't have money, you ask your son for it, and after a long time, your daughter-in-law will not be happy. And the mother-in-law's style is not very good, and she hooks up with the men in the mahjong parlor, and her reputation in the neighborhood is relatively poor. Usually, I not only like to take advantage of small advantages, but also like the east and the west are short. Later, the daughter-in-law divorced his son and left with the child.
And last year, her daughter was going to get married, and my neighbor actually opened his mouth and asked for a bride price of 180,000 yuan with his son-in-law. In fact, here in Yantai, the bride price does not exceed 80,000. The son-in-law quit the marriage in a fit of rage. Right now, her daughter is already a thirty-year-old girl, as long as someone introduces her to a partner, as soon as the other party asks about her family situation, the man will retreat. In fact, my neighbor's ex-son-in-law is also right to withdraw from the marriage, if he gets married, I don't know what will happen to this mother-in-law in the future, and it is also a sadness to marry with such a family.
Therefore, far-sighted parents must remind their children not to marry these "two kinds of people".