I texted my boss and got a quick response. From this text message, he seemed to read my "encouragement" to him and began to ask me out frequently. I didn't like him, but there was a force that made me want to get in touch with him.
It's really painful to date someone you don't like, and I have to force a smile in the face of him, and I have to find a way to prevent him from succeeding. I don't want to bury myself in the hands of this man.
Every time I went on a date, although I stuck to the bottom line and only played ambiguously with him, the guilt in my heart became worse and worse, and I clearly knew that I was practicing myself.
I was very uncomfortable, I regretted fighting my dad in this way, and I was depressed every day.
Two months later, I figured it out and decided not to play with fire anymore. But my boss didn't really get me and wouldn't let go. I was so embarrassed that I even had the heart to quit, but I was reluctant to do this job, after all, the income was stable and it wasn't that hard.
Every day, I commuted to work with a heavy mental baggage, and my father saw that I was not in a good state and asked me what was going on. I felt that I couldn't hide it, so I had to tell my father and Pan.
When my father heard this, he was shocked and scolded me for being confused. Seeing me burst into tears, he realized that I couldn't bear his accusations anymore and immediately shut up. After a moment of silence, Dad slowly stepped forward, patted me on the shoulder with two broad palms, and said:Girl, it's nothing, with her father, there's nothing you can't get over. Dad is going with you to see your boss. Dad took a lot of gifts and accompanied me to my boss's house. I was very timid and reserved, and I said whatever my father told me to say. As soon as I entered the door, my dad reminded me:Hurry up and call uncle, let your uncle deepen his impression of you, and take care of you ...... in the futureA hint of embarrassment crossed the boss's face, but he quickly covered it up. Immediately after that, my father asked me to call my boss's wife Auntie.
We sat in the living room, and my dad was really a good communicator, very aura, and had a great sense of control over the scene. Every word he said was to elevate the other party, and at the same time there was another deep meaning, but the other party couldn't find anything wrong. After chatting for a while, my father asked me to accompany my boss's wife to talk for a while, and he and my boss went to another room.
I don't know what my dad said to my boss, and he didn't tell me anything. Anyway, when I went to work after that, my boss was polite to me and didn't harass me again. I secretly admired Dad. After this matter was settled, my father arranged a blind date for me and asked me to marry quickly so as not to cause another incident.
I don't resist anymore, I don't care if he loves it or not, I always listen to my father. This blind date is my current husband. He is handsome, but his work is average, and his family's economic conditions are not good, which is a little worse than the person I was on a blind date before.
Dad said, it's okay, his economic conditions are not good, our family has a house for you, you two go to work to earn some money, just enough to spend, and the future will not be bad.
Although I was reluctant, I thought about the previous blind dates, all of which made meworkNo, I had no choice but to settle for him and choose him.
After getting married, during the two years when I didn't have children, my life was peaceful. But with the birth of the child, there are more and more contradictions between the two of us.
He doesn't want to make progress, he comes home from work every day, waits for me to serve food on the table with Erlang's legs, and leaves after eating. He likes to play cards, drink, and hang out with a bunch of poker friends.
I'm the busiest in my family. Every day I have to go to work, go home to take care of the children, cook, do the laundry, and do all the housework alone. If I let him do the housework, he would look at me contemptuously and squeeze a snort out of his nose:"HmphLook at the childrenDryHousework is originally a woman's business, how can I do that as a big man?
I don't know why, but when he accuses me, I'm always scared, as if some kind of punishment is waiting for me, and I don't dare to refute it like I was afraid of my dad back then.
On hindsight, I felt aggrieved. He didn't pay attention to what he said, why should a woman have to watch the children and do housework?
Although I was aggrieved, I couldn't spit out a word. I often sulk, angry that I am stupid, I don't know how to reason with him, and I am even more angry that I have no opinion, he has the final say in everything at home, he is always right, and the fault is all mine. I can't understand why I have always been at a disadvantage and have been bullied since I was a child!
When I was uncomfortable, I went home and complained to my father, who was very angry and came forward to communicate with my husband. Dad is indeed good at interpersonal communication, but when it comes to family affairs, he will only use the authority of his parents to suppress the other party.
My husband is self-righteous and can't listen to other people's criticism, and when my dad talks about him, he has opinions about my dad. Once, my dad criticized him to his face, saying that he was inconsiderate of me, and he talked back to my dad, so angry that my dad slapped the table. After that, he hated my dad even more, and he didn't bury anything my dad said, nor did he go to my house to visit relatives.
I feel that my temperament is too weak, and I have never been able to be the master of my life, and I am obedient. My husband said that a child was too lonely and wanted to have a second child, although I didn't want to have it, but I agreed. Erbao was born, and he still drank and played cards after work, and he didn't care about family affairs, and my burden was heavier. When my mother-in-law was sick, he also threw the burden on me, and I had to rush to take care of my mother-in-law after I was busy with my two children.
I do so much in the hope that my husband will approve of me, but he is always picky ---The floor is not mopped, I don't know what you do every day?You can't coax the child to cry, what can you do?My mother's food hasn't been delivered yet
The more grievances I accumulated, the more I almost collapsed. I don't understand, the house is mine, my salary is higher than his, I do all the housework, but I am accused by him every day, am I a slave who is inferior to him?
What I can't accept even more is that I found out that he cheated on him and had an unusual relationship with a female card friend. He didn't feel guilty at all, and said that if I couldn't do it, I would go around the pots and pans, and no female card friend would be feminine.
I went home and poured out my pain to my dad, and I said, ".Dad, from childhood to adulthood, you can help me solve any problems I encounter, and now, my marriage is in trouble, I don't know what to do, you help me ......
Dad was old and frail, his temples were gray, he lowered his head and squinted his eyes, opened them weakly, raised his head and looked ahead, shook his head, and sighed.
I know Dad can't help me, but who can help me?
Really emotional solution.
The relationship between a child and his or her parents determines his or her relationship with the world. If his or her parents don't respect him/her, people all over the world will bully him/her;Parents control their children, and children are controlled by those around them, and they are always in a vulnerable position. This is the law of psychology.
Dad is very strong and has a strong desire to control. He loves his daughter and has paved the way for her life, but he doesn't know that his daughter's life is for her to go on by herself after all, and she is the protagonist of her own life. The father's overstepping behavior deprives his daughter of the opportunity to develop her self-independence, resulting in her being cowardly from childhood to adulthood, and she has always been in a passive position of being bullied, even in marriage.
In order to rebel against your father, you did not hesitate to have an affair with your boss, until the relationship was beyond your control, and you had to rely on your father to get rid of the entanglement of your boss. Later, in order to completely break the idea of his boss, he had to choose a person with inferior conditions to get married in a hurry.
The weakness in your bones determines the way you get along with your husband--- the relationship between the dependent and the dependent. It is their respective needs and satisfactions.
When he gains a sense of security, he hopes that his husband will affirm himself more, but he has grasped the initiative in the relationship and will only meet his own needs more and plan for himself.
The crisis of the wife's cheating on the partner is often because of these two points: first, the partner does not have to fulfill the family responsibilities, does not have to pay for the family, and he has too little connection with the family;Second, the initiative is in the hands of the partner, and the wife does not have the initiative, which will make the partner lose the sense of rules.
The relationship between the husband and wife is like a reservoir, both of them store water in it, and give to each other, so that the water in the reservoir will remain full and will not dry up. You are always accommodating and taking care of your husband, but your husband doesn't appreciate it, which means that she is the only one who is storing water in this reservoir, and the whole family is using it. She needs to consume herself all the time, and once the energy is consumed too much, her spiritual world will be difficult to support, and her feelings will slowly be consumed.
In the face of this crisis, women need to change two things: one is to mobilize the enthusiasm of their partners to contribute to the family;The second is to change the mode of getting along, take back part of the initiative in the relationship, and let the partner have scruples.
Under the guidance of Mr. Wang Zhenxi, the couple negotiated several times, so that the husband could see her efforts in the family, as well as her bottom line, and give the other party a certain cooling-off period.