A relative in my hometown. She has been suffering in her marriage for 18 years. Now she is even more unlucky. She was kicked out of her in-law's house, her husband wanted to divorce her, and she also had an illness: breast cancer.
In cognition, breast cancer mostly comes out of anger. Her illness is even more likely.
Regarding where she went, her mother's family was divided into two factions.
The first is to consume him.
The man is unkind and unjust, I don't want to be good if I am not good, he wants to get rid of the oil bottle and find a new love, but he will not give way. Before the divorce, he didn't dare to take the woman home to sleep openly. Nothing else can handle him, this breath must come out.
Sounds quite relieving.
But "consumption" is mutual. The time of the sick seedlings is so precious, dragging the hard-earned money of the sick body to use the disease that is angry, which is a drop in the bucket. I have to continue to dwell on bad people and bad things, endlessly, and even more exhausting. How can this disease be cured?
Mo Yan said: People must have the ability to turn the page, and if they don't give up, they will draw the ground as a prison, and they can't trap others, but they are themselves.
I support the second option: divorce.
Now divorce looks like a loss, like a rag, which is thrown away when the value is used, cheapens the man, and loses himself with blood.
But if an apple is rotten, what's the use of you cursing, and what's the use of holding it in the palm of your hand?You're going to throw it away. You have to earn money to buy new apples to eat, so that they are delicious and healthy.
Like a sister-in-law of Xianglin, she is entangled in her own misfortune every day. Turning over old accounts every once in a while, as if a man can find out with his conscience.
I'm not happy, and you don't want to be happy. It's true that you are not happy, thinking that you have not lived a good life, and if you are unwilling to be treated, you will have internal friction for a while, and you will be mentally tortured. It's also true that people are better. When the children grow up, they don't have to worry about it, they have a job and rent to collect, and they can go out and live happily with women.
Eighty percent of people's misfortunes are to be borne by themselves. When someone brings you misfortune, you can leave him. Don't hang yourself from a tree, don't be obsessed with pain.
Turning pages is a very important ability. Divorce is the best way to cut it off. Cut off the carrion, even if you can't grow new meat, more sun exposure will heal the wound.
Always clinging to the past, lingering on the grievances and injuries that have been suffered, and consuming yourself on people and things that cannot be changed at all, in addition to making you consume from 30 to 40 years old, from 40 to 50 years old, year after year, new hatred and old hatred, superimposed to the heart is full of heavy burdens, how can you not crush the backbone.
There is no point in punishing yourself for past mistakes. Forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, and let it pass, bravely turn the page and go for something more worthwhile.
Accept the fact that I am lost, that I am hurt, that I have no eyes, that I deserve it, that these facts have happened, that no longer bothering to argue whether the facts should have happened, no longer spending time on being angry and complaining about others or myself, and come out of the grief to see if there is a better choice.
People are responsible for their own choices. Every choice has shaped the present day, and you will have to bear the consequences if you choose. Continue to be unfortunate, repeat the past, or let go, the sky is high and vast, starting from zero. There is no winning or losing in the choice, only whether it is worth it or not, and anything that has been experienced is either obtained or learned.
There are no truly happy people in this world, only people who can think openly, you must always believe that all the mountains and rivers are hidden peaks and loops, when you give up certain people and things, God will reward you with a new beginning.
The world is not crowded, and all people can find a place to live.
The Bible says: A joyful heart is a cure for sickness, and a broken heart and a broken heart drain people's energy.
May we be able to carry things, know how to turn the page, have the strength to calm down, and have the ability to look inward.