Trauma is defined in psychiatry as:"An event beyond the experience of ordinary people".
When it comes to psychological trauma, we first think of the need to mentally comfort the victims after encountering large-scale disasters such as wars, floods, and **, so that they can avoid psychological trauma.
But in fact, some ordinary events we encounter in our daily lives can also bring corresponding trauma. For example, long-term neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, or violence.
Actually, whatever makes you generatedExtreme fear, helplessness, powerlessness and a sense of threat of destructioncan all be considered traumatic. And many of us have struggled with our trauma all our lives.
It's coming soonNew Year's DayNow, a new year and a new beginning, we also hope that everyone can work hard in the new year** what they have not been aware of"Trauma",Discover it, recognize it, solve it, and grow into a fun adult with mental health and a sound personality in the new year 2024
Sigmund Freud once said, "A person's traumatic experience, especially in childhood, can have an important impact on a person's life." Tragic childhood experience, no matter how successful and happy you grow up, there will be a hole in your heart, full of doubts, dissatisfaction, and insecurity ......”
When people are in a state of extreme fear, anxiety, and insecurity for a long time, they will change from a life mode to a survival mode to protect themselves
Battle:Irritable, extremely controlling, demanding perfection from oneself and others, and having a certain aggressive behavior;
Escape:He likes to procrastinate, stay away from crowds and avoid socializing, does not easily confide in his emotions, and prefers to escape his inner feelings in an unhealthy way
Hemp:The heart is empty, the meaning of existence cannot be realized, the heart is closed, a healthy intimacy cannot be established in the collective, and joy, happiness and love cannot be experienced;
Please:Pandering to others, lacking personal boundaries, low self-esteem and lack of love, it is easy to form a pleasing personality.
Psychological trauma may be triggeredMood disorders, which cause the individual to be in a persistent negative emotional state, cause severe deficits in the individual's cognitive abilities. In severe cases, persistent post-traumatic stress disorder may occur(PTSD), which seriously affects future life, work and interpersonal interactions.
In addition, the psychological trauma of the individual can also cause serious harm to the physical health of the individual. Past studies have shown that:Psychological trauma is closely related to the onset and progression of many physical diseases.
As early as 1995, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Kaiser Medical conducted a study on "What is the relationship between adverse childhood experiences and health in adulthood?"
Studies have found that children's brains and bodies are still developing, and that the unfortunate energy of childhood not only alters brain structure and function, but also affects the child's developing immune and endocrine systems, and even affects the way our DNA is read and transcribed.
People who have had a lot of bad childhood experiences are not only at greater risk for their physical health, but also more likely to engage in high-risk behaviors such as suicide.
Trauma can come silently and you don't even know it, but here are 9 small signs that when it appears, it means that you have an unhealed wound inside
Rejecting positive change
When something good happens to you, your first reaction is not excitement and rejoicing, but timidly doubting: Is this what I can do?You refuse to accept them, believing yourself unworthy.
Do things according to your own plan
You want everything to go according to plan, to have absolute control over what is happening around you, and you are terrified when things go off the track you expected.
Failure is not acceptable
Failure is normal, everyone experiences failure, but your fear of failure keeps you from starting over and makes you lose the courage to do it all over again. This can make you feel insecure and fall back into self-doubt.
Suppress your desire to succeed
It's not that you don't want to succeed, but you're afraid of it. Because you can't imagine what will happen after you succeed, and you are afraid of what will happen when you get it.
Difficulty concentrating
When faced with a thing, it is difficult for you to concentrate your attention, and there are gaps in your memory, and it is often blank in your memory, and it is difficult to organize and link your thoughts well.
It's hard to open up
It's hard to open up to others, to tell people about your misfortunes and low moods, even if you're familiar with them. You'd rather suffer alone.
Harm yourself and others
You have difficulty controlling your emotions, and even when your emotions are intense, you will hurt yourself, attack others, push others away, do not want to accept help from others, and refuse to be approached by others.
Low self-esteem and depression
You can't evaluate yourself correctly, you can't establish a proper sense of self-worth, and even when you try to evaluate yourself, you end up with negative words, probably because of the trauma you suffered in your childhood.
Unable to enjoy life
You may often feel anxious and panicked, and the people and things around you can neither interest you nor make you happy.
Writer Feng Jicai said: The New Year is a festival of review and making wishes. Let the battalion serve for more than 300 days, reorganize your life, and take care of the life that is a little messy.
In 2023, we may have a lot of regrets and trauma in the future, but it doesn't matter, with the reincarnation of the calendar, we are also about to write a new beginning, 2024, we can use these little things to re**ourselves, and then live proudly and brilliantly:
Write a letter to yourself
In the dead of night, turn on a table lamp, talk to yourself, and write down what you want to do in the new year, what you will do, and what you must do, with good expectations for 2024.
Give yourself a book list
Books are the ladder of human progress, a list of books for personal growth, a list of books for humanities and history, and a list of books for literature ......Organize a book list according to your preferences, broaden your horizons, and organize your thoughts.
Let's do a big cleaning
Sometimes, cleaning up some unnecessary clutter will also make people feel refreshed, what can be used, put away properly, and what can't be used, pack and clean up, just like clearing those unnecessary emotions.
Save some money to travel
People who have been in an environment for too long and are too familiar are prone to becoming "rigid" and "insensitive", and their vitality will slowly disappear, so they need to go out for a walk.
Raise a small pot of plants
The growth of plants is always a surprising process, from germination to flowering to fruiting, even a small growth will touch you.
Be true to yourself
Cry when you want to cry, laugh when you want to laugh, there is no need to suppress your true emotions, because you are who you are.
It has been said, "Man lives a lifetime, through ups and downs;Whether it is pain or happiness, it is all in oneself. ”
We must learn to hold the initiative of happiness firmly in our own hands.
The flowers in spring, the watermelon in midsummer, the evening breeze in early autumn, and the sunshine in winter will all become yours and warm yours.
Let's turn the page in 2023 The past is dark and untraceable, and the road to the future is bright.
Happy New Year's Day!Happy 2024!