How many boys think: chasing a girl is to make her fall in love with you?
In fact, after a girl falls in love with you, there is another step, that is: love.
If you don't make the girl "love", the relationship is not complete, and the two people will often quarrel.
What is "affection"?
The main purpose is to:Let the girl find her true self from this relationship.
Before she has "love" for you, she only has "love" for you in her heart, and "love" is selfish and narrow-minded, which is not the real her, let alone her real love.
When she has only "love" for you in her heart, and you touch her emotional interests, a quarrel will occur.
For example, on her birthday, you buy her a small cake and think that two of them are enough to eat, and it doesn't have to be big and delicate.
However, when the girl sees the cake, she is not happy, and she feels that you don't love her enough.
Why is this so?
Because, the love in her heart is not satisfied.
As we said above, "love" is selfish, on the surface, she loves you and is willing to pay for you, in fact, everything revolves around the purpose of "satisfying the love in her heart".
If she feels in her heart that giving this thing for you can satisfy her "love", then she will pay.
For example, if you like to eat her cooking, then in the process of preparing food for you, the "love" in her heart will be satisfied and she will be willing to give.
On the contrary, when something happens that damages the "love" in her heart, then she will "attack" you and get angry with you.
Such a relationship is definitely not "true love", not the happiness we want to pursue.
When a girl is in an emotional state of "love", it consumes the feelings between two people.
Because, she is in the service of "satisfying the love in her heart", to put it bluntly, it is "selfish", can getting along with a "selfish" person not consume the energy of this relationship?
We chase girls in order to pursue happiness, so the real shortcut is "love".
If you think you are just "in love", then you will continue to consume the feelings of both parties at this stage.
Since "love" is selfish, then "love" is to help girls jump out of the "selfish trap" and find their true selves.
You will find that a person who is always centered on "self-interest" will be in the whirlpool of gains and losses, struggling painfully.
When he is able to jump out of the whirlpool of "self-interest", the true self will appear, just like the sun, shining and shining on those around him.
He will realize his meaning by actively giving to others.
Let the girl's emotional state evolve from "love" to "love", that is:In order to help her live her true self, let her be the "light" that shines on the relationship.
She will find the meaning of this relationship and find her own meaning in this giving.
Let's take the above example to analyze: the girl cooks a meal for you, which is a manifestation of her "love" for you, if you are in the process of eating, showing that you enjoy the food she makes, then it will trigger the "love" in her heart.
When a girl only has "love" in her heart, then "the love in her heart is satisfied" is her meaning.
When a girl has "love" in her heart, then "giving love and warming her lover" is her meaning.
In the process of chasing girls, the two emotional states of girls and the love experience brought to boys are not at the same level.
We said that in the whole process of chasing girls, the emotional state of girls is divided into five stages, which is a process of constantly warming up feelings.
These five stages must be completed, some boys in the state of "love", to determine the relationship between lovers, then, in the process of getting along with lovers, also need to complete the evolution of "love".
That's why I say: when you can completely see through the whole process of chasing girls, you will be able to master the time of pursuit.
You can choose to shorten the time, you can choose to extend the time, and the relationship is confirmed, it is just a ceremony, and it does not mean "end" and "success".
No matter how you choose, you need to go through these five stages before you can truly move towards happiness.
Among them, the last stage of "love" is particularly important, so in my column "99 points of man", I explained to you in detail how it works.
I hope that after learning and Xi, you can lead your beloved girl to the light.
I'm LTECH, interpreting the skills of chasing girls from a high-dimensional perspective, so that your emotional intelligence can crush your peers.