Feng Tang: There are two important issues in life that need to be understood, one is "what is about me" and the other is "what is about you".
Feng Tang, an influential writer in contemporary Chinese literature, writes concisely and profoundly, often revealing unique insights into life and society. The two important questions he asked in life: "What is about me" and "What is about you", which seem simple, but in fact contain a rich philosophy of life. These two issues involve the role of individuals in society, the definition of responsibilities and powers, and self-awareness, which are of far-reaching significance to everyone.
1. "What's the matter with me": self-awareness and responsibility definition.
The question of "what's my business" is, first of all, a challenge to self-awareness. In the journey of life, we will encounter all kinds of things, some things seem to be closely related to us, and some things seem to have nothing to do with us. The real question, however, is how do we tell which things are "my business" and which are notThis requires us to have a clear sense of self, our values, our goals in life, and the scope of our responsibilities.
At the same time, "what does it matter to me" is also a definition of responsibility. In modern society, people tend to fall into the misconception that everything is about them, thus taking on too much responsibility and pressure. However, such an approach often leads to distraction from focusing on what really matters. Therefore, being clear about what is "my business" helps us allocate our time and energy wisely, and we can better take responsibility and pursue our goals.
2. "What's your business": respect for others and the boundaries of power.
In contrast to "what's my business", "what's your business" involves respect for others and the definition of the boundaries of power. In interpersonal interactions, we often encounter some behaviors that cross the line, such as interfering too much in other people's private affairs, forcibly selling our own opinions, etc. These behaviors often stem from disrespect for others and a vague perception of the boundaries of power.
By asking "what's your business?" we can remind ourselves to respect the independence and autonomy of others. Everyone has their own way of life and choices, and we don't have the right to dictate other people's private affairs. At the same time, "what's your business" is also a warning to power, reminding us not to abuse power to interfere in the lives of others.
3. Balance between self and others: find the wisdom of life in "what is about me" and "what is about you".
In these two questions of Feng Tang, we can see that the balance between self and others is an important theme. Many issues in life involve the relationship between the self and others, how to respect others while focusing on the self, and how to take responsibility without interfering with others, which requires us to constantly explore and reflect in practice.
First of all, we need to establish a clear self-awareness, clear about our values and responsibilities. Only in this way will we be able to make informed choices in the face of various complex situations. Second, we need to learn to respect others, understand and accept differences between people. Everyone has their own way of life and choices, and we should respect and understand these differences. Finally, we need to constantly reflect and adjust our behavior in practice. Life is a process of continuous learning and growth, and through reflection and adjustment, we can continue to improve our cognitive and behavioral ways to better handle our relationships with others.
In short, "what's the matter with me" and "what's the matter with you" are Feng Tang's unique expressions of the wisdom of life. By deeply thinking and practicing the philosophy of life contained in these two questions, we can better manage the relationship between ourselves and others, and maintain respect and understanding for others while pursuing personal goals, so as to create a more harmonious and meaningful life. At the same time, it is also a deep reflection on social responsibility and interpersonal relationships, reminding us to pay attention to the overall harmony and progress of society while paying attention to the individual.