After marriage, a woman's pregnancy and childbirth is a very special period, and it is also a test for her husband and in-laws. Women need to be well cared for and cared for during pregnancy and childbirth. However, on November 28, an incident occurred in Henan Province in which a wife did not let her husband go to work for four days after a caesarean section, which sparked widespread discussion. In this incident, the woman was emotional because her husband went to work, and the mother-in-law expressed understanding and even provocation of the woman's dissatisfaction. This conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law shows the collision between traditional in-law concepts and modern marriage values.
For women, pregnancy and childbirth are a special time that requires comprehensive care. The wife needs adequate rest and recovery after the caesarean section, and at the same time needs the company and care of the family. However, in this case, the wife's husband went to work on the fourth day after his wife was discharged from the hospital. He left the care of his wife to his mother-in-law. This made the wife feel sad and angry, and she cried out for it. The woman next to her comforted her and told her to be patient and take care of her body. Everyone understands that pregnancy and childbirth are very difficult times for women and require special care and comfort. However, the wife's mother-in-law does not seem to understand this. She said that her husband is also working hard, and the unit has put a lot of pressure, so can't he rest and take care of his wife at home? The mother-in-law's words made the wife even more excited, and she said emotionally, "Then let me jump off the building, the three of us will jump together!" "This conversation has caused people to think and discuss.
According to the information obtained by the pregnant woman in the same ward, the wife's husband works in the unit and is not stable. Now that they have children, life is more stressful, and the husband is worried about losing his job. Therefore, although the wife had just given birth, the husband took only three days off and hurried back to work. The wife believes that it is not as convenient for her mother-in-law to take care of her as it is for her husband. The mother-in-law is more conservative and not good at words, always saying things that make his wife unhappy. Therefore, the wife was very angry. The two had a heated argument in the hospital room. Netizens have mixed comments on this incident.
Some netizens believe that the husband is too much in pursuit of economic income and ignores the needs of his wife. They believe that at this stage of the wife's birth, the husband should leave his work, accompany his wife, and take care of her physical and mental health. However, some netizens believe that it is precisely because of the increase in family financial pressure that the husband has to go to work in order to maintain the family's daily expenses. They believe that couples should understand each other and deal with this dilemma together.
In this incident, the wife is in the sensitive period of the postpartum period and is prone to losing control of her emotions. The mother-in-law's indifference and provocation make the wife more miserable and may even trigger postpartum depression. This worries me deeply.
Maternal care needs care and emotional value after childbirth, and the mother-in-law apparently does not provide such support, which only exacerbates the emotional distress of the mother. During this period, the mother-in-law should give the mother more understanding and patience, instead of adding to her burden and pain. For mothers, emotional stability is essential for their physical and mental health.
On the one hand, the mother needs to be understood and cared for after giving birth, and her husband is the person she is closest to and should care for her the most. The husband does not care about his wife's needs at this time, which will make his wife's heart feel cold. On the other hand, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also highlights the conflict between the traditional concept of in-law and the modern values of marriage.
However, we cannot ignore the dilemma of reality. In modern society, the pressure of the cost of living has forced many families to rely on the income of two people. It is also understandable if the husband is too worried about the financial support of his job and family. At this time, the husband and wife should communicate and understand and find a solution together. At the same time, the mother-in-law should give more support and understanding to the mother, and not aggravate her stress and pain.
To sum up, the incident of the wife not letting her husband go to work for 4 days after a caesarean section has triggered people's thinking about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the concept of modern marriage. During the process of pregnancy and childbirth, women need the love and support of their husbands and in-laws. However, under the pressure of real-world dilemmas, understanding and communication are also very important. Only through mutual understanding and support can the relationship between husband and wife and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be more harmonious and happy.