In homeschooling, the role of the mother is crucial. A mother with a big picture can not only provide material support for her children, but also give her children spiritual guidance. As a child grows, a mother's behavior and attitudes can have a profound impact on the child. In the book "Mother's Influence", it is written: "A mother's influence on her child is like a never-ending force that will last her child's life. This sentence profoundly reveals the important position of the mother in the growth of the child.
As a mother with a big picture, in the process of educating children, we should follow the principle of "three don't help, three don't say, and three don't get used to". These principles are not trivial rules, but an expression of educational concepts that can help mothers to better develop their children's independence, self-confidence and good habits.
One, three don't help.
1.Don't help with learning: Learning is the child's own business, and the mother should not replace the child to complete the learning task. This will deprive children of learning opportunities and autonomy, leading to children becoming overly dependent on their mothers in learning. Mothers should guide their children to learn actively and develop their children's independent thinking and problem-solving skills. When the child encounters difficulties, the mother can give guidance and encouragement, but do not replace the child to complete the learning task.
2.Don't help your child do things independently: In daily life, mothers should let their children do what they can, such as tidying up the room, doing laundry, etc. In this way, children's self-care skills and sense of responsibility can be cultivated. If the mother always does these things for the child, it will lead to the child's lack of self-care ability and self-confidence, and the dependence on the mother will increase.
3.Things that don't help children make their own decisions: When faced with situations that require a choice, mothers should let their children make their own decisions and bear the consequences of their decisions. This can develop children's judgment and decision-making skills. If the mother always makes decisions for the child, it will lead to the child's lack of independent thinking and autonomy, and will also become dependent on the mother's decision.
Don't talk about two, three.
1.Don't blame your dad: In homeschooling, mutual support and cooperation between couples is crucial. If the mother often complains about the father in front of the child, it will have a negative impact on the child and destroy the harmonious atmosphere of the family. Mothers should try to avoid criticizing or blaming their fathers in front of their children, but should actively maintain family harmony and create a warm and healthy environment for their children to grow up.
2.Don't say words that hit your child: In the process of educating your child, mothers should try to avoid using negative language to undermine their child's self-confidence and positivity. Whether in learning or in life, mothers should give their children full encouragement and support to help them establish correct values and self-confidence.
3.Don't say the words of crying poor: in family life, economic conditions are an unavoidable reality. However, mothers should not constantly cry poor or complain about financial difficulties in front of their children. This will bring unnecessary psychological pressure and financial burden to the child, and affect the child's growth and development. Mothers should be rational about family financial problems and try not to let financial pressure affect their children's growth and education.
Three, three unaccustomed.
1.Not accustomed to no rules: In family education, rules are essential. If a child does not have rules, it can lead to uncontrolled behavior and the formation of bad habits. Mothers should set clear house rules and ask their children to follow them strictly. At the same time, mothers should also lead by example, set a good role model, and guide their children to develop good behavior habits.
2.Not accustomed to being lazy and lazy: In daily life, mothers should encourage their children to actively participate in housework and cultivate their children's hard-working qualities and sense of responsibility. If the child is lazy and lazy, it will lead to a lack of self-care ability and independence. Mothers should guide their children to develop good habits of diligence in the right way.
3.Not accustomed to spilling: In the face of the child's vexatious trouble, the mother should adhere to the principles and bottom line, and do not condone the child's sloppy behavior. In this way, children's self-control and good behavior habits can be cultivated. If the mother is always accommodating to the child's vexatious behavior, the wise mother