This is my personal experience!It happened in 2000, and I remember vividly that it was a summer weekend, and there was just a heavy white rain (Xi'an dialect, meaning that the rain was particularly heavy), and the sky was hung with rainbows. I was chatting with my neighbor at the door pointing to the rainbow, and my cousin came in a hurry.
After entering the house, my wife brought a bowl of water, and my cousin said while drinking the water that he wanted to invest in a sand turning factory, but he was a little tight on hand and wanted to ask me to borrow some money.
I hesitated for a moment and asked him how much money he wanted and how long it would take. My cousin seemed to see my hesitation, and quickly said that the difference was 20,000 yuan, and it would take about a year and a half, but you can rest assured, I can make an IOU and pay interest.
I said, "Brother, that's not what I meant!."As you can see, 90 percent of the people in the village have built buildings, and I still live in a tiled house, and I have exactly 20,000 yuan on hand, and I want to build a new house when the year expires. ”
When my cousin saw me say this, his mouth opened and he wanted to speak, and then asked me about my plan to build a house, and said that he knew a brick seller, and he could buy bricks at a discount ...... then
Actually, I would love to lend my cousin the money, but I can't make a selfish decision. The tiled house at home is in disrepair, and every time it rains heavily, the house is like a water curtain hole, on the kang, on the stove and other places that cannot be drenched in rain, it is necessary to put pots and pans to catch the rain.
I want to build a house as soon as possible to improve the life of my wife and children, if the money is lent to my cousin, he will return it on time, and it is good to say, if I can't return it on time, how can I explain to my wife and children.
After my cousin left, I had a sad face, and I was always wondering whether to lend him money. At noon, when my wife came back from her mother's house, she saw that I seemed to have something on her mind, so she asked why, and after I told her what had happened, I was reprimanded.
Why don't you have a conscience, forget that three years ago, when your foot was broken, and the family was about to open the pot, my brother contributed money and efforts to help us through the crisis. The children go to school, harvest corn in autumn, repair roof leaks, and medical expenses, etc., all of which he helps.
Now that my brother wants to open a factory and start a business, we can't help much, and if we can come to borrow money, there must be no way to come. We can do our best as we can, this is a good opportunity to repay him, how can you disagree?
Hearing what my wife said, I immediately took out the check and said, I'll go and get the money and send it to my brother. I got on my bike and went out to town to pick up the unexpired checks and deliver them to my cousin's house.
The cousin took the money and said gratefully: "Brother, don't worry, I will return the principal and interest as scheduled, so that you, your younger siblings, and your children can build a house as soon as possible." "I waved my hand and said I didn't want interest, as long as I didn't delay building the house.
After the factory opened, I also worked in my cousin's factory, the original sand turning plant was smooth sailing, who knows that people are not as good as the sky, my cousin said that I can pay back the money after the New Year, my wife and I are very happy.
At the end of the following year, the factory was on holiday, everyone was preparing for the New Year's goods, and seeing that the repayment period was approaching, the factory suddenly caught fire, and after the fire, my cousin suffered heavy losses, and the factory also closed down.
He couldn't come up with the money, and I didn't mention paying it back, but just patted him on the shoulder to comfort him, and at the same time offered not to pay him and let him get through the difficulties first.
But the house leak happened to rain overnight, just ten days after this incident, a heavy rain suddenly came, that night the wind was strong, the roof rubble pieces were blown off, the heavy rain outside the house, the home was moderately rainy.
I couldn't afford to wait any longer, the tiled house was already dilapidated, the house was judged to be dangerous, and after my wife and I discussed, we decided to ask my cousin for 5,000 yuan first, plus my salary, to build a bungalow first.
When I went to my cousin's house several times in a row, my cousin-in-law said that he was not there, and when I heard that I was asking for money at that juncture, she turned around and complained, this is a time of crisis, and the younger brother does not know how to help, and he still falls into the ground.
I'm sad too, but I can't help it. I couldn't find my cousin, and I was as anxious as an ant on a hot pot, wondering if he would deliberately avoid me!
In the past half a year, I have never seen my cousin, and I don't even know that he is in **. Just when I had no hope of repaying the money, on the day of the Dragon Boat Festival, my cousin suddenly appeared, took out a bunch of rolled banknotes, with 5,000 yuan, and kept apologizing.
I asked him where he had been in the past six months, but he always shook his head and refused to say, but just told me to build a one-story house as soon as possible, so as not to let my wife and children suffer, and he would find a way to find a way as soon as possible with the remaining money.
When I built the house and moved in, it was already late autumn. We are a family of four, temporarily living on a kang, and we can't even stretch our legs when we sleep in a small place. Winter is fine, summer is a sin, but there is no other way.
It's been another three years, and my cousin hasn't appeared again. As the children grew up, sleeping places became more stretched, and my wife and I worked day and night to save money as soon as possible, but when we looked at our savings, we were still 108,000 miles away from building a new house.
One midsummer day, the temperature exceeded 40, and our family of four slept on the ground to cool off. My cousin suddenly came to the door, and without waiting for him to speak, I immediately said that I wanted money, and he was a little embarrassed to stand up to a stack of bills and said, brother, I'm sorry!You have suffered in the past few years, and this is 15,000 yuan.
Looking at the money in his hand, my tears were about to come out. In those years, if it was false to say that I didn't hate him, but the moment I took the money, I comforted myself that he was not sure that it would be easy, and it would be good to take the initiative to repay the money, after all, they were all brothers, and I didn't blame him anymore.
Maybe it was guilt, or maybe it was a weak heart, my cousin didn't even sit down, and directly said that he was busy, and then turned around and left.
Naturally, I started to build a house when I got the money, but when I bought things the next day, I didn't count them right, and my cousin also paid 15,000 yuan and was 2 pieces short, I asked my wife if she took it, and she couldn't help shaking her head.
At that time, we worked hard to earn 500 yuan a month, and two less sheets were equal to half a month's salary, and we were very unhappy in our hearts, and we had the urge to come to the door to question.
If it is excusable that my cousin owes money and does not pay it back, but the interest promised at the beginning is not paid, and there is still a shortage of catties and two, which makes me a little angry.
My wife comforted me and said, forget it, my brother also helped us before, and it was a practical difficulty not to pay back later, and we can see it. Now being able to consciously repay the money shows that it is honest, and perhaps it is not intentional but a few.
I am not a scheming person, and when I heard my wife's comfort, I didn't pursue it when I got down the stairs, and I began to prepare for the construction of the house, because I was so busy that I forgot about it all in a long time.
For another two years, my cousin made a fortune doing business outside, and when he came back, he wore a suit and leather shoes, a car and a mobile phone, and he was simply a big boss from the city.
And the first thing he did when he came back was to give our family three mobile phones (the youngest son didn't use them in junior high school), and he didn't even have to pay for the phone bill, and called me to the city to help him take care of the business, and his monthly salary was twice as much as in the brick factory.
With my cousin taking care of us, our family's life is changing with each passing day, and we soon rose from the bottom position in the village to the right number, although it is not as good as the village chief and secretary, but it is several times better than ordinary people.
If the story goes on like this, there will be no need to tell it again, and we will live a good life. It is said that there are unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and people have good and bad luck.
In the winter of 2010, when I was taking care of my cousin's business, I suddenly felt dizzy and fell to the ground.
According to the doctor's diagnosis, I suffered from severe cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases, blood vessels were blocked in many places, and I did 9 heart bypass grafts alone, spending hundreds of thousands of yuan in total, all of which were made by my cousin.
The attending doctor said that fortunately, he was sent to the hospital in time, and if he delayed for another half an hour, he was afraid that his life would be in danger.
If I were in the countryside, not to mention the hundreds of thousands of medical expenses, even if I called a car to send me to the hospital, it would be too late, thanks to working for my cousin in the city, and it happened to be not far from the hospital, I only picked up a life.
After I was discharged from the hospital, my cousin and sister-in-law came to see me, I asked my wife to take out the only 90,000 yuan in savings, and said to my cousin that the money had to be repaid slowly, and it was really not possible for the children to continue to pay it back in the future
Back then, you sacrificed the happiness of the whole family and lent me 20,000 yuan, but I didn't pay it back, or even ran away and didn't return, if it weren't for your trust, I'm afraid I would have been dead long ago.
Hearing this, I was a little confused, and I looked at my cousin who didn't know what to do, but he was holding his face with both hands and was already sobbing. The sister-in-law rubbed his shoulders while talking about the situation back then.
It turned out that my cousin lost all his money back then, because he couldn't think of preparing to throw himself into the river, he was sitting on the riverbank at the time, and when I went to look for him, he thought I would ask for money, but I didn't expect that he would only be comforted, and he also took the initiative to say that he didn't want a salary.
He later told his sister-in-law that if I had forced him to pay back the money, he would have jumped down and ended his life afterwards.
Because of my comfort, my cousin regained his strength, and he felt that he could not go, and that he would be sorry for the trust I placed in him if he left like that.
Later, he "disappeared", and actually went to the city to work on the construction site, picking the hardest and most tiring work to do, as long as he was paid more. Half a year later, the boss felt that he was real, and advanced three months' salary, scraped together 5,000 yuan, and immediately took it home for me to build a house.
Although my cousin is not the richest man in the village, he can also be ranked, and when he was young, he was a strong person, and he didn't want outsiders to know that he was on the construction site, and he was afraid of being embarrassed by jokes, so he didn't tell anyone.
After working for a few years to pay off his debts, his tense heart relaxed, and by chance, he learned to do business again.
My cousin-in-law said that I asked for 5,000 yuan when I went to the house that time, and I complained that I had just finished arguing with my cousin, and I arrived when he went out on the front foot, and I didn't control my emotions.
When I asked her why she hadn't said it earlier, she replied that in some cases the explanation was too weak to explain, and that it was better to put it into action than to say more. Maybe she's right, but I'm afraid it's hard to understand the explanation, given the situation back then.
After listening to everything, my cousin and I clasped our hands, and both brothers were full of tears, it turned out that we were all so hard back then, and we were all dying and struggling to live ......
Now that the children have already completed their studies, my wife and I are recuperating in our hometown, but we go to the city once every six months to see our children and grandchildren, and to see my cousin, and I will never forget his kindness.
Every time I mention this to my wife, we all feel guilty, my cousin is definitely an honest and responsible person, when he returned the 15,000 yuan, the missing two was definitely not intentional, fortunately I didn't go to him to theorize, otherwise I don't know how to end.
With my cousin's character, I will definitely compensate me, but I'm afraid I don't feel good in my heart, because in his opinion, I don't give less, of course, maybe I think too much.
My wife often told me that everyone is a scale, banknotes are things to be weighed, emotions are weights, and banknotes and emotions should be symmetrical. Too much money and not enough emotion will braid;There are too few banknotes, too much emotion, and it is difficult to look up.
The relationship between me and my cousin is the best example, he failed to start a business, and the pressure he was carrying, if it wasn't for my comfort, let him release his emotions, he would have gone to the point of no return.
My cousin succeeded in starting a second business, and he had a lot of money, but he didn't forget his old feelings, unlike some people who will show off when they have money.
Over the years, I have never mentioned the matter of missing two dollars, first, I don't think it's necessary, and second, I also realize the true meaning of the phrase "suffering is a blessing".
Many times, we take money too seriously, for money can be husband and wife enmity, father and son break, brother severance, etc., if in the face of relatives and friends (people who know how to repay the kindness), everyone can "give up", I believe that in the end will reap the "gain".
I'm afraid that the ancients said, "there is a gift to gain" is such a simple truth, but how many people really understand?I think everyone has something to measure in their hearts!