My husband suffered a brain stem hemorrhage a week ago and is still in a coma in the ICU, and I have a bad relationship with him and our child has just finished his high school exams. We have been married for more than ten years, and the finances have been separated, and I have not touched a penny of his money. The distribution of our family's expenses is also very clear, he is responsible for water, electricity and gas, I am responsible for the Internet and housework, and he pays for the children's tuition, books and food. Although I often bear the living expenses of the family alone, he never takes the initiative to bear any expenses during weekends and holidays.
Two years ago, he beat me for being drunk, I called the police, and after going to the hospital for a check-up, I didn't want to continue with him. He knelt down and begged me at that time, because I was afraid of losing my public position and the company's knowledge, I promised to forgive him, but he had to sign a divorce agreement, and we could only divorce after the children's college entrance examination.
Now he lives in the ICU and needs a lot of money. My child and I checked his mobile phone account and found that he had lent money to three people. Among them, 80,000 yuan was transferred to his half-brother, but his brother said that he had paid it off. Another former colleague reportedly borrowed 200,000 yuan from him, but I only found 60,000 yuan in WeChat transfer records. There is also a former colleague who, although we told him, has not responded to this day. In addition, her husband also borrowed 60,000 yuan through Alipay, and then raised a total of 150,000 yuan to lend to this person. I didn't know his payment password and didn't have the energy to chase the money. Looking at the list of hospitals every day, I feel very anxious and angry because he spends money so much!
I have been in a chair at the door of the ICU every day for a week, and my condition has made me very anxious. He is 173cm tall but weighs more than 200 pounds, and he was diagnosed with high blood pressure a long time ago, but I reminded him to pay attention, he always quarrels with me. I don't remind him anymore because he has a big temper. As a high school class teacher, he is very busy with his work, he has to get up at five o'clock in the morning to watch the students read in the morning, and it is already eleven o'clock when he comes back from evening self-study, so as long as he has time, he lies in bed and plays with his mobile phone or sleeps, and there is a serious lack of exercise. This time, he became ill on the second day after the end of the city's high school final exams, and the school leaders only gave us 2,000 yuan, which is a somewhat humane school. I hope that all high school homeroom teachers can love themselves and cherish their lives and health.
His parents divorced when he was two years old, and he took his mother's surname and listened to his mother very much. But his mom actually had a bitter face for him. In the blink of an eye, it was the eleventh day of admission to the ICU, and various complications appeared, but there was no sign of him waking up. The lung infection was very serious, and this morning the doctor asked me if I would be in the hospital at the last minute or take my last breath, and I chose to be rescued in the hospital. This is because there are children at home, and it is too inconvenient to handle the aftermath in the commercial house.
However, there is another problem. His biological father and stepfather used to be good friends, and they each had families, but the stepfather and his biological mother were in marriage, which led to a divorce between the two parties. He was just over a year old at the time, and his biological mother seemed to have raised him for fame, telling him that no one wanted him, only her. This led to an extreme lack of security and self-confidence, a lack of awareness of family responsibilities and concepts, and the need to keep all the money in his own hands.
It was only after I got married that I learned about these issues. Therefore, he sometimes does unacceptable things to me and the child, and although I understand him and even think he is pitiful, these behaviors still stress me and the child and gradually alienate me.
For example, when my child went out when he was a child, he asked me to hug him at the same distance and not to hug him for a little longer. When the child was four or five years old, I fried a plate of meat, and the child ate the last piece, but he was furious and reprimanded the child for crying. Actually, we don't owe that piece of meat, he's just very self-conscious and protective.
However, he listened to his mother very much. I used to want to buy another house when house prices weren't going up. In the zero years, there were only more than two thousand local houses. But he disagreed. Later, in our city, near Workers' Road, there was a house with 400,100 square meters of fine decoration, but he still disagreed. In short, all the opportunities to buy a house were missed in our quarrels.
Since he listened to his mother, he had little contact with his biological father's side, but was close to his stepfather's family. The stepfather was involved in all his affairs. Now, he is probably leaving this world, and his stepfather does not want him to be buried in this grave, so I asked his biological father (who lives in the same building as us and has two sons) to help, but a few days have passed and nothing has been heard from him.
His half-brother came today and told me to reassure me that if I didn't work, I would buy the cemetery, but I said that I couldn't stay with his family for so many years, and I didn't even have a piece of land when I died.
I'm doing my best to save him now, and if something mishaps happen, I'll help him deal with the aftermath. He was a good friend and colleague on the outside, but he didn't contribute much to his family. I saved him more because I took pity on him, and even though we had been married for more than ten years, I had grown disgusted with him. If he wakes up and gets better, I will definitely divorce him. We've signed a divorce agreement and I really don't want to live with him anymore.
At seven o'clock in the evening one day, his breathing and heartbeat stopped, and at that time I was almost stupid, and the doctor immediately carried out a five-minute rescue, and now it is temporarily stable, but the doctor said that there is still danger.
His situation is getting worse and worse, except for the money lent out, he has not paid back, and he does not know the password of the two ** ticket accounts and a bank card, but WeChat, Alipay and other bank cards have been processed. At the moment, it is all his own money.
His stepfather's family really didn't want him to enter the ancestral grave, but wanted to bury him in the cemetery first, and then move the grave after his stepfather's own mother died. I don't want to spend a penny on this. Under his mother's teaching, he mixed with the people of the X family all day long, and when the eldest aunt of the X family died, we kept the spirit for a few days, and he also had to participate in the red and white ceremonies of the X family. Now the ancestors of the X family don't want to accept him, it's really ironic, no matter how I analyzed him, he didn't believe it.
Today the doctor told me that he is now almost brain dead, and the doctor privately asked me if I would like to donate his organs so that it could help with medical bills and so on. But I didn't agree. Although this man is lazy, selfish, and has no sense of family responsibility, we have become strangers over the years, and we can not speak even in a three-bedroom and two-room place, but he is very timid and afraid of pain.
Although he won't be conscious by then, I don't want him to be stabbed a few more times. I've been sitting in the door of the intensive care unit for a day now, and I feel sad to write these words, and although we are already familiar strangers, looking at each other with disgust, I never imagined that he would leave this world so soon.