When it comes to the Bai family, perhaps what comes to mind is Bai Mengtang, the head of the family;Uncle Yingyuan, who was framed;The honest and honest Bai Yingxuan's second master;or the cunning Yingyu Sanye all his life;Of course, there is also Bai Jingqi, who has experienced from a gentleman to a century-old pharmacy owner.
The story of the Bai family's aunt and grandmother is equally amazing, as wonderful as the story of the Bai family's masters.
In the Bai family, the bad atmosphere of preference for sons over daughters has been eliminated, and every girl of the Bai family has been cherished by the family, whether in the boudoir or already married, the Bai family has always been their strong backing, guarding behind them.
The Bai family has been passed down for four generations, including four girls. Although they live in a wealthy family and enjoy superior material conditions since childhood, they end up in completely different directions. Today, we will revisit the lives of these four girls and find out what changed their fate.
Sadly, why do some unfortunate people suffer from the hatred of others?Everyone's fate has its own causes and consequences, and the fate you face ultimately depends on your choices.
Who is the ill-fated man in the mansion gate?
Huang Chun didn't leave early, and Yang Jiuhong wasn't unable to get love;Bai Yuting did not marry the photo, but Bai Yaping.
Once, Bai Yaping was the happiest person in the family, and as a concubine, she was pampered since she was a child. Later, she obeyed the orders of her parents and married Guan Shaoyi of a scholarly family according to the words of the matchmaker, which can be said to be extremely happy.
However, the moment she accidentally fell to her son's death, her happiness came to an abrupt end.
Because she accidentally learned that the third brother was reselling medicinal herbs, Yaping privately told her father. An angry Yingyu broke into the room, causing Yaping to throw the child to the ground, and the child died soon after. After learning of the child's death, the Guan family put the blame on the Bai family. Guan Shaoyi forced Yaping to leave and no longer allowed her to approach the Guan family. The blow of losing her husband and son drove Yaping into madness.
The Guan family not only treated Yaping ruthlessly, but also treated their daughter Xiangling mercilessly. When Xiangling was brutally beaten because she hugged her newborn brother, this kind of torture at a young age was in stark contrast to Yaping's happy childhood.
After the invasion of China by the Eight-Nation Alliance, Yaping unfortunately suffered greatly, and this time she completely lost her mind. Since then, she has been cared for by the Bai family for the next few decades, delirious, behaving strangely, seemingly stupid but very intelligent.
Maybe you will question, is Yaping's tragedy accidental?
The contradictions between Yaping and the Guan family have long existed, and the concepts and personalities between them do not match. Yaping is bold and outspoken, while the Guan family is cold and rigorous. Unable to get along with her in-laws, Yaping has been living in her parents' house. Guan Shaoyi once complained:"
What is the difference between marrying this daughter-in-law and not marrying?
Although there was no tragedy, Yaping and Guan Shaoyi's marriage may not come to an end, because Yaping did not really play her role well and understood the nature of responsibility.
Today we are not going to discuss Guan Shaoyi's narrow-minded behavior as a man, but we just want to ** why Yaping also made mistakes.
Humans are social creatures with many different social roles, such as a girl who is a daughter before becoming a wife, and then a mother after becoming a daughter-in-law. At different stages, we all have different responsibilities, and these responsibilities brought about by blood ties cannot be shirked. However, Yaping chose to insist on being a daughter forever, she has been longing for a protected state all her life, longing to be cherished and cared for, but she doesn't realize that a real woman must not only love herself, but also learn to love others.
Living in the ivory tower, Yaping is like a spoiled little princess, she is lucky to have her second sister-in-law as a dragon slayer knight, but her daughter has no one to protect.
In fact, there are also many "little princesses" in real life, who are bathed in love and sunshine, but are not willing to share generously with their families, they are eager to be happy, but they are not willing to give. However, feelings are often not one-sided.
Don't forget that life is not fairytale, there are no seven dwarfs in it, and there will be no prince on a white horse. The reality is full of challenges and troubles, and if you have been dependent on others and have not learned to be self-reliant, then how can you protect your family?
At the end of the day, the Yapings are nothing more than a bunch of selfish people.
You can only rely on yourself to break the dilemma.
Bai Yufen is a brave female hero in the mansion gate.
Her father was the uncle of the Bai family in Yingyuan, who was framed for being involved in a dispute in the Zhan Palace, and was forced to flee back to his hometown after pretending to be dead;Her mother is a young grandmother, and she has a deep love for her husband. After learning the news of her husband's "misfortune", she chose to die with him. As a result, only the daughter Yufen and the young brothers were left in the big house.
From a delicate girl who was pampered by her parents to an orphan girl who lost her parents, Bai Yufen supported the whole family with her own strength. She wiped away her tears and faced the cruel life with a firm attitude, although the Bai family gave Bai Yufen and her younger brother some money, their lives were not really taken care of, and they could only rely on themselves.
Bai Yufen married in Jinan when she grew up and became the wife of the family, but she still maintained her unique style.
When dealing with her mother's affairs, her emotional intelligence is several steps higher than Yaping's. When she took Huang Chun home, the second grandmother did not agree to let Huang Chun get in, and she skillfully used emotion and reason to persuade her;Faced with Yang Jiuhong's problem**, she tried her best to help her younger brother get through the difficulties;When the second grandmother died, the family was in chaos, and no one dared to resist when she gave an order.
Bai Jingqi could listen to what she said, Bai Wenshi would taste her words, and Yang Jiuhong was also moved by her words. This is not because Bai Yufen has superb means or the ability to speak skillfully, but because she understands the "truth".
We often think about emotion, but sometimes it can be an obstacle to success. However, rational thinking is different, and it is only by relying on reason that we can stand firm, earn respect, and reach the world.
Therefore, in order to bounce back and succeed in the face of adversity on the road of life, it is crucial to learn to convince people with reason.
If you desire sincere love, then first you need to have the ability to be independent.
Nowadays, we often mention "star-chasing girls", but if we want to talk about the origin of this phenomenon, we can't talk about Bai Yuting.
Bai Yuting's father is a famous Langzhong in the capital, her mother is in charge of the family business, and her brother Bai Jingqi is even more high-profile. Since she was a child, she has been the favorite star of her family and enjoys a rich and prosperous life.
Due to her pampered background, Bai Yuting's personality shows obvious characteristics: willful.
As a young lady from a large family, she is not interested in gold and silver, nor does she like Ayaluo, but she likes to watch the theatrical performances of the famous Wan Xiaoju.
At the beginning, she sat under the stage with a jewelry box and watched Wan Xiaoju dance on the stage. She spent a lot of money just to express her love, but gradually, she was no longer satisfied with being an audience or an actor, but longed to be Wan Xiaoju's wife.
The concubine's heart belongs, but Lang is as cold as frost, not to mention that Wan Xiaoju is already a woman. However, Bai Yuting didn't care, and even said:
I am willing to serve my husband, even if I want to be a slave, I am willing to be a concubine.
In order to solve Bai Yuting's marriage, Bai Jingqi tried his best, but Wan Xiaoju still refused. After learning the news, Bai Yuting made a bold decision, she wanted to marry Wan Xiaoju's **!A different wedding was held in the Bai family's mansion, Bai Yuting wore a white wedding dress and walked to her fiancé surrounded by everyone.
When commenting on Bai Yuting's marriage, many people said that it was just a game of coaxing children.
When you think deeply about this marriage, you will find that Bai Yuting has obtained the spiritual thing she craves, this clean and flawless thing. Just like she saved Wan Xiaoju later, although Wan Xiaoju agreed to get married at this time, Bai Yuting did not agree, because she loved the fictional person in her heart.
Bai Yuting seems to be unreasonable, but in fact she is persistent. She transcended the worldly vision and constructed a paradise of happiness in her heart, a place full of birds and flowers, where she and her lover became spiritual partners.
Not everyone can dare to bear the world's disapproval like Bai Yuting. She has such courage because she has parents and older brothers who love her, she has enough wealth and money to live a happy life, she does not need to rely on others, and she can live independently in this world.
Many young girls always fervently shout "Long live love!".I longed to be Cinderella and meet Prince Charming. However, reality tells us that it is not necessarily a prince who rides a white horse, but also a Tang monk. To be truly happy, perhaps it is more appropriate to be the queen of life, in the kingdom of love, you are not afraid of being hurt, you are not afraid of hesitation, because you know that even if you lose him, you can still stand in the forest.
No one can overcome the shadow of childhood, except yourself.
It was mentioned in the book "The Family of Origin":
If you can't address your fears, anger, and guilt about your parents, then those emotions will be transferred to your spouse and children, and instead of being resolved, they will persist.
In childhood, he mastered Bai Jiali's entire life.
Her mother is Bai Jingqi's second aunt Taiyang Jiuhong, who was once a famous socialite in Jinan. Because of her humble background, she was not recognized by Bai Wen's family, so she was taken away by her grandmother after Bai Jiali was born.
For the next ten years, no one educated Bai Jiali to cherish her mother;No one conveyed to her that Yang Jiuhong missed her. All are saying:
Your mother is totally a bad woman and she doesn't deserve to be your family.
Under the influence of this environment, Bai Jiali began to hate Yang Jiuhong, the woman who gave her life, but she was always treated coldly. With the passage of time, Yang Jiuhong has also changed, and she has the idea of revenge, wanting Bai Jiali to also taste the pain of separation.
History often repeats itself inadvertently, when Bai Jiali gave birth to her daughter, Yang Jiuhong left for fifteen years just like the second grandmother took the child away. During this time, Bai Jiali's heart was like a knife, and the connection between her and Yang Jiuhong became closer and closer, but no one wanted to take the first step.
After Yang Jiuhong grew old, her heart became soft, and she decided to send the child back to her place, looking forward to her daughter being able to come back to visit her. However, when she finally passed away, Belle still hadn't appeared. Upon hearing the news of her mother's death, Jiali was saddened, and perhaps at that moment she began to regret it, whether she left more kindness and would have changed the ending?
For the rest of her life, she will be burdened with guilt, and this helpless emotion will dominate her thoughts, manipulate her emotions, and bring endless pain. However, the root lies in the stubbornness of the beauties. Her persistence made her unable to see Yang Jiuhong's hardships and hear her crying.
When standing your ground, you must be grounded in reality. If you blindly believe in self-consciousness and detach yourself from reality, extreme thinking will become your next second, and eventually lead to a wall.
When you're confused, why don't you stop and listen to the outside world?Maybe you will discover a whole new world and see the beauty of yourself.
All in all, as a conclusion, I would like to emphasize that.
Although the Bai family's aunt and grandmother lived at the starting point, compared with many girls from poor families, their lives were not all smooth sailing.
There is only one guide in life, and that is yourself. When you learn to manage your life, know how to deal with others, know what you are pursuing, and understand the sincerity of others, you will find that a good life is not out of reach.