In the original work, Bai Yaping's astonishing behavior surprised Bai Er's grandmother, and she hurriedly dissuaded: "Don't throw it away, people are crazy, it's not a joke to fall." At this moment, as long as Bai Yaping pauses for a while, a tragedy may be avoided. However, Bai Yaping did not listen and continued to throw the child. At this time, Bai Yingyu suddenly broke in, and Bai Yaping just threw her son into the air. Turning around when she heard the sound, she watched the child fall heavily to the ground, and the terrible screams disappeared in an instant. When I read this paragraph when I was young, I always felt that the third child of the Bai family was a scourge, but now that I have tasted it, I understand that Bai Laosan is just a sudden thunderstorm, and Bai Yaping is the culprit who caused the death of her own son.
Bai Yaping's life is both sad and chaotic. In her world, there are no clear boundaries and judgments. She unconsciously brought disaster to the family. As a member of the Bai family, she always makes incomprehensible moves. When the second grandmother of the Bai family gave birth, the first grandmother and the third grandmother were waiting outside, because the delivery room was regarded as an ominous place, and everyone else needed to avoid it except for the midwife. However, Bai Yaping was in it and even played a key role. This is enough to prove that she is a woman who does not care about the world and is unscrupulous.
In addition, her attitude when she returned to her parents' home was also staggering. As the daughter of the Bai family who has been married, she should treat herself as a guest when she returns to the door, but she still looks like a master, and even speaks disrespectfully to Bingkuan, who listens to the errand. Bai Er's grandmother once ridiculed her: "Which thing are you not involved in?"And the uncle of the Bai family also gave this sister a cold face. It can be seen that Bai Yaping not only can't distinguish her position, but also is keen to cause trouble. After you get married, you will no longer be a member of the Bai family, and you will not interfere in family affairs. However, the daughter Bai Yaping, who married far away, repeatedly said that she wanted to uphold justice in the Bai family. And Bai Yingyuan's response may be the key turning point in her future fate: go back to your husband's house to administer justice, what's the matter with soaking in her mother's house all day long.
What is amazing is that the justice that Bai Yaping wants to host involves the scandal of the third child of the Bai family misappropriating **. And the third child rushed into the Bai family, mistakenly thinking that the second grandmother had reported the matter. The reason why the second grandmother asked was because she was still a member of the Bai family. However, Bai Yaping, the daughter who married far away, is qualified to intervene in this matter?The elders of the Bai family are still alive and have three sons who have married their daughters-in-law. **It's her turn to be the daughter of the marriage to be the master of the house?An important detail: throughout the book, Bai Yaping, as the eldest daughter in the family, is not popular with her three younger brothers. They lacked a minimum of love and respect for her. Who likes a "right and wrong" who still lives in their parents' house after getting married?In ancient times, it was untenable for a married daughter to live in her mother's house. Under normal circumstances, the old lady of the Bai family should advise her daughter to return to her parents' house less. But the old lady was not wise. And Bai Yaping is even more confused, she is annoying to live in her mother's house, but she still has to meddle in the housework of her younger brothers. In the entire Bai family, she interfered everywhere, which eventually led to the tragedy of her life. Fortunately, it is the kind-hearted second grandmother who is in charge, otherwise Bai Yaping's fate will be even more tragic.
Regarding the Guan family, they are scholarly families, and Bai Yaping naturally has to follow many rules. But she was completely unruly. Here's a detail: Bai Yaping can often go back to her parents' house, which shows that her in-laws are very tolerant. When encountering an intolerant in-law, it is intolerable for the daughter-in-law to return to her parents' house frequently. But the Guan family tolerated her behavior. Guan Shaoyi not only did not blame, but also went to pick up his daughter-in-law home twice in three days. The second grandmother of the Bai family joked that if Guan Shaoyi couldn't see Bai Yaping for three days, she would be anxious as if she had been hungry for five or six days. Which man doesn't want his wife to stay at home, but Bai Yaping treats herself as unmarried, stays in her parents' house all day long, and still wants to be the master of the house. She said eloquently: "I don't like to go home, our family is cold, without a little enthusiasm." And his father, although he is the editor of the Hanlin Academy, but he has a straight face all day long, what am I going to do when I go back?Bai Yaping's words can be seen how incomprehensible they are.
Guan Shaoyi is serious, and her father-in-law is equally serious, but since Bai Yaping married into the Guan family, the Guan family is her home. Look at the three grandmothers of the Bai family, especially the second grandmother who dedicated her life to the Bai family, and then look at Bai Yaping, she has never regarded the Guan family as her home. She doesn't look down on her husband, she doesn't look down on her father-in-law, and she doesn't want to go back to the "Guan family". She may have forgotten that her children are not surnamed Bai, but Guan. Even if you don't think about yourself, for the sake of your children, you should take root in the Guan family. However, she is completely dependent on her own temperament.
Think about why Guan Shaoyi hated the Bai family so much, and later didn't even let Bai Yaping enter the gate of the Guan family. This is all because Bai Yaping ran to the Bai family every day, which hurt Guan Shaoyi's heart, wasted the Guan family's connections, and made the entire Guan family dissatisfied with the Bai family. How could the Bai family allow their daughter to be someone's daughter-in-law so "unreliable"?
After the child was thrown to death, Guan Shaoyi burst into tears: "How can you coax the child like this, it's just nonsense!."He asked, "How many days has this aunt of your family been at home since she entered the door?"Running to my mother's house all day long, crazy and crazy, I'm almost like I didn't marry this daughter-in-law. In the original book, Guan Shaoyi's emotions when he said this were described as "indignation", which is an emotion of anger, hatred, dissatisfaction and unwillingness. And in the end, this dissatisfaction and unwillingness all turned into hatred.
When I was young, I watched "The Gate of the Mansion", and I only felt that Guan Shaoyi was ruthless and unrighteous. Now that I look back on it, I understand the twists and turns. In the long years of husband and wife, emotions are as indifferent as ice. Now that you savor it, how can you not feel indifferent?Over the years, Bai Yaping's days in the Bai family have only been numbered, and Guan Shaoyi has been on the way to pick up his daughter-in-law. As time passed, dissatisfaction and chill gradually accumulated, and so did disappointment and helplessness. When Bai Yaping unfortunately fell to death the child, the anger in Guan Shaoyi's heart finally broke out: Bai Yaping has never integrated into the Guan family, so she will never be the Guan family again. For him, Bai Yaping fell to his death, not only his child, but also the hope of the entire Guan family. Since then, the Bai family has become his mortal enemy, and the revenge of killing his son is unforgettable.
Here, I would like to warn young women that if they have brothers, it is best not to take care of the children in their parents' family. You must know that taking care of the child at the mother's house, if the child has an accident, it is easy to cause conflicts. Human nature is complex and volatile, don't overestimate the understanding of your in-laws, and don't think that taking care of your children in your mother's house will not cause dissatisfaction among your family. Unless you are an only child, it is best to take care of the children in your own home to avoid unnecessary troubles and strife to the family.
Bai Yaping's tragedy is a profound lesson. It didn't matter how reckless she was in the Guan family, but after returning to the Bai family, she was snubbed by her brothers. Once she and her children met with misfortune, it brought endless disasters to her mother's family.
Let's talk about a true story, a classmate took the child back to his parents' house, but the child had an accident at his uncle's house, and the chopsticks penetrated the child's mouth. Despite spending a lot of money, the two families turned against each other. The mother-in-law feels that he does not need to be held responsible, while the mother-in-law believes that what happens in the mother's house must be held responsible.
In the face of such great grief and hatred, it is easy for people to lose their minds and blame all their resentment on those closest to them. The Bai family's "broken family" is a portrayal of this complex human nature and tragic fate. The hatred between the two families should not involve Lao Fujin, and the uncle of the Bai family responded at this time: Lord Wang, this is wrong, I am not Guan Shaoyi, his wife fell and killed the child, why blame me. The Bai family is in such a predicament, although there is a conspiracy of Guiwu behind it, but the role of the Guan family cannot be ignored. The uncle of the Bai family was innocent, but the trial ** and the master of the Guan family are the same scholars. The Guan family handed over a copy of the note to this **, and Guan Shaoyi clearly told the second grandmother of the Bai family: It's a joke, you still dare to come to my father?A gentleman who is upright and upright acts brightly, you see, this recital is written by my father, and the spearhead is directed at your Bai family. Between me and you, the hatred of killing my son is not shared.
Bai Er's grandmother tried to distinguish between right and wrong, emphasizing that the incident of falling to death had nothing to do with the uncle of the Bai family, but Guan Shaoyi resolutely responded: I just want him to die. These words are full of resentment and a desire for revenge. The word "ruthless" is used in the original book to vividly depict the situation in which he is so angry that he only wants revenge. What's even more embarrassing is that the Guan family, who was supposed to be the in-laws of the Bai family, fell into the ground. It is self-evident how the neighbors view the Bai family. Because of his close relationship with the Guan family, the judge was completely partial to the Zhan family, knowing that the Bai family uncle was wronged, but he was unwilling to clear his grievances.
Although the Zhan family wants to take revenge, it may not involve the Bai family uncle, after all, the truth is well known. As long as the trial can correct the name of the Bai family, the matter can be temporarily shelved and not pursued. However, the Guan family was bent on revenge, and the old man of the Bai family angered Lafayette, causing the fate of the Bai family to change. When the uncle of the Bai family was sentenced to be beheaded and imprisoned, he said a word, which shows how helpless he felt about his own sister. This hatred was deep and eventually spread to the Bai family.
Guan Shaoyi's determination of "one life for one life", although he did not fall to death Bai Jingqi, he let Bai Yingyuan die. And the old man of the Bai family also died with hatred because of his son. Such a sister who brought disaster to her mother's family, which brother would be really close?Even the relationship between siblings whose blood is thicker than water is difficult to maintain. After the incident of the Bai family's uncle, in addition to being full of resentment towards the Guan family, can the people of the Bai family ignore their complaints against Bai Yaping? . You know, the world doesn't mean to settle everything with a "didn't mean to" or "didn't want to" sentence. Once irreversible and serious consequences are caused for some reason, it is often harmful to others and oneself. As the second grandmother said, a fall is not a joke. And Guan Shaoyi also pointed out that how can you coax a child like this and throw it around. Bai Yaping knew that there was a risk, but she still did it recklessly, which led to her own tragedy.
Here, I would like to remind all women to be thoughtful when faced with dangerous things. If the consequences are something you can't afford, it's important to err on the side of caution. Bai Yaping lived in the Bai family, but her daughter Xiangling lived in the Guan family. Think about how difficult life must be for a girl who doesn't have a mother in the Guan family's mansion, especially when her mother is considered an "ominous person". Uncle Guan's newly married ** milk gave birth to a son, and Xiang Ling just hugged it, and was denounced as unlucky by the ** milk, and was even beaten and fasted.
Bai Yaping's life is tragic, but what about her daughter and the Bai family?Because of her rash behavior - "throwing children to play", the Bai family was ruined, and her daughter Xiangling also changed from a serious lady of the Guan family to a nail in the eyes of the new grandmother and a thorn in the flesh. Although she was later brought back to the Bai family by Bai Jingqi, her surname was still Guan, which made her suffer a lot of white eyes when she was under the fence. Even making a dress would be disgusted by the children of the Bai family.
Although the second grandmother of the Bai family sheltered Bai Yaping all her life, the Guan family never refused to let go of Guan Xiangling, causing her to be tortured in the Guan family. Although Bai Yaping's situation in the Bai family was not difficult, after all, there was someone to shelter, but her daughter suffered endless pain in the Guan family. This story teaches us that no matter what predicament we find ourselves in, we must be careful about every decision we make in life, because we can never ** the consequences that will bring. Guan Xiangling was in the Guan family, tortured by her stepmother, her father was cold, and she endured endless sadness and pain at a young age. Bai Yaping was innocently affected, but someone had to bear the consequences, and she had no choice but to bear this burden, and the Bai family and Guan Xiangling also suffered endless suffering. The second grandmother of the Bai family once warned: "Hatred cannot accumulate more and more, and it cannot be passed on from generation to generation." However, the seeds of this hatred have long been planted deeply, and it has continued to the third generation of Bai Zhanyuan, and the feud between the Bai family and the Guan family is still there.
As a foreign daughter, she should be soberly aware of her identity when she returns to her parents' home. Especially if a girl already has a sister-in-law or brother-in-law at home, she should be clear about her responsibilities in her in-law's family and manage her family with heart. And the sister-in-law and brother-in-law, as new members of the family, have become masters when you return to your parents' home. At this time, you should recognize your identity as an outsider and avoid interfering in the affairs of your mother's family, so as not to cause unnecessary disputes. In this way, your parents will be able to live in harmony with your daughter-in-law, and your mother's family will be more welcoming to you.
Remember, it's not about doing what you want, it's about knowing where you are and keeping to yourself. Dangerous things and things that should not be done should be avoided as much as possible, rather than acting impulsively and recklessly. As Mr. Hu Shi said, tolerance is higher than freedom, and as we grow up, we will gradually understand that true freedom is based on abiding by rules. May we always reflect on ourselves and keep a clear head and a firm stand.