In May this year, two weeks before my daughter gave birth, I took an eight-hour train ride to my daughter's home in Hangzhou. But after bringing their children for two months, I plan to go back to my hometown.
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It is said that her daughter is her mother's little padded jacket, but Aunt Yang wanted to say, "My daughter is leaky, and she brought me a son-in-law covered in patches, and I can't live this day, so I decided to go back to my hometown."
My daughter Xiaoyu is the only daughter of my wife and me, although more than 20 years ago, the family was not very wealthy, but we uphold the attitude of our daughter to be rich, from childhood to adulthood, she is the best.
In the words of my wife, "I am afraid that it will melt when I hold it in my mouth, and I am afraid that it will fall off when I hold it in the palm of my hand." ”
It may be that my wife and I love our daughter too much, which makes her develop a pampered and selfish character.
As long as she wants it, she will try her best to achieve her goals, even if doing so will hurt her parents.
At that time, I still thought that when she had her own children in the future and understood the hard work of her parents, she would change herself, but I didn't expect that...
Fortunately, Xiaoyu has loved to study since she was a child, and her grades are good, and she has never let me and her father worry about studying.
Xiaoyu entered a key high school with excellent grades in the high school entrance examination, and was admitted to a 211 university in Nanjing in the college entrance examination, and later successfully went to graduate school.
After graduating from graduate school, Xiaoyu successfully applied for a job as a Chinese teacher in a public primary school in Hangzhou.
My wife and I finally got a big deal on our minds.
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But my daughter has been working for less than half a year, and suddenly called ** to tell me that she is pregnant and she plans to get married.
And my boyfriend is a math teacher at their school, and his hometown is from Yunnan. ”
Hearing my daughter's words, my wife and I didn't react for a while.
My daughter is pregnant out of wedlock, and she has to marry a place more than 1,000 kilometers away from her hometown, how can we as parents accept it?
The week that followed, my daughter and I had a long tug-of-war.
My wife and I didn't agree with Xiaoyu marrying so far away, but Xiaoyu was heartbroken, saying that she was pregnant, it was impossible to have a child, and she had to marry if she didn't marry.
I saw that I failed to communicate with my daughter, and I caught the earliest high-speed train the next day with my wife and went to my daughter's school to find her.
That day was the first time I saw my daughter's so-called boyfriend, who was not tall or less than 1.7 meters tall, and looked ordinary, except for a mouth that could speak, I couldn't see anything else that could match my daughter.
Perhaps, my daughter was lost in his sweet words.
I stayed in Hangzhou for two days, and persuaded my daughter for two days, but she insisted on getting married.
My wife and I left Hangzhou in anger.
The adopted daughter is like this, I blame myself, but my wife makes me relax, since I can't change the result, then I face it calmly.
My daughter got married a few years ago last year, and my wife and I, as well as six other relatives and friends, took a plane a day in advance and landed in Kunming, and my son-in-law drove over to pick it up.
The next day, at my daughter's wedding, I was both moved and sad to see her wearing a wedding dress with a happy face.
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Since then, the pearl in my palm has two new identities, as a wife and a mother, I can only silently bless her in my heart, hoping that she will have a happy marriage.
In May this year, two weeks before her daughter's birth, her daughter called ** and said, "Mom, I need you, my mother-in-law has something to do at home, but it's coming".
Just because of my daughter's "Mom, I need you", I quit my stable job and took an 8-hour train ride to my daughter's city.
The day after I arrived, my daughter gave birth ahead of schedule, which caught us all off guard.
Fortunately, the confinement lady invited is professional enough, and I haven't taken a baby for many years, and I'm still a little rusty.
The baby in confinement can't wake up during the day and can't sleep at night, so he has to drink milk every two hours.
The daughter thought that she was not resting well when breastfeeding, so she fed the child breast milk for two days, and refused to feed anything, and on the third day, she directly asked her son-in-law to buy a few buckets of milk powder and bring it back.
I said that my daughter is too selfish, she doesn't feed her baby with breast milk, and my daughter also has a strong voice, drinking milk powder is the same, and breast milk is easy to sag breasts.
I was helpless, but I couldn't help my daughter if she didn't listen.
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The baby may not be very comfortable with the pacifier at first, saying that he will not drink milk powder, and the daughter will be indifferent to the baby's hungry screaming.
Later, the baby was really hungry, so he started to drink milk powder, and my confinement lady and I were relieved.
After that, my daughter was confined wholeheartedly, the confinement lady was responsible for taking care of the children, and I was responsible for cooking meals for four people.
Sometimes I also exchange parenting experience with my sister-in-law, I ask my son-in-law to come over and listen, in case the sister-in-law leaves, I can't be busy alone, I think my son-in-law can also coax the baby.
But the son-in-law either plays games or sleeps every day, coaxes the children twice when he is in a good mood, and sometimes goes out to eat and drink with a group of friends.
At that time, the son-in-law had fifteen days of paternity leave and two months of summer vacation.
But he only cares about eating, drinking, and having fun, as if all the children were born to others.
I also said to my daughter, "You also talk about the baby's father, and you should do your father's responsibility and take care of the children more." ”
But the daughter said, "Anyway, there are a lot of people now, and someone has a baby, so let's talk about it later."
I almost didn't catch my breath.
There are all kinds of things in the confinement, but fortunately, the baby's affairs can be solved by the confinement lady.
But after the moon, the confinement sister-in-law left, and after I was busy alone, my daughter and son-in-law pretended to be "dead", I was very dissatisfied, and I was ready to run away.
1.Sometimes the baby wakes up at the cooking point, I am busy coaxing the baby, and I ask my son-in-law to cook.
But the son-in-law said that the food he cooked was not delicious and he didn't want to cook it, and his daughter was lying on the bed playing with her mobile phone, as if she didn't hear it.
In the end, my son-in-law ordered three takeouts, but I was angry.
2.My daughter lies in bed and plays with her mobile phone all day, so that she can either get up and move, or sleep more, and she doesn't listen at all.
The son-in-law either plays games or goes out to play, and does not sleep until three watches at night, and does not get up at ten o'clock in the morning.
I still have to make breakfast, and I have to coax the children.
It's been more than a month, and two young people in their 20s can't change diapers or bathe their babies.
It's as if children are born to someone else. I don't have the consciousness of being a parent.
3.The baby has been born for more than a month, and the child's grandparents have not yet appeared, saying that they are busy with work and have no time to come.
In fact, I have a lot of opinions about my daughter's in-laws, who make money every day, and I don't see the money in **.
At the beginning, I asked for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and in the end they bargained for 660,000, the house is a self-built house, the car is the son-in-law's car before marriage, and the grandson was born, not only did the people not arrive, but the red envelopes also did not arrive.
I don't even know what my daughter is married to.
4.One time I was so tired that a friend from many years ago was running errands in Hangzhou and invited me to go out and meet me. So I was intrigued.
Before going out, I repeatedly told my daughter and son-in-law to take good care of the baby, and they promised to be good.
When I came back in the afternoon, one of them was lying on the bed playing with his phone, and the other was lying on the sofa playing games.
And the baby was lying on his cot, the diaper was full, the pants were soaked, and I didn't know when it was wet.
I want to cry without tears, I have never seen such unreliable parents.
5.Once, when the cooking was abnormal, the salt was put too much, and the son-in-law vomited while eating, and said angrily, "It's so salty, how can you eat it."
With that, he got up and ordered takeout.
I was also very angry, I said, "If you like to eat or not, it all depends on one mouth, let you do it and you don't do it, and it tastes disgusting." ”
This kind of thing is not once or twice, I often say, "The son-in-law has not had a good rebirth, and he does not have the life of a rich young master, but he has high requirements for food, and he generally can't look down on it, and he has to order takeout in the restaurant." ”
When the baby was 2 months old, I couldn't help it, I couldn't get used to the selfish actions of my daughter and son-in-law, and completely put the responsibility of taking care of the child and cooking on me alone, as if the child was born for me, and there was no sense of responsibility and responsibility as a new parent.
So I said in front of my daughter and son-in-law, "There is something at home that I have to go back for a while, anyway, Xiaoyu has a few months of maternity leave, so you can take the child first, and if you can't do it, hire a nanny." ”
My daughter begged me to stay, but I only left one sentence, "The child was born for you, and you should not be sloppy in your responsibilities, instead of enjoying my contribution as you deserve." ”
The next day, I packed my bags and left, I don't know if my daughter and son-in-law can take care of the children, but I don't want to get used to them anymore.