A few days ago, after the launch of a popular science article about "handjob" or sexual intercourse, which hurts the body more, the background received a lot of similar inquiries from friends, including a message that is very special, saying:
I was addicted to hand y when I was in junior high school, and I couldn't quit for more than 10 years, and the doctor said that I was suffering from X addiction, and I couldn't control my thoughts all day long, at most a dozen times a day, and I was restless and miserable when X addiction attacked, and since I was in college, I frequently changed girlfriends, made appointments, and went to open a room whenever I was free. I tried a lot of methods but it didn't work, it seriously affected my normal life, and even had suicidal thoughts, what should I do?
At the time of the seizure. According to the friend's self-report, it is indeed a typical X addiction.
As for the topic of X addiction, due to its particularity and controversy, it seems that a veil of mystery has always been shrouded in it, and those who are deeply involved in it are even marginalized and even discriminated against.
Some people describe addiction to X like this: once addicted, it is like the brain has been drugged, and it is difficult to get rid of it.
Indeed, in the eyes of normal people, X addicts are ** crazy, and they can't help but indulge in the pleasure brought by X, but whether this practice of filling the empty hole with endless desires can really get pleasure and satisfaction, only they themselves know.
In this issue, I will talk to you about the topic of X addiction in depth and understand it more comprehensively
Is X addiction a disease?
Undoubtedly, yes.
According to medicine, X addiction is actually oneMental illness,It's called love addiction, yesAn obsessive-compulsive disorder associated with X behaviorPatients may unconsciously consider having X behavior with others. X addicts are very common in people with OCD, and about 2 in 10 patients will exhibit this behavior.
In fact, as early as the middle of the 20th century, psychopathology and psychology had a history of X addiction research, and the definition and description of "X addiction" were found in Volume IV of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, but the term and definition of "X addiction" were absent in the latest volume of the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).
That is to say,"X addiction" is still controversial in psychological medicine and has not been recognized by most mainstream psychiatrists and psychologists.
Therefore, although we are Xi to use the term "X addiction", some scholars prefer to use "X impulse control disorder" and "compulsive X behavior" to refer to such people.
What are the behavioral manifestations of X addiction?
Psychologist Coleman divides "X addiction" into two stages:
Stage 1: Indulging in the fantasies, feelings, and behaviors of X addiction, feeling happy and enjoying;
Stage 2: Pain is greater than pleasure. Shame, guilt, and frustration begin to grow on a large scale, and these negative emotions replace pleasure and enjoyment.
Of course, some scholars later objected to this view, arguing that the first stage was just pure initiative, not X addiction.
There are also those who believe that "X addicts" must beConstantly changing x mates,And even at the same timeMaintain x relationships with n x partners. Such a phenomenon does exist, but there is also a large percentage of people who will passHand yto solve their own problems.
However, when the addiction reaches a certain level, the need cannot be met by hand Y alone.
So in general, modern medicine thinks:For some X addicts, their X behavior is limited to compulsive hand-making or compulsive videosSome people may have exhibitionism, nymphomaniac, or child behavior.
Why is X addictive?
In general, X addiction is caused by:Physiological factors, psychological factors, family factors, and social environmental factorsCaused by excessively frequent X behavior.
The consensus view in the academic community is,xAddiction is "an insecure person seeking confirmation of his or her own worth."
The psychology of X addicts may be related to their inability to face loneliness alone, and their desire to achieve integration by having X relationships with others at a high frequency so that they can avoid the fear of being alone alone.
Of course, each patient's individual situation is different and needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.
Do X addicts harm society?
Many people have an innate prejudice against X addicts, believing that if they do not control themselves, they are likely to cause harm to others and society.
But in reality, most X addicts are moreHurt yourself,Disrupt their life and mental state.
As mentioned earlier, X addiction is a compulsive X behavior, and the patient cannot control himself. Normal people are selectively through X to get pleasure, or relax themselves, whileX addicts are chosen by X, are X**, and become X's slaves. At the same time, overindulge in sexuality"Shame" and "guilt".and follow them at all times. Therefore, their hearts are actually very painful and lonely.
So X addictsNot necessarilyBeing an X offender, not all X offenders are X addicts, it's just that X addicts become X offendersThe odds are greater
How can X addicts return to their normal lives?
As mentioned earlier, each sex addict has a different cause, so the way is different.
Those who self-perceive as having "X impulse control disorder" and "forced X behavior" should:Consult a psychologist and have a professional help you find the reason why you can't control your fantasies.
The key for X addicts** is:Adjust your mind and rebuild harmonious relationships, especially with your partner.
And the purpose of ** alsoNot abstinence, but to get you back to a life that no longer affects your physical and mental health and life emotions.
According to clinical research statistics, most patients with X addiction have achieved good results after active psychological counseling and can successfully return to normal life.