Five years ago, I gave up having a second child because Dabao was against it.
5 years ago, I was only 32 years old, Dabao was 5 years old, with the liberalization of the national two-child policy, one night before going to sleep, my husband and I carefully discussed the major matter of preparing for the second baby.
My husband said that Dabao is already a kindergarten class, and will enter the first grade next year, although it is a girl, but she is well-behaved and sensible, and her appearance is very cute, and the economic conditions of the family also allow, we have another two treasures, regardless of boys and girls, when the time comes, there is a companion in the times, and we are better to be taken care of when we are old.
Unexpectedly, two days later, in the afternoon, I went to the kindergarten to pick up my daughter a little late, and my daughter saw that I couldn't cry and cry, I hugged her, kept kissing, and asked softly if I had made a mistake and was criticized by the teacher, and my daughter cried and shook her head. Was she bullied by a child, and her daughter shook her head, so why?
Under the constant comfort, the daughter cried and sobbed and said, Mom, don't you and Dad like me anymore and don't want me anymore?No, you are the little baby of your parents, how can you not love you?
Then how did you and your dad say that you want to have a younger sibling?
In an instant, I understood, I hugged and kept enlightening my daughter, my daughter was silent, and I was a little depressed for the past few days.
After a week, I told my husband about it, and my husband was speechless for a while, and after discussion, we also gave up the plan to have a second child.
Now another 5 years have passed, my daughter is in her early 10s, seems to have grown into a big girl, I like piano, chess, calligraphy, painting and dancing very much, in addition to being sick in the training class, almost not a class has been left behind, my academic performance is also among the best in the class, and my emotional intelligence is also very high.
Now, although I am only in my early 30s and have the ability to have children, my husband and I took the initiative to give up our second child for the sake of our daughter.
It seems that it is not a wise choice to give full attention to the cultivation of an only child.