I've discovered a method that is very thriving: self-affirmation
I once heard a successful entrepreneur talk about her childhood.
Her family background is not good, the relationship between her parents has not been good since she was a child, she often quarrels, and she especially likes to play cards.
And once she puts forward her needs, whether they are reasonable or unreasonable, her parents will accuse and suppress her, and scold her for being a white-eyed wolf, and she is not satisfied with food and drink. What she wants to do, her parents will only taunt her.
But she has a strong personality, and if you think I can't do it, I'm going to show you and prove that I'm good.
Whether her parents or others suppress her, she can always affirm herself from another angle.
For example:
Her parents said she wasn't pretty, but she would think that although I wasn't pretty, I was talented and had good grades.The habit of self-affirmation has always been with her, and she later used her accomplishments to silence everyone as well.Her parents said that she was too ambitious and incompetent, but she thought that she was very self-motivated and would definitely do something in the future.
Listening to her story, I suddenly had an epiphany, it turned out that I was missing such a self-affirmation.
My parents said that I had bad taste, and I was so uncomfortable that I died, and then I bought clothes according to my parents' aesthetics;My confidence and courage have always relied on the affirmation of the outside world, and if the outside world gives me a negative result, I will collapse.When my colleague said that I couldn't say a word, I instantly lost confidence and felt that I was not that material.
Over the past two years, I've read some books, learned to affirm myself, and found that I don't care as much about what other people think.
Self-affirmationYou can really change your own magnetic field.
In layman's terms, it isThe extent to which you like yourself. The more you like yourself, accept yourself, respect yourself, and feel that you are a valuable person, then the higher your self-affirmation.
Your self-affirmation determines how energetic, enthusiastic, and self-motivated you are.
You will find that successful people have a strong energy, in the face of setbacks, they will not feel sorry for themselves, but actively look for ways, and an important advantage in them is self-affirmation.
Does self-affirmation work?
The answer is yes.
According to a 2016 study, positivity will definitely activate the brain's reward pathways, making you feel happy and feeling better.
Language is energetic, the positive self will definitely soothe one's spirit, and in the face of difficulties, the mind is not full of negative thoughts, but positive thoughts, such as: how to solve it?What to do?
Psychologist Professor Rong Xinqi said that the brain cannot distinguish the difference between reality and imagination. Repeating affirmative words often convinces the brain that these visions are facts and makes you believe that you can do it.
We don't believe because we do it, we do it because we believe it.
When we are at a low point, it is a luxury to expect affirmation and encouragement from others, and more often than not, we have to rely on self-motivation to get things done.
When you succeed, there will naturally be many people who will affirm you.
Therefore, if you always affirm yourself, you will be more and more motivated to do things, and the probability of success will become higher.
Since self-affirmation is so important, how do we train for it?
First, be aware of the thoughts of self-denial in your mind.
The opposite of self-affirmation is self-denial.
Most people in life will deny themselves without realizing it.
When you habitually self-deny, be aware.
For example, if you want to **, you subconsciously think that you will not succeed, you can't, and this kind of self-denial will affect behavior.
Before I started to act, I felt that I couldn't do it, and in the end it must not work.
The next time you deny yourself, be aware and ask yourself, is this the truth?Am I really not good?
Write down these negative words and transform them into self-affirming words.
Replace "I can't" with "I can" and "I'll try again".
Thoughts determine behavior, and behavior determines results.
When your mind changes, the result naturally changes.
Again, write 3 of your own merits every day.
Self-affirmation is also self-appreciation.
Try to identify your 3 strengths every day and write them down.
When you continue to do this, your confidence will increase.
Long-term self-denial makes it easy to see our own shortcomings, so we must learn to appreciate ourselves.
Make appreciating yourself a habit.
Conclude with 10 words of self-affirmation that you should remember to say to yourself often.
1.I can accept my imperfections and try to be better.2.I feel energized every day and I love my life.
3.I focus on the things that are most important to me.
4.I'm doing what is most important to me, and it's normal for someone to disagree or support me.
5.I admit that I can't control others, let each other go, and respect others' choices.
6.I can ask for support and help from others.
7.I believe in my own abilities and judgment, and I am proud of my decision regardless of the outcome.
8.I have my own values and merits, and I will definitely make a difference.
9.I have my own unique talents, and I am able to make a difference in the world because of me.
10.I am able to face life's challenges positively and I have strong adaptability.