There are many parents who want their children to be extroverted, and then force their children to do things that are difficult for them to do, or things they don't like at all.
This all stems from a distorted perception of introversion.
We all think that extroverts seem to have more prospects, but according to relevant surveys, 70% of successful people are introverts.
Introversion or extroversion is just a personality description, not a flaw or strength.
Introverts have their own characteristics, and as long as they choose the development direction that suits them according to these characteristics, they can still become the best.
In the book "I'm Sorry, I May Be Allergic to People", the author devotes an entire book to explaining the characteristics of introverts, the problems that introverts may encounter, and how to solve them.
The author, Wu Mian, is a psychological counselor who interprets the portrait of introverts from multiple perspectives and provides practical solutions.
Introverts, as you can see, don't seem to be able to speak, seem to be transparent people in the workplace, and don't express themselves emotionally.
But they are usually more stoic, tenacious, focused, and better at deep thinking.
In terms of learning, as long as there is correct guidance for introverts, they will actually behave more seriously in their studies and don't have to worry too much.
In terms of social interaction, there will be certain obstacles, such as how to deal with the relationship with classmates or teachers.
Introverts may be more afraid of teachers, and there is a certain amount of timidity or low self-esteem.
In the face of classmates, you may encounter some situations where you don't know how to deal with bullying.
So in these two aspects, parents can pay more attention.
At the end of the book, it is an analysis of the growth trajectory of an introvert, from the age of 0 to old age, what kind of problems introverts face at each stage, and what kind of performance they are more inclined to.
With this understanding, we can help children face real problems in a more targeted way, so that parents can pay more attention to the key issues in the process of children's growth.
Of course, the author also focuses on the social, emotional, and professional dilemmas and solutions of introverts in this book.
These aspects occupy the vast majority of our lives.
Whether we're introverts ourselves, or if someone around us is an introvert, this book is worth reading.
If we are introverts ourselves, through this book, we can know that our personality is actually the usual manifestation of introverts.
This book can help us understand ourselves better, and after reading it, we have a sense of enlightenment.
For example, introverts are actually very easy to fall into self-blame, they are always looking for problems in themselves.
Well, through this book, we can know that this is the usual way of thinking for introverts, so that we can get a little comfort that this is not our unique "problem".
In relationships, introverts are also usually not good at expressing themselves.
If there is a problem in the relationship, they may choose to run away. But escaping won't solve the problem at all.
The author emphasized in the book that the current problems of marriage are actually normal. And many problems are unsolvable, we don't have to find solutions, we have to allow problems to exist.
Introverts want to run away from problems because they don't have a solution, don't know how to solve them, or are afraid of conflicting problems.
The author's explanation makes us understand that the original problem does not have to be solved, and the problem cannot be solved.
A marriage that survives with problems is actually more of a test of the feelings of both parties.
I have to say that the author has a lot of unique insights in this book.
He can not only think from the perspective of an introvert, but also lead the introvert to gain a better version of himself.
It can also let everyone understand the thoughts of introverts and learn how to get along with introverts better.
Therefore, this book is actually suitable for introverts, and it is also suitable for extroverts who have introverts around them to read it.
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