The more you are afraid of losing something, the more you want to keep something that is likable, but often it doesn't achieve the desired effect, just like the law of attraction, which only draws what you're afraid of to you and makes you do your best to drift from one place to another in love.
I know that many girls are eager to have a good love and want to keep a man's heart, but in fact, feelings are attracted to each other, and men are only interested in women who can bring them good feelings.
There are usually three things a woman who can really appeal to a man's heart.
First, be confident and charismatic.
The philosopher Emerson said: If a man can conquer the world, he must first conquer himself.
This kind of self-conquest is a kind of self-confidence, a kind of self-identification that comes from the heart, a kind of attraction from the inside out, which moves people the most.
Just like my classmate Lis, her family is not very good, and her appearance is not very good, but she works hard and her grades are always at the top.
When I graduated, I was confident about applying for a job in the job market. I believe that I can find a good job on my own. It is because of this self-confidence that she really gets what she wants.
The self-confidence aura of the whole person made her particularly appreciated by her superiors as soon as she entered the company, and she was constantly promoted. Red gas nourishes people. Li Si soon found an excellent boyfriend to attract him, and the two had a perfect love that was evenly matched.
If you want to attract a man you like to you, you have to remember that pleasing is the next best strategy, and the most effective way to gain recognition from others is to exude your own charm and create an upward image.
Second, you must have an independent personality.
I once heard the saying:
Men are willing to spend time and money to support women, but they are not. Women do nothing and wait to feed themselves.
Just like Luo Zijun in the first half of my life, after getting married, she concentrated on being a full-time wife at home and gave up self-growth. The focus of her life only revolves around her husband and children, thinking that this is the truest manifestation of loving someone, but she didn't expect it to be a man's change of heart.
Good love is that you are good, I am not bad. It is that two people are together, both to get emotional value from each other and to provide the other half with everything he wants.
Women can have an independent personality that satisfies the needs of the male spiritual world.
As the writer Ernest Hemingway once said: Only the strong in the world can be truly respected.
In a male-female relationship, when a woman is with a man, she can go hand in hand with a man, instead of always playing the image of Dodd who only climbs and clings to, she has a good chance of having the love she wants.
Third, be willing to grow together.
My cousin and her cousin became a couple when she was in college, and we didn't get married until last month after graduation.
I asked my cousin why it took so long. The cousin said that if there is no way to give the other party a clear future, he is still unstable. Such a marriage is actually the biggest burden on the other party.
But the cousin never gave up and was able to fulfill her efforts with her cousin's husband. Because my cousin graduated early and has a job, my cousin is trying to give the two of them a reliable future. My cousin stood on the experience of his predecessors and gave my cousin a lot of help.
It wasn't until the jobs of the two people stabilized that they began to plan to buy a house in **. After the house was decided, marriage was naturally put on the agenda.
In fact, it is very simple to keep a man's heart. It is enough to be willing to endure hardships with each other, face the risks of future life together, and give each other a sense of security. This dedication is not only in words, but also in deeds.