There is a word in psychology called"Deworthy" is the belief in what you deserve.
People who have a high sense of worthiness have a high evaluation of their self-worth, believe that they are worthy of better, and rarely doubt themselves.
Even if you take a bad deck of cards, you will pursue and create without distraction, and firmly believe that you will play the king bomb.
People who have a low sense of worthiness subconsciously feel that they are not good enough to have greater happiness.
Even if I usually work very hard, I don't believe in my ability, I don't dare to expect better development, I am cautious in life, and I am constrained in action.
Benjamin Franklin once said, "The greatest reason why a man fails is that he never dares to fully trust his own abilities, and even thinks that he will fail."
There is such a book called "There must be a way to succeed, and there must be a reason for failure".
The book says: Successful people: perseverance, meet challenges, clear goals, focus on goals, never drag mud and water, let alone look left and right.
Even if you are wrong, you will learn from the experience and tell yourself to always look forward.
Loser: Retreat from difficulties, look ahead, have no opinions, stick to the rules, have a higher heart than the sky, but do not put in enough effort.
Complacent in good times, depressed in adversity, there is only the happiness of moving forward in the curve, and there is no success in a straight line.
In life, when a person anticipates that things may fail, he will naturally look for or create some kind of seemingly persuasive obstacle on the way forward, so as to achieve the purpose of self-soothing, which is a kind of self-limitation.
A psychologist once did an experiment in which he put a flea in a glass and the flea jumped out easily.
The second time, he put the flea in the glass and closed the lid, and the flea jumped up and hit the lid hard.
After hitting the lid again and again, the flea begins to adjust its height.
It didn't take long for the experimenters to notice that the fleas were no longer hitting the lid, but were bouncing freely at a distance from the lid.
A day later, the experimenter quietly removed the cap, but the flea still maintained the height at which it had jumped with the cap.
A week later, the flea still didn't jump out of the glass.
It turns out that the flea is not unable to jump higher, it is mentally acquiescing that it cannot jump out of the glass, and it limits itself to that height.
The way to get a flea to jump out of the glass again is as simple as knocking the glass hard or taking a candle and heating it at the bottom of the glass.
When the flea suddenly senses danger, it will jump out of the height with all its strength in fear and leave the cup.
A person's biggest limitation is his heart, many people are content with the status quo, not that they don't want to succeed, but they give themselves a level of acquiescence.
This height often hints to oneself: "Success is impossible, I can't do it".
The psychological height often reflects the height of our life, which is one of the reasons that determine whether we can achieve success.
Only by breaking through the limitations of one's own heart can we complete self-transcendence and better overcome difficulties and resistance.
* The famous dramatist Stanislavsky was rehearsing a play, and the heroine was temporarily injured and could not participate in the performance.
Pressed for time, Stanislavsky decided to let his sister, who was also a drama actress, play the role.
Because she has never played the leading role, her sister, who has low self-esteem and is nervous, behaves very badly during rehearsals.
Stanislavsky, despite his displeasure, smiled and encouraged his sister:"Don't worry, you can actually perform better;This time you are the protagonist of the drama, you have to believe in my vision, but also in your own ability."
There was applause at the scene, and everyone was applauding and cheering for my sister!
My sister was greatly encouraged and said firmly:"I'm going to do a great job."
In the following rehearsals, my sister really got rid of her inferiority complex and restraint and became very confident, and later, the drama was a great success.
Stanislavsky humorously said to his sister: "There is another great artist on the theater stage!"”
When a person builds strong self-confidence deep inside, all the restraints will make way for him.
As Warren Buffett said, "I always knew I was going to be rich, and I never doubted it."
Don't set limits for yourself, learn to take setbacks as stepping stones on the way forward, force yourself to grow, take failure as a new starting point, and summarize lessons from failures.
Change your own fixed thinking, dare to challenge the impossible, work harder after failure, find ways to enhance your abilities, and continue to grow.
The most regrettable thing in life is not failure, but "you could have been"., to think that you are not good enough, is a lie to yourself, to think that you are worthless, is to deceive yourself.
Everyone has infinite possibilities, and everyone should not set limits on their own lives.
There are no limits, not to force yourself with boundless madness, but to constantly challenge yourself within the scope of what you can bear.
The best way to break through barriers is to face them head-on
Many things start the moment you take the first step, and the probability of impossible success is already reduced, and as long as you keep believing in yourself, this probability will become lower and lower.
One day, you will naturally fly higher and farther and farther!
Above, encouragement!