We live in a world full of corrections, and everyone seems keen to point out the mistakes of others. But let's face it: correcting others often does not bring the desired effect, but can cause harm to both parties.
People usually don't like to be forced to change by others. Even if the other person has good intentions, even if what they say is logically impeccable, there will still be resistance in our hearts. This resistance stems from the protection of one's own will, the pursuit of freedom. When we are forced to live our lives the way others do, we feel threatened by our values.
At the same time, however, we are also afraid of rejection. When our advice or good intentions are not accepted, we feel aggrieved and frustrated. This emotion can spark arguments and even lead to the breakdown of relationships.
In relationships, especially in intimate relationships, we often see this cycle of correction and counter-correction. One side tried to change the other, while the other resisted vigorously. Ultimately, both sides can feel hurt and disappointed.
But let's think deeper: why do we always try to correct others?Is this really necessary?Perhaps, we need to learn to be more respectful of other people's choices and lifestyles. Everyone has their own values and lifestyle, which are the result of their personal growth and experiences. We may be able to make recommendations, but the final decision is up to them.
When we try to force others to accept our views, we are actually taking away their free will. Not only can this lead to their resentment and resistance, but it can also plunge ourselves into endless arguments and pain.
So perhaps we need a new way of looking at and dealing with this situation. We can try to understand the other person's position and feelings, rather than blindly blaming and correcting. We can express our concerns and concerns, rather than impose our will.
Ultimately, what we should remember is that everyone has the right to live their lives on their own terms. We can offer advice and help, but we can't force them to change. Only in this way can we build a more harmonious, respectful and understanding social environment.