Seaweed decided to leave Song Siming and return to Xiaobei's life. With a sense of guilt for Becky, she prepares to marry him. However, Haiping stood up and tried her best to stop it. After Seaweed went home, she told Xiaobei Haiping's thoughts, but Xiaobei was furious and roared: "I'm afraid she can't bear to be a big backer over there." ”
Indeed, when Seaweed and Song Siming were together, Haiping also indirectly got a lot of benefits, and what Xiaobei said was understandable. However, Song Siming can never be forgotten here in Xiaobei, and Seaweed is frightened by Xiaobei's attitude. She defended her sister and apologized to Becky, but she also made it clear that if Becky hated her, please don't vent her anger on her sister.
Is it really like Seaweed Says, Haiping has nothing to do with all this?This is not the case. When Seaweed, worried, runs to Haiping and proposes to marry Becky, Haiping is happy at first. After all, my sister said goodbye to the unknown relationship in the past and ushered in a new hope.
However, when Haiping heard Haizao say that Xiaobei only wanted to get a marriage certificate first, and did not plan to hold a banquet or inform both parents, she refused. She could see Seaweed's inner distress. She knew that the knot in Xiaobei's heart had not yet been untied, and advised Seaweed to wait and not rush to get married. But Seaweed said firmly: "I want to take a gamble." ”
Seaweed feels guilty about Becky, and Becky is afraid of losing Seaweed, and wants to tie her up with the law first, and talk about the rest later. The reason why Seaweed wants to gamble is because she is betting on whether she can say goodbye to the past and start a new life with a new identity. She is gambling not only on a marriage, but also on her future.
Haiping said firmly: "You are messing around. How can marriage be used as a bet?"Two people who love deeply may encounter all kinds of problems when they enter marriage, not to mention that the two of them go to marriage with a knot in their hearts, isn't this a blind man riding a blind horse?No, I don't agree. If you marry him with guilt, it is better to break up with him happily, so as not to be unhappy in the future and divorce again, and both of you will be doubly hurt.
I fully agree with Haiping. Marriage should not be used as a tool to solve immediate problems. Two people who love deeply need to be carefully considered and fully prepared when they enter a marriage, not to mention that they still carry the knots and problems of the past. However, when I saw Haiping holding such a correct three views, I couldn't help but feel disgusted with her. At first, when Seaweed and Song Siming were entangled and became his **, if Haiping could show such a righteous concept and dissuade Seaweed in time, maybe the later story would not have happened, and Seaweed's life would not have been so bleak.
Since Haiping knows the importance of marriage to women, doesn't she understand how much damage a third party can do to the original partner and another family?As a woman, I think Haiping should be more empathetic, but she only lightly persuaded a few words, and then completely distorted her values. She assists Seaweed to become a third party behind her back, hiding the truth for her. When Seaweed got married, Haiping's three views were so correct, but when Seaweed became **, her three views were instantly distorted.
In fact, Xiaobei's roar has already given the answer. In Xiaobei's cognition, Haiping is the initiator of seaweed's derailment. He once was furious with Seaweed and accused Haiping: "It's not because people gave her benefits, helped her get back the money, and gave her a big house to live in, I'm not wrong, don't take me for a fool." In fact, the essence of Haiping is just as Xiaobei said. Every time Seaweed is in deep trouble, she will become a messenger of justice and persuade Seaweed. But when Seaweed helps her solve her life difficulties with Song Siming, Haiping's three views will collapse in an instant and bow to money and material.
I always believe that Haiping's love for seaweed is not true love. Haiping's love for seaweed is only "oral love", which is only superficial and vain, not the essence of love. On the road of seaweed's "mental" growth, Haiping has always played the role of "evil".
The Four Precepts of Lifan elaborate on good and evil: no matter what you do, motivation and intention are the fundamentals. Whoever is interested in others is good;Whoever has a purpose for his own good is evil. Obviously, Haiping belongs to the latter. As long as Seaweed can benefit Song Siming from her, Haiping's three views will turn 180 degrees. Isn't this an act of disregarding morality in order to satisfy one's own selfish desires?60,000 yuan and keys may give her a momentary pleasure, but is this pleasure really worth sacrificing her dignity and personality?
After the seaweed was forcibly possessed by Song Siming for the first time, Song Siming asked the owner of the seaweed, Chen Sifu, to transfer 60,000 yuan to the seaweed. Seaweed quickly ran to Haiping's house and excitedly stuffed the money to Haiping. The 60,000 yuan was not a small amount at that time, Haiping was extremely happy when she saw the money, and only asked about the origin of the money after the excitement. Seaweed lightly said that she borrowed the money from a friend, and that the friend didn't need interest yet. Haiping believed it when she heard it, and happily sat on the edge of the bed and counted the money one by one.
However, when Su Chun came back and saw this pile of money, he questioned: "How can Haizao have such a rich friend, so much money is not a small amount, and there is no interest yet, and there is no hurry to pay it back." Haiping, I think it is necessary for you to ask the seaweed clearly, how can there be such a living Lei Feng in this world?Su Chun's questioning is not unreasonable. After all, how is it possible for a recent college graduate to meet such a rich friend?If things are so abnormal, isn't there anything to worry about?
Here, the attitudes of Su Chun and Haiping are in stark contrast. As Haizao's own sister, Haiping first felt joy when she saw this huge amount of money, as if she saw the hope of getting out of the predicament. She didn't think deeply about whether the money was justified and whether it would cause trouble for the seaweed. This is because her innermost desire for money has outweighed her worries. It's not that she's not worried, she's just afraid that the outcome of the deep investigation is not what she wants. If the money didn't come from the right way, should it be returned?If you don't pay it back, how can you solve the current difficulties?So, she chose not to delve into it anymore.
After all, Haiping is an egoist with deep desires. Her desires are not as obvious as seaweed, but they know how to hide. The area she and Su Chun rented was about to be relocated, and they had to find a new place to live. At this time, Song Siming reached out again and let his large flat out and let them live for the time being. When Seaweed handed the key to Haiping, Haiping felt a sense of foreboding. Seaweed's recent abilities are simply heavenly!She confessed to Haiping that she had done someone else's **. Haiping immediately reprimanded her harshly, warning her not to play with fire**, to cherish her relationship with Xiaobei, and quickly broke off the relationship with that person. But Seaweed responds impatiently to her sister, saying that she has grown up and is able to handle her own affairs. And the location of this house is very good, and it is also very close to the foreign students in Haiping. She gave the key to Haiping and turned to leave.
Haiping didn't chase it out to return the key, because she knew that her sister had exchanged it for her body. The next day, Haiping and Su Chun came to the big flat together. They were all stunned by the luxury of the house. Su Chun said that he was worried that there was something wrong with Seaweed's recent behavior, and that there was something wrong with the house. Although Haiping didn't say it explicitly on the surface, it actually implied that Seaweed did someone else's **.
Su Chun is worried that something too abnormal must be wrong, and he is worried that there is something wrong with the man behind the seaweed. But Haiping scolded him, saying that he took other people's money and lived in the house for two days and was scared. This sentence exposes her true thoughts, she wants to touch the light, the light of the house and the light of money.
Then, Haiping had another idea to bring her parents and daughter here to live in a two-day house during the Chinese New Year. After all, I may not be able to buy such a good house in my lifetime. However, the front foot was still teaching the seaweed to break off with Song Siming, and the back foot lived in the big house that the seaweed exchanged for his body, and he had to take his parents and daughter over to stain them, this is not what is the value **?This is not only an explosion of desire, but also the embodiment of double standards. Mr. Pei had already confessed to Haizao that Haiping was an extremely vain woman, but Haizao did not notice it. Is it just vanity?No, she is almost a refined egoist.
Holding the funds given by Song Siming, Seaweed made a big purchase in the mall and chose a popular coat worth 3680 for Haiping. Haiping was ecstatic when she saw the new clothes, but then she asked suspiciously about the ** of the seaweed funds. Seaweed chose to remain silent, and Haiping had vaguely understood the truth through the previous signs.
Haiping asked directly: "Are you the one who likes him or the money he likes?"Seaweed replied calmly: "I do have some crush on him, and being with him makes me feel stimulated." Haiping was shocked when she heard this, and began to persuade the seaweed bitterly: "Stimulation?."What kind of stimulus?Is it a stimulus?It is only when a man is young that he dares to squander his youth in this way. When you reach my age, you will understand how blessed it is to have a faithful husband, an obedient child, and a stable place to live, and to enjoy ** in your own bed instead of being afraid of someone else's bed. Guo Haizao ......”
Seaweed interrupted: "I don't want to live like you and my brother-in-law, arguing all day long over firewood, rice, oil and salt. I don't envy that kind of life, at least not now. I'm still young, and if I don't squander it now, when?"There's nothing wrong with squandering your youth. However, it is not only wrong to build one's own youth squandering on the destruction of other people's families, but also a sin.
However, in the face of Seaweed's view that "youth is used to squander", Haiping actually resonated. She said to Seaweed, "Yes, when I'm your age, I have a lot of youth to squander. But I followed the normal trajectory of my life and lived my life carefully. To be honest, I really am not qualified to lecture you because I have never walked the path you have chosen, so it is difficult to evaluate. "There are some crooked paths, perhaps because we have not walked them, that it is more difficult to evaluate their rights and wrongs. Here is the article I have for you:
We cannot ignore the distortion of values, especially in the face of behaviors that are contrary to social order and good morals. If someone chooses to follow the path of a third person, then such behavior is always harmful to other people's families, immoral, and will definitely be condemned. Even if we don't experience it ourselves, we should recognize that this is the wrong path. Haiping's values clearly require deep reflection.
I often wonder if Haiping's values have always been like thisIn fact, her education about seaweed sometimes sounds very plausible and full of truth. However, when Seaweed gives some money**, Haiping's values are distorted. The reason behind this is simple: in the face of money, human nature sometimes shows its servility, and Haiping is such an example.
In addition, Haiping helps Seaweed hide the fact that she is someone else's. When Su Chun reminds Becky of the seaweed's movements, Haiping is furious and warns Su Chun not to meddle in their family's affairs. Su Chun's motive is to protect the seaweed, not wanting her to fall deeper and deeper, and not wanting Xiaobei to suffer more harm. However, Haiping does not understand this.
When Song Siming came to pick up Seaweed to attend the class reunion, Haiping personally sent her downstairs and said that she wanted to meet the man who took her sister. Song Siming behaved very calmly when he saw Haiping, and did not seem to feel panicked or guilty by her presence. If we imagine that it was Seaweed's parents who sent her downstairs, Song Siming might not have been able to maintain such calm. This shows that Song Siming has a certain grasp of Haiping, knowing that she knows about their relationship but chooses to remain silent.
Many people believe that the final tragic end of seaweed was caused by Haiping. I couldn't agree more. Haiping and Seaweed are both dolls driven by desire, but Haiping's desires are more hidden. If we choose to hide our values and leave ourselves at the mercy of desires, then we may end up on a path from which there is no turning back. This is something we need to be wary of. The craving for seaweed is obvious. Every time, it was she who nourished Haiping's desires and became the link between the two. Such"Heavy duty"Pressing on Seaweed's body made her fate extremely bumpy. And Haiping has always been safe and sound. This reminds me of a proverb: "Flies that covet honey will eventually drown in sweetness."