01 saw a sentence on the Internet: "Before the age of 30 is the age of being deceived, after the age of 30 is the age of discount." This expression is often used to describe women, young women are often bullied by men, and it is common for them to experience unhappy marriages. And once they reach the age of 30, women are facing heavy pressure to get married. In real life, many people hold a prejudice against leftover women, believing that women are not worth cherishing once they are not married after the age of 30, so it is very common for older unmarried women to be forced to marry. Many leftover women who were originally in superior conditions were eventually forced to embark on the road of blind dates, and they were under the pressure of blind dates again and again. However, they have their own requirements and really can't just get married. Because of this, many men make all kinds of ridicule of leftover women in blind dates and also condemn them for being too critical. This makes older leftover girls suffer a lot of sadness and helplessness, such as the 36-year-old leftover girl Xiaomeng, who has been in love twice before, but broke up because of incompatible personalities, and has been single until now. Xiaomeng has always been urged to marry by her family, so she had to succumb to the blind date, and she also experienced a lot of grievances in the blind date. Next, let's talk about Xiaomeng's experience in a blind date.
02 Xiaomeng graduated from a bachelor's degree and has a beautiful appearance, although she is 36 years old, she is still a beauty with outstanding temperament. Since last year, Xiaomeng has been participating in blind dates, and she has seen many men on blind dates, and feels that their conditions are really average, and many men don't even have half of their own salary. Xiaomeng said that her current monthly salary is fifteen thousand, but some men only earn five or six thousand a month, which makes her really unable to compromise. What she didn't expect was that some men were not in good condition, but they laughed at her for being too demanding in choosing a mate, and made all kinds of ridicule to the leftover women in the blind date, which really made people laugh and cry. In this way, Xiaomeng has gone through dozens of blind dates without success, and she really doesn't look down on those leftover men with poor conditions and bad conduct. Xiaomeng felt that it was really difficult to find a high-quality man who matched her conditions on a blind date, and she suffered a lot of grievances for this and felt very angry. For example, on a recent blind date, Xiaomeng met a strange man.
Originally, Xiaomeng thought that this man's conditions were okay, although there was a certain gap with her ideal conditions, but considering that this man was still very young, only 29 years old, and had potential in the future, she wanted to establish a relationship with him and get to know each other better. However, this man said that she was a material woman because she put forward two conditions, and then married a post-95 generation instead, which really made Xiaomeng very unwilling. The blind date man's behavior made Xiaomeng feel very angry, and she felt that this man was really unreasonable. She was originally beautiful and in good condition, so why should she marry a post-95?At that time, the man asked Xiaomeng if there were any other requirements for marriageWith a sincere attitude, Xiaomeng only put forward two small conditions: one is to have a house of more than 120 square meters, and the other is that the man is responsible for family expenses, and her salary must be kept by herself in case of emergency. Xiao Meng felt that her conditions were not too excessive, she didn't mention money at all, let alone ask for gifts or things like cars, or jewelry, and she had done her best to be very benevolent. However, after listening to Xiaomeng's conditions, the man said that he couldn't accept them, saying that these conditions were too high, which made Xiaomeng feel very surprised, didn't he want her to marry for nothing?
Xiaomeng really can't understand that although this man is young, his monthly salary is only more than 7,000 yuan, and the conditions are not good, so he can't even look down on her, it's really blind. In the end, the blind date between the man and Xiaomeng was unsuccessful, but they just added friends to each other on social **, and then they dispersed. Later, more than a month later, Xiaomeng happened to see the marriage ** released by this blind date man in the circle of friends, and she was really startled at the time. This blind date man didn't take a fancy to her before, but he suddenly married a young girl born in 95, which made Xiaomeng feel very unwilling, what is the gap between herself and the post-95 girl?In anger, Xiaomeng deleted the connection with this blind date man, and she was really angry. Xiaomeng said that she really doesn't want to participate in blind dates anymore, these men really don't know what they're thinking, and would rather marry a young girl who has nothing than marry a high-quality leftover girl like her, it's really too wronged, these men are too bad.
03 What inspiration does Xiaomeng's blind date experience bring us?The most important point is that the leftover men and women who participate in the blind date must understand that the blind date is a two-way selection process. When you choose the other party, the other party is also choosing you, which is equal, and both parties have the right to choose. For Xiaomeng, her advantage is that she is independent and capable, and she is a high-quality single woman, but the disadvantage is that she is older and not popular in the blind date market. For blind date men, their advantage is that they are young, but the disadvantage is that the economic conditions are poor. From this point of view, in reality these two people are not a match, they don't have what they need from each other, so it's hard to come together. Generally speaking, men usually choose young women when choosing a wife, which is also the fundamental reason why blind date men would rather marry a post-95 generation who has no conditions than marry an older leftover woman. For single women over the age of 30, they need a man with superior economic conditions in marriage, who is different from young women in choosing a mate, and tends to be more realistic.
Therefore, in real blind dates, most of them are failures, and it is difficult for leftover men and women to find suitable partners. Like the man Xiaomeng met on a blind date, he would rather marry a post-95 girl who has nothing than accept her, which shows that men pay more attention to women's age and reproductive foundation, and leftover women are not dominant in this regard. However, I also want to be fair to Xiaomeng, the two conditions she put forward are not high, requiring marriage to have a house, and the salary to be separated after marriage, there is nothing wrong with this, and it can be solved through communication after marriage. If it is said that Xiaomeng is a material woman because of these conditions, it is really a bit prejudiced, and she has no question of asking for money at all. Some men always casually talk about leftover women, which is not right, and it still needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.
Finally, it is recommended that the leftover men and women who participate in the blind date should have the correct cognition and attitude and not deviate from the correct view of marriage. Marriage is an important event in life, sincerity is paramount, and any marriage must not lack an emotional foundation, otherwise it will be difficult to be long and happy. In the process of blind date, if you meet the right person, please don't be too picky and cherish each other's feelings.