At the graduate level, our supervisors act as mentors and supporters, helping us academically and in our lives. However, private interactions with mentors need to be handled with caution to maintain a proper sense of proportion and distance. The mentor is our elder and teacher, and we should avoid words and actions that are too casual or intimate, so as not to embarrass the mentor or even affect the cooperative relationship between us.
In communication with their supervisors, graduate students may over-speculate on their supervisor's intentions and thus misinterpret their supervisor's rhetoric. For example, there are graduate students who interpret the "I've been always" message from their supervisor as an ambiguous implication, but in reality, the supervisor just wants to express that he or she is in the office all the time in order to provide help and guidance. Such a misunderstanding may be due to the fact that graduate students are under pressure to study and work, and they are nervous, so they will over-interpret the words of their supervisors. However, we need to be clear about the fact that a professional and respectful relationship should be maintained between the tutor and the student.
In addition, the graduate students intercepted part of the supervisor's words in the chat records and interpreted them in an exaggerated or inappropriate way, thus hyping up an ambiguous atmosphere, which is undoubtedly disrespectful to the supervisor and an invasion of personal privacy. We must clearly discern and avoid such misunderstandings, and not turn normal communication into guesswork and misreading in chat logs.
Recently, a graduate student posted a chat with his supervisor on social media and claimed that his relationship with his supervisor was somewhat ambiguous. However, when people look at these chat logs, they find that they are just the result of the graduate students' over-reading of their supervisors' words, and even make people doubt their mental state. Some of the short sentences in these chat logs were infinitely amplified and misinterpreted by the graduate students, making the otherwise ordinary communication ambiguous.
For example, when the supervisor responds to the graduate student's first draft whether it is complete, he uses the words "I have been doing it". Graduate students misinterpret this sentence as a hint that the supervisor has expectations for the graduate student, ignoring the actual meaning: the supervisor is in the office waiting for the student to come and ask for advice. Such an over-interpretation makes people laugh and cry. In fact, these are just ordinary exchanges, but they are infinitely exaggerated and misread by graduate students.
In addition, some graduate students intercept the words of their supervisors separately and interpret them in fragments, thus creating an incongruous atmosphere. For example, a graduate student said that his supervisor asked him if he had a cold outside, but immediately said that he didn't use it. Such an interpretation is like distorting the original intention of the guru and creating a sense of discomfort and insecurity.
Some graduate students are particularly sensitive to their supervisors' expressions, and even deliberately interpret their supervisors' ordinary words and deeds as ambiguous illusions. By intercepting parts of the guru's words individually, they distort the guru's true intentions and create a dramatic atmosphere. Such behavior is not only disrespectful to the instructor, but also detrimental to the establishment of a good teacher-student relationship.
In order to maintain a good student-faculty relationship, graduate students need to pay attention to the following points when getting along with their supervisors.
First of all, maintain a sense of proportion and comfort. We should be respectful and polite, and use appropriate salutations and polite language to communicate with the instructor. At the same time, show sincerity and gentleness, and avoid being low or arrogant. Show respect for the mentor's opinion in communication and avoid blind self-assertion.
Second, stay safe. We need to report the completion of tasks to our mentors in a timely manner and show a proactive approach to problem solving. At the same time, when problems cannot be solved, they should ask for advice and report progress to their mentors in a timely manner, showing an honest and responsible attitude. This builds a good relationship of mutual trust and cooperation between the tutor and the student.
Finally, maintain good communication and understanding skills. We need to respect the opinions of our mentors, not be self-centered, and learn to listen and understand our mentors' perspectives. When asking questions from your mentor, show a thirst for knowledge and an attitude towards learning. By asking questions with sincerity and demonstrating our pursuit of academic knowledge, we can deepen the trust and support of our mentors.
In the relationship between supervisors and graduate students, a sense of proportion, comfort and security is very important. Graduate students need to be mindful of their words and actions at all times to ensure a good relationship with their supervisors. It is only on the basis of professional cooperation and respect that we are able to receive better academic guidance and support. At the same time, graduate students should also abandon the excessive interpretation of the supervisor's words, so as not to misunderstand and misunderstand the real intentions of the supervisor.
In short, the mentor is our academic partner and elder, and the relationship with the tutor needs to maintain an appropriate sense of proportion and distance. We need to maintain a sense of comfort and security, and respect and understand each other in our interactions with our mentors. Through good communication and cooperation, we are able to get better academic guidance and support to successfully complete our postgraduate studies.