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In a relationship, no matter how deep the relationship is, you must abide by the bottom line, and abiding by the bottom line is not only a requirement for yourself, but also an expectation of the other party;Love that breaks through the bottom line, no matter how deep the love, is difficult to have a good result, just like a person likes another person, the other party does not cherish him, always hurts him, or crushes his nominal love, the true feeling of not moving, at this time if there is no principle, no self-esteem and humility "added" to another person, it will only make the other person inch by inch, often destroying the other side. I'm so tired of love.
If you don't want to see such a result, you must know how to respect yourself, pay attention to your own feelings, stick to the bottom line, and let the other party respect yourself and value your own feelings;If both parties can get along in this way, there will be an understanding on both sides: get along in a way that is acceptable to both parties.
In the field of love, no matter how affectionate you are, the 3 bottom lines can't be broken, you know?
1.Indulge in bad Xi and be too decadent.
Although if you love someone, you should accept "all" from the other person;Although you care about someone, you must also learn to tolerate some of the "shortcomings" of the other person;However, acceptance and tolerance are limited, not unlimited.
Some defects are unacceptable;Some mistakes cannot be easily tolerated;Especially after you accept him, lack of tolerance for his mistakes, the other party not only does not relent, but can not move an inch, and becomes more excessive, at this time you should abide by your own bottom line, and don't say "yes" when you should say "no".
If the other person indulges in bad Xi and lives too decadently;Other party gambling, domestic violence;Don't give up on these shortcomings and mistakes, otherwise you'll only make yourself more miserable.
2.Aggressive and disrespectful to others.
When the opposite sex gets along, they can respect each other, understand each other, understand each other, and two people will be very comfortable getting along, and only when they get along comfortably can the relationship between two people be likely to last for a long time.
If the other party doesn't understand this, uses this relationship as a bargaining chip, asks you casually, is aggressive, kidnaps you with love, lets you do this and that, and doesn't consider your opinion at all, and the other party dares to disrespect you and don't take you in his eyes, you will naturally have a hard time.
If you don't want to see such a result, you must abide by your bottom line, let the other party know what can be done for him and what he should not do, if the other party does not respect you and is aggressive, at this time you should give him a warning, so as not to break your bottom line again and again.
3.Breaking the oath will be a stab in the back.
Being together with the opposite sex and being loyal to each other is the basic morality of love, which is manifested in loving each other without distraction, doing one's best to maintain each other's lives with each other, and creating a better life with each other.
This should be the minimum bottom line, if the other party can't keep it and is unwilling to keep the love vows between you, they will do things that stab you, often disappointing you, the other party dares to treat you like this, if you repeatedly accommodate him, you will only let yourself suffer greater grievances, why bother again and again?
At this point, you should say "no" and keep your boundaries.