Author: Zeng Junliang.
In today's society, there are some phenomena that all the things of children are arranged by their parents and solved by their parents, and parents habitually want to control their children's lives, thinking that this is for the good of their children. As a result, the parents win the child, but the child loses the future. Children who grow up in such an environment have experienced too little since they were young, and there are too few opportunities to solve problems independently, so they have lost the ability to solve problems, and over time they have lost the courage to face problems, so when facing many problems, they always retreat and lack confidence, and do not know how to face them, which buries hidden dangers for the future development of children. Therefore, only by giving children the right to grow up and letting their children experience the life experience that they should have in childhood, can they not only grow up today, but also win the development of the future!
Children are human beings, and they have the right to live.
The right to life is the most basic human right, which refers to the child's inherent right to life, health and basic livelihood security. Writer Feng Jicai said: "The wind can blow away a large piece of paper, but it can't blow away a weak butterfly, because the power of life is disobedient." "A child is a living, spiritual being, not an object that can be manipulated by others, thrown away if you want to, and destroyed if you want to.
As long as the child comes to the world, he has obtained the right to live, no matter what kind of family situation, what kind of unfavorable factors the parents face, whether the child is ugly or handsome, injured or disabled, parents have no right to strangle, abandon, ignore this life, the family has the responsibility to create conditions for the healthy survival of children, provide guarantees, respect their dignity as human beings, otherwise it is a crime and a crime, but also a violation of the right to life.
When children come to this world, parents have a heavy responsibility to create the necessary conditions and a good environment for their children's survival. Raising children should become the spiritual motivation for parents to work hard and earn money to support their familiesCreating better living conditions for children should become the unshirkable responsibility of parents, and it is also the mission of the times entrusted by law.
Children are developing beings, and they have the right to develop.
The right to development refers to the right of children to fully develop all their physical and intellectual abilities and to enjoy the conditions that promote their physical, mental, spiritual and moral development. The child is only 6570 days from birth to 18 years old, every day has a special meaning for the child, these days are not only the preparation of life, but also should enjoy the unforgettable life that nature gives him childhood, only after such a stage, the healthy development of human body and mind can become possible.
A misunderstanding of today's education is that the child's present is only for his future, and desperately letting the child go to a good kindergarten is to go to a key primary school, and a good primary school is to go to a good middle school....... However, the maturity of the child's present and personality and the various needs of being a child are largely ignored, and sacrificing the present for the sake of the future results in creating obstacles to their development and deviating from the normal track.
In nurturing children, we should not only lay the foundation for a happy life for children in the long run, but also create a happy life for the present. It is necessary to enrich children's lives, develop children's hobbies, and promote children's moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic, and labor education and all-round development. Children like nature, games and activities, social interactions, arts and sports, and exploration. We must appropriately meet the various needs of children's growth and development, and promote children's physical and mental health and happy growth in children's diversified development and diverse lives
Children are weak, immature people who have the right to protection.
The right to protection refers to the right of children to be free from discrimination, abuse and neglect, with the aim of reducing disadvantages in the child's survival and development. From the day of birth, the child is a citizen of the State, and the fundamental rights of adult citizens are enjoyed by minors, with the exception of certain rights that can only be enjoyed by adult citizens by law. At the same time, children are a special group and enjoy special protection rights that are different from those of adult citizens. For example, children enjoy the right of adult guardianship, the right not to be harmed by domestic violence, and the right to lenient punishment when minor children break the law and commit crimes. Special protection for children is a shared responsibility of all societies.
There was once a little child who had a very low self-esteem since he was a child, because he was born with a disease that caused him to be lame. So, his entire childhood was spent in the silence of one person. One day, the child's father gave everyone a task to plant a tree for each child, and after 1 month, the child who planted the best tree could receive a gift from his father. He also wanted to get a gift, but when he saw his brothers and sisters jumping and watering the little tree, he looked down at his lame feet, cried in disappointment, and even made a gray wish in his heart: he hoped that his tree would wither soon. He watered it with great difficulty and left his little tree to fend for itself.
A month later, he was amazed to find that the little tree he had planted was not dead, but had sprouted green leaves. So he got a gift, he smiled heartily for the first time, and was praised by his father as the best botanist. Since then, the boy has become confident and sunny, and he believes that he can do miracles again. One night, the boy wanted to see how the little tree grew in the moonlight, so he secretly ran to the woods, but he saw a figure in the distance, watering and fertilizing his little tree, and that figure was his father. Decades later, the little boy became America's **, and his name was Roosevelt.
There will be many things in life, some make people cry, some make people laugh, and some even just make people silent, but there is no success in life for no reason, everything may be that your parents are behind you to hold up a sky of love, so that the child's little tree can grow rapidly.
The child is a minor, and he has to be given the right to make mistakes.
If a child is criticized and scolded once he makes a mistake, then he will lose the desire to explore in the future and become a "good child" who looks at the faces of adults. They should be let go and learn from trial and error. When a child makes a mistake or makes a mistake, parents should not give too much criticism, but should empathize with the child, so that the child can consciously make up for the mistake and correct the mistake from the direct consequences of the mistake or mistake. The child is a minor, should be given the "right to trial and error", encourage him to explore more, dare to practice, in the guidance of science, in the open education, encourage the child to dare to **, dare to take risks, through the wind and rain, see the world, in order to take the initiative in the future world, innovation and creation!
In the Montessori educational philosophy, children are advocated to do their own things, use their own brains, do what they want to do, and use their own brains to think about the problems to be solved. The child's many setbacks and final success in solving every little thing will become a valuable asset for the child. Since childhood, he can experience and experience facing problems and solving problems, so that he will face up to problems, think about problems, and solve problems in the future, so that we can see more outstanding talents with courage, courage to challenge and ability in the future society.
Children are independent human beings and they have the right to participate.
The right to participation refers to the right of children to participate in family and social life and to express their opinions on matters affecting their lives. Children have their own thoughts, needs, and the characteristics and patterns of their own growth, even when they are newborn. When a certain age is reached, children have the right to express their opinions and make decisions when they have opinions on their own affairs. In the growth of children, parents should start by letting children participate in family building, family management and housework, so that children can be deeply involved and fully experienced. In fact, everything adults do for children is to provide support and create conditions for children's growth, and cannot replace children's growth, nor should they impose on them what is not suitable for children in society.
The role of parents is to lead, no matter how correct the concept, how scientific the method is mastered, and how much effort is made, if it cannot be applied to their own children, it cannot be accepted by the children, it will be of no avail. A child is a person, a capital "person". Treating children as the subject of rights and respecting and protecting children's rights is the foundation of family education.
Many parents impose their life's longing and hope on their children, hoping that their children can make up for their regrets in life and complete the unfinished career for them. As a result, educating children is more about meeting the needs of the parents themselves than the needs of the children. The best education is for a child to be himself. Parents can sing and applaud their children's love and give their children the right to develop independently, which is a great encouragement for children. A child who is valued in childhood, a child who can fully develop independently, will have strong self-confidence and confidence, he can live his life in the way he likes, with a rich heart, a full life, a heavy life, and a happy life!