What are you going to do if you ask, if your child is being bullied at school?Then I will definitely answer you and find out for yourself. Why?Because in a previous article, we shared such an article. Let's start with an article about school bullying by Hirohito Kyoshi, do you have an impression?
Today, we will continue this article, and in the last part of the article, we will also tell you what to do if you really encounter school bullying. Without further ado, let's get started.
Mental Normalisation: The balance of emotions is "the harmony between the elephant and the elephant rider".
I myself have encountered incidents of "children being bullied at school", once in kindergarten and once in the fourth grade of elementary school.
When I was in kindergarten, one night, I found that the child had a large red spot on his neck, and the child said that the kindergarten children made it, so I called ** to ask the kindergarten teacher about the situation, and the teacher said that I didn't see a conflict between the children, and I would help find out tomorrow.
The next day, I knew that it was a little boy who liked our children too much, and he kissed them when he hugged them, no light or heavy.
This reminds me of a ** on the Internet a few days ago, when the father found that his daughter who was in kindergarten was slapped by the teacher, the father rushed over and punched and kicked the teacher.
The second time was when I was in the fourth grade of elementary school, the child's knees and hands were broken, and the child told me that it was caused by the sports committee of their class chasing her, and I was also very angry at the time, but I calmed down and asked the child what the specific situation was, and she said that it was after school, she ran in front, and the sports committee chased behind, and there was a stone she didn't pay attention to, and she tripped over.
I later called the teacher and told me about the situation, I mean it's still dangerous. The child's mother apologized that night and brought a box of chocolates to the child the next day.
The prefrontal cortex of our brain is much younger than the limbic system, and the law of the jungle gene inherits our fight-and-flight response is the most rapid, and when we are angry, we often make decisions that are not rational enough, because emotions bypass our prefrontal cortex and act directly on the limbic system.
At this time, we need to take a deep breath, calm down, stop the elephant that is about to lose control, and think again about which direction we are going.
The way parents deal with the incident will have a direct impact on the child. Although it is very cool to fight violence with violence, I personally think it is still not advisable, especially in front of children, and the behavior of parents is an example for children to follow.
My child has a boy in elementary school who likes to bully his classmates, and his father treats him as "violent discipline".
The Analects of the Constitution: "Or say: 'How can you repay grievances with virtue?'"Zi said: "How can you repay virtue?"Repay grievances with straightforwardness and repay virtue with virtue. ’”
Correct Psychology: What Should We Do When We Encounter Real School Bullying?
In the experience of psychological counseling, I did encounter children who were bullied.
1) There is a case of a woman who has been working, was bullied in high school, her family and school could not support her, and the long-term bullying caused her to suffer from mental illness, and she is still doing psychological counseling.
2) Another case, a girl in the second year of high school, was bullied by her classmates and had depression and self-harm behaviors.
When our children are really bullied at school, how can we protect our children as parents?
First of all, we must give our children unwavering loving support, so that they know that it is not his fault that he is bullied, and that his family will always be his safe haven.
Secondly, we should understand the whole process of the matter, establish good communication with the child, and do not criticize or blindly blame angrily.
Third, find the school to understand the situation, ask the school to intervene, and if the situation is serious, you need to call the police to deal with it.
Fourth, if none of the above can be solved, you can consider transferring your child to another school. At the same time, seek counseling from a psychological counselor.
Children are priceless for every family, every parent wants to protect their children from the wind and rain, and hope that their children will grow up carefree, but we cannot guarantee that the external environment will always be safe and secure, nor can we guarantee that others can respect each other as much as themselves.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish, the same is true in children's education, we cannot always block all the harm for children, our emotional balance, maturity, for children, is the best textbook. Teach children how to protect themselves and how to ask for help when facing harm.
Only when the elephant and the elephant rider live in harmony can life be happy. This is also the greatest wish of parents.
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