"There are four etiquette not to follow", don't worry about being embarrassed, don't go to these four etiquette, there is no meaning
Have you ever encountered such a situation, just after the salary, you were embarrassed by all kinds of personal accidents?Do you feel that courtesy is a kind of etiquette and a burden?Have you ever thought that some courtesies don't need to be casual at all, and even casual ones make people look down on them?
In China, the exchange of gifts is a kind of traditional culture, but also a kind of human sophistication. We salute to express our hearts and maintain relationships. However, some people take advantage of this culture and deliberately set a trap so that you will never return the gift money that you give out.
Some people, obviously have lost contact, but suddenly come to the door and ask you to give a gift, in fact, to take advantage of you. Some people, who usually disdain you, but when he has a happy event, let you give a gift, in fact, to show off his status.
You don't have to pay attention to these people, and you don't have to follow their courtesies. Because these rituals, not only do they have no meaning, but they will put you in trouble, make you lose your dignity, and make you a wronged leader.
Today, I will tell you that there are four kinds of etiquette, you must not follow, don't be embarrassed, don't go to these four etiquette, you can live a relaxed life!
The first is the gift of excess
Some people just like to take advantage of small advantages, they will use all kinds of excuses to let you do the same, for example, someone in his family gets married, someone has a child, someone celebrates a birthday, someone gets promoted, someone buys a house, someone buys a car, ......In short, as long as he can think of it, it can be a reason for him to let you salute.
They will also deliberately say that you can follow as much as others want, but in fact, they just want you to give more, embarrass you, and make you embarrassed.
This kind of person, you don't pay attention to him, and you don't follow his courtesy. Because he doesn't care about your heart, but only your money. He will not appreciate your gifts, but will think that you deserve them, or even think that you are less. He will not reciprocate your gifts, but will feel that you owe him, and will even ask you again.
His etiquette is not a ceremony, it is a trap, it is blackmail, it is a bottomless pit, the more you follow, the more greedy he is, you can never finish it, you will never be enough.
The second is the gift of not being in touch for a long time
Some people just like to act, they will suddenly call you when they haven't contacted you for a long time, or send a message, or add you to WeChat, and then chat with you about some irrelevant topics, for example, how have you been doing recently, do you remember the past, do you miss him or something, etc.
In fact, their purpose is to let you follow the ceremony, for example, he is getting married, he is going to have a full moon wine, he is going to start a company, and he is going to go abroad......In short, as long as he can make it up, it can be a reason for him to let you do it. They will also pretend to be very affectionate, miss and attach great importance to you, in fact, they just want you to be tempted, move you, and make you pay for it.
Don't believe in this kind of person, don't follow his courtesy. Because he doesn't care about your feelings at all, he only cares about your exploitation. He will not really communicate with you, but will perfunctory your greetings and even forget your name.
He will not really be friends with you, but will take advantage of your sympathy and even speak ill of you behind your back. His etiquette, not etiquette, is **, is a use, is a pot of porridge, the more you follow, the more fake he is, you will never be clear, you will never be right.
The third is the salute of no one in the eyes.
Some people just like to show off themselves, they will usually disdain you, even sneer, but when he has a happy event, they will let you give you a gift, for example, he bought a new house, bought a new car, got a new job, changed a new job, ......In short, as long as he can show off, it can be a reason for him to let you salute.
They will also deliberately say that it doesn't matter how much you want, anyway, he is not short of money, in fact, he just wants to make you feel inferior, make you jealous, and make you bow your head.
This kind of person, you don't have to be afraid of him, you don't follow his courtesy. Because he doesn't care about your dignity at all, only your submission. He will not respect your courtesy, but will laugh at your poverty and even make fun of you. He will not thank you for your courtesy, but will despise your flattery and even despise your existence.
His courtesy, not courtesy, is a trap, is an insult, is a temptation, the more you follow, the more arrogant he becomes, you can never afford to follow it, you will never follow it badly.
Fourth, there is the gift of going and not returning
Some people just like to take advantage of others, and they will let you do it when they have something to do, for example, they are married, have children, have birthdays, move, change jobs, ......In short, as long as he can find it, it can be a reason for him to let you salute.
They will also say that if you follow him, he will follow you in the future, in fact, they just want to reassure you, reassure you, and let you be fooled. However, when you have something, he will find all kinds of excuses, and he can't shirk it, or he doesn't follow the courtesy, or he doesn't follow the pathetic amount, in fact, he just wants to disappoint you, make you feel cold, and make you regret it.
Don't believe in this kind of person, don't follow his courtesy. Because he doesn't care about your friendship at all, he only cares about your dedication. He will not keep your promise, but will make excuses and even forget about you. He won't return your gift, but will pretend not to know, and even ask you again. His courtesy, not courtesy, is deception, is taking advantage, is wishful thinking, the more you follow, the more greedy he is, you will never go back, you will never be peaceful.
These four kinds of etiquette, you must not follow, don't worry about being embarrassed, don't go to these four kinds of etiquette, there is no meaning. Because these rites are not real rites, but a disguise, a kind of interest, and a kind of calculation. With these gifts, you will not only lose money, but also lose dignity, friendship, and self.
Your gift will not be exchanged for their gratitude, their friendliness, their respect, or their return. Your courtesy will only make them more greedy, more hypocritical, more arrogant, and more shameless.
The most popular opinion of netizens in China is that these four kinds of etiquette should not only be followed, but also refused, debunked, and counterattacked.
Because these gifts are an insult to us, a provocation to us, and a challenge to us. Only by rejecting these gifts can we protect our own interests, maintain our dignity, maintain our principles, and show our backbone. Only by rejecting these gifts can we let them know that we are not soft persimmons, we are not wronged, we are not easy to bully, and we are not easy to speak.
These four rites exist because of the greed of some people, the vanity of some people, the selfishness of some people, and the ignorance of others.
These people, take advantage of our kindness, take advantage of our politeness, take advantage of our sympathy, take advantage of our ignorance, make us courteous, let us be deceived, let us be detrimented.
If we don't stop it in time, resist it in time, sober up in time, and realize it in time, then these rituals will become more and more, more and more rampant, more and more shameless, and more and more terrifying. At that time, our wallets, our hearts, our lives, and our society will be poisoned by these rituals