Introduction: Both men and women should have the ability to think independently. Only by having your own ideas and sticking to them firmly can you find a solution to a problem and clarify your goals and pursuits.
1) Qiang Tsai looked at his sleeping wife, and under the warm yellow night light, he hesitated whether to divorce his wife. She breathes evenly and appears to be sleeping soundly. She didn't seem to take the daytime quarrel with his mother to heart, which worried him a little.
His mother urged him to get a divorce, and he wondered if his wife would be able to sleep peacefully if he had the idea of divorce too.
Qiang Zai recalled the day they met three years ago, and his heart was full of doubts. He said he wasn't without feelings for love, but it wasn't particularly strong either. They got along for a year and had feelings for each other before they got married.
It is often said that the road knows the horsepower and sees the hearts of the people over time. After getting married, some of the wife's shortcomings gradually became apparent.
Qiang Zai's mother once brought some autumn clothes and pants from the city back to sell, the quality was very good, Qiang Zai's mother bought four sets, one for the whole family. When the other villagers saw it, they also wanted to buy it, but Qiang Zai's wife said, "Mom, why do you buy so much?"
These are all goods that can't be sold in my cousin's store, and the color is either red or black, which is not good-looking. Are you afraid that you won't be able to buy something nice if you have money?This made the second aunt very embarrassed, although Qiang Zai's mother knew that these goods could not be sold, and just wanted to help digest the inventory.
Afterwards, Qiang Zai's mother told her daughter-in-law not to speak too directly in the future, but the wife felt that she was not wrong. Later, something similar happened many times, and everyone thought that Qiangzai's wife couldn't speak.
And when Qiang Zai's wife gave birth to her daughter a year later, she planned to go to work, but she couldn't try several jobs, and later learned that she didn't finish elementary school. At that time, the matchmaker said that she graduated from a secondary school, and after Qiang Zai's mother found out, she understood why she couldn't speak so much, it turned out that it was because she read too little.
Qiang Tsai stayed awake all night and got up early to go to the market to shop. On the way, he ran into his cousin, and the two chatted a few words. Qiang Tsai told his cousin that there was a problem in his marital relationship with his wife, and that there was a fierce quarrel between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law yesterday.
His mother asked him for a divorce because the Frozen Mountain was not a day's cold. Yesterday, his mother wore a new set of clothes, and Qiangzai, nieces and nephews and aunts all complimented her on how well she looked.
However, the wife said that the color and style of this dress were good, but it was not suitable for people with dark skin and more wrinkles like my mother. When the mother heard this, her face was not very good, so she found an excuse to go to the chicken pen to feed the chickens.
Who knows, the wife also shouted loudly: "If you take care of something less, you won't look so old." After hearing this, the mother said angrily, "Do you think I care about you?"
If you are highly educated, I will not bother to pay attention to you. When his wife heard this, her face instantly became ugly, and she began to loudly scold his family for being poor, scolding the son taught by his mother-in-law for being incapable and unable to support the family, and letting his wife go out to earn hard-earned ......moneyShe felt that she had married the wrong person.
4) Qiang Zai heard his wife scolding him for being incompetent, and he felt a little uncomfortable. As a man, he always had a little bit of self-esteem. And he's been working hard to make money ......He felt that his wife's way of speaking was too hurtful.
Afterwards, the mother analyzed with him and said that his wife had a low level of education and might not be able to educate her children well in the future. The level of education is low, the speech is ugly, and the words that come out, the cattle can't step on it.
The low level of education and low income do not help the family economy in any way......At that time, they didn't know that she had not graduated from elementary school, and their family had been deceived by a matchmaker.
It's not too late to know. It is better to divorce as soon as possible, and if the daughter-in-law wants children, they will not fight. They are willing to pay more monthly child support but do not want the child ......The mother was right-hearted, and Qiang Zai felt that what his mother said made some sense.
As the saying goes, marrying a bad wife will ruin three generations. However, Qiang Zai is reluctant to have children, as for his wife, although his words are ugly and hurt his heart, he has been married for three years, and he has a relationship for four years before and after, not that divorce can be easily parted.
After hearing this, my cousin smiled and said, "There are no good words to scold each other, and there is no good punch to fight each other." After a quarrel, what good words can she have?You don't have to take what your wife says to heart, it's all angry talk.
Do you think about it, did she usually say that you are not capable?Qiang Zai thought for a while and felt that what his cousin said made sense, and he agreed. It's just ......He sighed, "Although she doesn't read much, my mother thinks she will be able to teach children well in the future."
My mother just said don't expect her to be able to marry and raise children, but she is afraid that she will offend her relatives and friends by not being able to speak. When the time comes, there is something to help at home, and no one is willing to help.
My cousin smiled and said, "You are a man, you are a good person, your wife can't speak, and your relatives and friends who are sensible will naturally understand." Qiang Zai didn't speak, and his mother's education was not high.
It's just that his mother may have been born to speak, and she is very measured when talking to outsiders. Unlike his wife, although she can't speak, she is responsible for her children and family.
The cousin looked at him and said earnestly: "Everyone has shortcomings, cousin speaks straight, and your biggest shortcoming is your lack of assertiveness. You have to learn to make your own decisions and don't always listen to your mother.
On the way home, Qiang Zai thought for a long time. Although his wife is not highly educated and cannot express, she is very industrious and never spends money indiscriminately. Every New Year's Day, she either gives money to Qiangzai's parents or buys them gifts.
After work, she is always the first to come home to do housework. On top of that, they already have children, and if they get divorced, the children will be hurt. Even if you remarry, there is no guarantee that you will find someone better than your wife.
After all, no one is perfect, no gold is barefoot, everyone has shortcomings, and marriage requires tolerance and understanding from both parties. As a human being, we should have our own opinions, and we should deliberate about other people's suggestions before deciding whether to accept them.
A college student marries a person with an elementary school culture, and although the wife can't speak, it doesn't mean that their marriage can't continue.