The aunt beat her granddaughter angrily for a piece of watermelon, and six years later, she went to her son-in-law's house to put forward conditions!
My mother-in-law was indeed a different person, with a stubborn personality and always doing things that were difficult for ordinary people to understand. My wife and brother-in-law have a lot of opinions about her. However, I have a soft spot for her. When I got married, my mother-in-law didn't ask for anything too much, and I'm very grateful for that.
However, gradually, I found out that my mother-in-law's heart was not kind, and she asked for a dowry not because she was kind, but just to let her daughters marry quickly. Listening to my wife tell about the past of the family, the more I listened, the more unbelievable I felt, and I felt that my mother-in-law was really a little vicious.
For example, if there are delicious snacks at home, the mother-in-law will secretly ask her wife to go out to buy them, and then give the snacks to the brother-in-law. Or, because of some trivial matter, she will reproach his wife harshly. Whenever my wife mentioned these things, she was disgusted, and I could only comfort her as best I could.
Despite all the unpleasant things my wife has been through, my mother-in-law behaves well in front of me. Maybe it's because she respects me more as a son-in-law?It may also be because she is older, and people will get better when they get older. In short, whenever I see my wife and brother-in-law angry with my mother-in-law, I feel sorry for her. It didn't take long for me to pay the price for my misguided sympathy.
There was a time when my wife was going to work and I was in a hurry at work. I was going to send my daughter to my mom's house, but I found out that she was traveling with a group. I had no choice but to send my daughter to my mother-in-law's house and ask her to take care of her for a few hours. After all, she often helps her brother-in-law take care of the children, and I can't overstate it for me to take care of her for a few hours.
I mistakenly thought that when I finished work to pick up my daughter, I would find that her eyes were swollen and she was still crying. Ask her what happened, and she didn't say a word. The mother-in-law said angrily"She almost ate my watermelon, and if she eats too much, she will have diarrhea, aren't you asking for trouble?"I got angry and quarreled with my mother-in-law, and my daughter was scared and cried, so I had no choice but to leave with my daughter.
Later, my daughter told me what had happened. My daughter was slapped for eating watermelon, while her cousin (who was her brother-in-law's daughter) was not slapped for eating watermelon. When I heard the news, my heart ached so much that I wanted to smash my mother-in-law's house.
When my wife came back, she scolded me for being confused, thinking that I shouldn't have left my daughter with my mother-in-law. She cried and said"Do you want me to make my daughter suffer what I have suffered again?Seeing my wife so sad, I sympathized with her and blamed myself. In the future, I will never be soft-hearted to sympathize with my mother-in-law.
In fact, my mother-in-law slapped my daughter, not just because of the watermelon, but to show off to her brother-in-law. She wanted her brother-in-law's children to get special care, so she didn't hesitate to slap my daughter to win their hearts. I deeply felt that it was not necessary, but my mother-in-law often did it.
I remember one time, my wife and my brother-in-law had a quarrel over a trivial matter. In less than two minutes, the mother-in-law called, reprimanded the woman fiercely, and said:"If you don't apologize to your brother again, the relationship between our mother and daughter will be broken. "After being reprimanded, the woman was not angry, her face was completely expressionless, and I knew that her heart was completely cold.
Although the relationship did not break down, the mother-in-law eventually moved to the brother-in-law's house as she wished, and implied that she was with the brother-in-law. Even if she wants to come to our house to care for the elderly, we will not agree, after all, she has done too many unpleasant things.
I don't have any feelings for my mother-in-law, she's just a mother-in-law, I don't have anything to do with her, but my wife is different. Her mother-in-law is her mother, but her mother-in-law does a lot of crazy things and causes her a lot of pain.
Once, I asked my wife what she thought of her mother-in-law, and she replied coldly"There's nothing to think about, she just feels like I owe it to her and she has to pay for it. "She said it very easily, and if others listened, they might accuse her of being unfilial, but I understood everything and was very supportive of my wife's opinion.
Many years have passed, and my daughter has gradually grown up and stepped out of the shadow of the slap she once received. Although our family is not wealthy, we can barely make ends meet. However, the mother-in-law's situation is getting worse day by day. A few years ago, my brother-in-law divorced and lived alone with a child, which was very difficult, not to mention the responsibility of supporting his mother-in-law.
Therefore, there are often conflicts between the brother-in-law and the mother-in-law, and quarrels have become commonplace. Whenever they quarreled, my brother-in-law would hit ** to confide in my wife, so as soon as we received **, we knew that there was trouble at home again. At first, the wife tried her best to calm them down, but after a long time, she got bored.
Gradually, my brother-in-law raised the question of whether or not to send my mother-in-law to a nursing home. At that time, his wife was very angry and rebuked him and said that he should not have such thoughts;His mother, although she had an eccentric temper, was very good to him. However, there is nothing we can do about his brother-in-law's indifferent attitude.
My wife finally decided to take my mother-in-law into our house to take care of her, and my brother-in-law was very happy about it. However, when we came to my brother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law reprimanded us with very strong words. Of course, this was just for the little brother-in-law to see, and when my mother-in-law scolded us, we all chose to be silent. It wasn't until the brother-in-law couldn't bear it anymore and began to scold her mother-in-law that the mother-in-law closed her mouth.
Things have reached a point where they have no choice but to return to China gloomily. Before leaving, my wife even said angrily:"I don't want to get involved in any of these things again"。
What else can I say about all this?In fact, the mother-in-law is so confused that she doesn't know right from wrong, and she doesn't know who is good to her. She can only favor the little brother-in-law. However, it was this little brother-in-law who made her feel helpless and ended up sending her to a nursing home instead of us.
Later, we chose not to interfere in these matters, and my mother-in-law continued to live with my brother-in-law, and the conflict between them became more and more serious, and the family relationship became more and more strained. When the brother-in-law complained to his wife again, the wife simply ignored her. Surprisingly, however, it was the mother-in-law who complained later.
I remember one time, my mother-in-law cried and called my wife, saying that she was living very hard at her son's house, and the food at home was closed, and she had been hungry for a long time, and she didn't even have anything to eat. My mother-in-law cried very sadly when she said this, and we felt very angry that she had been treated unfairly.
Although the mother-in-law is confused, she can't treat the old man like this. So, my wife took me to my brother-in-law's house in person. The wife is a straightforward person, and when she saw her brother-in-law, she asked bluntly"Why are you locking up the rice and not letting our mom eat?This is too much.
The brother-in-law was amused and said with a smile"My son is also nearby, just ask him. "The little boy said suspiciously"The rice is not locked, in the kitchen cupboard, who will lock the rice?I'll show you there. "The boy led us into the kitchen, and sure enough, the rice was unlocked, the fridge was full of food, and there were snacks on the coffee table in the living room. Seeing this, we all realized that my mother-in-law had lied to us.
The wife severely reprimanded the mother-in-law, and unexpectedly, the mother-in-law chose to remain silent and continued to cry. For onlookers, the scene was moving. The brother-in-law said calmly under the gaze of everyone"I'm too busy to take care of her, she just wants to gain sympathy. Why don't you take your mother to your home to care for the elderly?
I kept silent, after all, this is an internal conflict in the family, and I have no right to interfere. However, his wife was moved by these words, her eyes were red, and she went straight to the car to find her mother-in-law and took her mother-in-law home to care for the elderly. Faced with my wife's decision, I could not object and could only accept my mother-in-law to come to our house.
When the mother-in-law came, as soon as she entered the door, her daughter turned pale with fright and quickly hid in the room. The scene in front of me made my heart ache, and my wife also felt guilty. I found a place for my mother-in-law on the couch and put forward three conditions on the spot. We can only stay if she agrees, otherwise we will have to send her home.
First of all, the first condition is not to swear, not to quarrel, not to fight. Although her mother-in-law is old, she is still as sharp as ever. If she provokes another quarrel in our house, our family will be in trouble. So this needs to be clearly defined.
Secondly, the second condition is that the house in my hometown should be ours. A few years ago, my mother-in-law was proud to say:"Everything I do belongs to my son, and I don't have to worry about my daughter's retirement. "Now it's our turn to worry about it, and of course some practical benefits are needed. Now it's our turn to worry about, and we certainly need some practical benefits.
Finally, the third condition is that the mother-in-law apologizes to my daughter for what happened at that time. We all saw our daughter's performance today, and she also had a shadow in her heart. If the mother-in-law is unwilling to apologize, the daughter will live in panic every day, and such a family will not last long.
After these three conditions were proposed, the wife was silent, and the mother-in-law also lowered her head. After a period of waiting, the wife finally spoke:"Promised?"The mother-in-law nodded slightly. Then, I called my daughter ** and saw that she accepted her mother-in-law's apology. At this time, I felt a sense of relief in my heart, knowing that I might be able to pass the rest of my life smoothly.