The Chinese drama is too far away to be played!After the hexagram, the situation changed, and the action of stealing the notice mother changed!
The Chinese Theater is too far away to go!"The mother who eavesdropped on her daughter's warning changed her mind after a fortune telling.
Some time ago, one thing attracted a lot of attention:"A mother withheld her daughter's acceptance letter, preventing her from entering college"。
Jiajia, a 17-year-old girl from Chongqing, was successfully admitted to the ** Drama Academy, which should be a thing worth celebrating and proud of.
Regrettably, however, the mother was leaving a message"I'm sorry"After that, he took away his daughter's admission notice, ID card, real estate registration book and other documents and hid them.
Her reason is that Beijing is too far away from home, and she hopes that her daughter can stay in Chongqing and become a teacher for the rest of her life.
His selfish desire to ruin his daughter's bright future is chilling.
Luckily, the girl managed to contact the staff of the Chinese Theater and successfully checked in.
However, it didn't end there. When Jiajia's mother returned home, she gave the Bodhisattva the decision to decide whether to let her daughter go to Beijing, and the Bodhisattva concluded through divination that her daughter could go to Beijing.
Although the mother reluctantly agreed to the decision, she did not return the admission notice, claiming that she had lost it.
Jiajia didn't even dare to tell her the time of the ticket, lest her mother continue to obstruct her and plan to leave quietly when school started.
Although on the surface, the incident was more or less resolved, the tug-of-war between mother and daughter did not end.
This time she was prevented from going to school, will she be locked up next time?
If you don't want her to go to college right now, hide the warning;Will this affect her choice of school in the future, and even control her job and marriage?
I don't want to use it"Stupid, selfish, feudal, strong"to describe this mother, but I can understand her care and dependence on her daughter.
However, this excessive control is really suffocating.
Every child has his or her own dignity and agency.
Not long ago, I saw a ** about a girl who had a birthday and her parents took her to a photo studio for a portrait shoot. The original intention was to make their daughter happy, but the parents kept proposing the so-called"Aesthetic criticism"：
Why did you choose this pose?It looks like you're doing a weird dance, can't you just shoot a normal one?"
When it comes to choosing, they always reject their daughter's choice:
This face is not as good as the previous one, why did you choose it?"
This one looks like a zombie and isn't pretty at all"
In the midst of her mother's criticism, the daughter cried angrily.
Every second of this ** of less than 30 seconds is breathtaking, and every second breaks this girl's heart.
Something like this happens all around us every day.
This excessive control over children tends to carry over into adulthood.
Even if you are married and have children, it seems that you still need to be in the eyes of your parents"Management"。
I'm 25 years old, but I still get goosebumps when I hear my mom talk.
Luckily we didn't live together, and if someone said that to me every day, I would be crazy"
Once you're a parent, it's easy to forget one thing: children are more sensitive and vulnerable than you think.
The American psychologist James Dobson once said:
There are a thousand ways to make a child lose their self-esteem, but rebuilding it is a slow and difficult process"。
In the eyes of children, even the smallest things are very important.
Perhaps children are too young to act defiantly, even if their feelings are ignored.
But one day, when children grow up, these experiences will become inner seeds that will slowly take root in their hearts.
All children who are ignored because of their inner feelings fall into deep self-doubt and self-loathing.
This cycle repeats itself, and eventually becomes a permanent scar on the child's soul.
The closer we get.
The more the child wants to run away.
Someone will say:"Can't you take care of the kids?
Listen to me: it's early in the morning.
My generation grew up in these stereotypical family scripts, where parents worked hard to raise their children** and children worked hard to meet their parents' expectations.
However, the younger generation has a strong sense of self from an early age.
In this regard, what I feel most deeply is the way Jin Chen gets along with his father in "Daughter's Love".
Kim Chen's father worked hard to discover his daughter's work through a variety of sources, including her closest friends.
However, the closer the father gets, the more the daughter wants to run away.
Jin Chen revealed on the show that his father's biggest concern is that he always calls ** to ask him about his work and life.
In order to avoid this kind of interference, Jin Chen even chose not to reply to text messages or **, blocking his parents from the circle of friends.
Doesn't Jin Chen understand father's love?
Of course I understand!With tears in her eyes, she bowed deeply to her father who wrote her letter during the show.
She didn't know how to respond to this heavy love.
This generation is more focused on space and the inherent freedom of its existence.
After entering puberty, they do not want to be a good baby in the eyes of their parents and are keen to follow their parents' advice.
What they need most is personal space, and too many worries and distractions will only suffocate them.
That's why I've always believed that the most important thing to grow up as a father is to respect the child's existence as an individual.
At the same time, we are all independent individuals, and when children encounter problems, there is no need to always find the cause from ourselves, we are the most important thing.
Between parents and children, it is necessary to find a balance in a symbiotic relationship in order to achieve complete independence, full understanding and mutual respect.
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