The 48-year-old sister is on a blind date, and the 62-year-old uncle I will take care of your retirement salary, uncle, no
For women who do not have stable jobs, pensions and pensions, the question of the future pension is indeed a big worrying problem. Some women actively consider marrying an elderly person with a pension to ensure a better life in the future. As long as they can provide financial support, even if they are older, they are considered.
One example is the 48-year-old Sister Su. Her husband died ten years ago. In order for her daughter to go to college, she never remarried until her daughter finished college. Now, her daughter is studying in other places, and Sister Su is alone at home. Sometimes, loneliness leaves her feeling at a loss as to how to fill the void. As a result, she began to think about her marriage.
Sister Su, who is 48 years old, hopes to find an elderly person with a stable pension to live with if she remarries. If the other party has no pension and no retirement pension, it is not within her consideration. Sister Su participated in many blind dates, but only Uncle Luo met her expectations. Here's the story of their blind date, and I'll use the first person to tell it for better presentation.
My name is Sister Su and I am 48 years old this year. Jobs have been less stable and there has been no opportunity to buy a pension. More than 10 years ago, my husband passed away due to illness, and we only have one daughter.
In order to ensure my daughter's happiness, I chose to raise her alone instead of remarrying. Now, my daughter is in college, and because she is studying in another place, I am often alone at home and feel very lonely.
The issue of retirement is an important consideration for me at the moment. Many of my friends and classmates have stable jobs, and some of my sisters have purchased pension insurance, so their future is guaranteed.
However, due to my limited means, I was unable to purchase pension insurance. It was also quite difficult to reintegrate into society and find a job, and I felt very anxious considering that my good sisters were secure and I had nothing.
So I came up with the idea of spending my old age with someone who had a pension. Even though I'm 48 years old, I feel like I still have a lot of good times to have. As for the man's age, I don't mind being a little older, as long as he can provide financial support. Of course, there is a condition, that is, his retirement salary must be kept by me, and everything else cannot be negotiated.
In the process of blind date, there were more than a dozen candidate men, and in the end, only Brother Luo met my requirements. Brother Luo is a retired employee who receives a pension of about 6,000 yuan per month. His wife died a few years ago, and his daughter is married and has a stable job. Brother Luo's daughter is married to a family with good conditions, and he does not need to bear any financial pressure.
Brother Luo is 62 years old this year. However, he was in an unusually strong physical state, as if he was only in his early 50s. In contrast, although I am 48 years old, I look older due to my lack of maintenance.
Despite my old appearance, in the process of getting along with Brother Luo, he did not raise any dissatisfaction with my appearance. On the contrary, he placed special emphasis on my virtue and industriousness, and emphasized the relative insignificance of my appearance in old age. He believes that being considerate and caring for others, and knowing how to take care of others, are the qualities that really matter.
Overall, Brother Luo has a good impression of me. I also have a lot of admiration for him and I can't wait to spend my old age with him.
Given that we are all adults, and both are outspoken and honest people, I express my thoughts without minus a minus. I said to Brother Luo: "I can marry you, I don't need a bride price, a house or a car, I have no desires." But I have one condition, that is, your salary card must be handed over to me for safekeeping, and I will be solely responsible for the housework expenses, so you only need to concentrate on taking care of your body and enjoying a long and healthy life. ”
However, Brother Luo immediately responded: "It is impossible for you to keep my salary card, but I can give you 2,000 yuan of pocket money every month." If you can accept it, we will get married and live a down-to-earth life;If not, you can look for someone else, I can't accompany you. ”
His answer got me thinking. Although I am young and have a lot to do, I can also take care of Brother Luo wholeheartedly until he is ** ten years old. I am willing to take care of the housework every day and accompany him in everything. Moreover, my companionship is 24 hours a day, all free of charge.
In comparison, hiring a nanny costs at least $6,000 a month, and the employment relationship can be affected by factors such as salary payment and attitude. The difference is that as long as Brother Luo is slightly nicer to me, I will not leave easily. Looking at it this way, it seems that Brother Luo has not suffered a loss. Why didn't he agree to my terms?
Are my conditions really too harsh?I proposed 2,000 yuan a month in pocket money, which is not too much for a family's expenses. Maybe Brother Luo has his considerations, and I need to think carefully about how to deal with this problem. Brother Luo is so kind, I don't want to miss him, but at the same time, I can't rest assured that his retirement salary will be. What can I do to make the most informed choice?
Sister Su felt the hardships of life, and she did not enjoy any retirement or pension, so she began to think about finding a partner with financial support to solve the problems of life in the future. However, is such an approach feasible?Is there really a man who wants to share his pension and entrust it to a woman who has remarried?
In my opinion, women still need to rely on themselves and not rely too much on others. As the saying goes, no one can rely on the tree to fall, and the water to flow. A wiser choice is to rely on yourself and create wealth for yourself with your hard-working hands. When you are young, you should make the most of your ability to save more money for future needs. When you are old and frail, if you really can't take care of yourself, you may choose to spend your old age with your daughter, or consider living in a nursing home for retirement.
Overall, self-reliance is the surest way to live. Through personal efforts and wisdom, create your own wealth and lay a solid foundation for your future life.