My mother-in-law, Li Xiaomei, is 68 years old, and she has been living with my aunt in a small mountain village in her hometown of Zhejiang. I work in the city, and my son Xiaoyu is 3 years old this year, and I am usually busy with work and have no time to take care of him. My aunt said that my mother-in-law is still in good health, so she can come to bring a baby to Xiaoyu, and I will give 2,000 yuan a month as living expenses. After repeated assurances from my aunt, I finally agreed to let my mother-in-law move in with us.
After arriving home, Xiao Yu looked at the strange old man curiously. The mother-in-law laughed and teased him: "Baby, give your mother-in-law a smile!.""Xiaoyu was still a little shy and hid behind me to peek at her mother-in-law. I hurriedly asked my mother-in-law to sit down and rest, and went to the kitchen to prepare lunch by myself.
After lunch, my mother-in-law took the initiative to take Xiaoyu to play. I reminded her: "Mother-in-law, Xiaoyu has just eaten, you can't toss him too much, let's play again after a while." The mother-in-law said disapprerovingly: "How can there be so much attention, children don't play for nothing when they are energetic!."I saw that she was in high spirits, so I let her go.
That night, I gently carried the sleeping Xiaoyu back to the bedroom, for fear of waking him up. It turned out that the mother-in-law played too much and tired the little guy. I silently thought in my heart that my mother-in-law is still so fierce, and she is not gentle enough for children. But it's better to be at home than outside, and I still have to be more tolerant.
In the next few days, my mother-in-law still has a lot of practices in taking Xiaoyu that I don't agree with. She often spoke loudly and commandingly to Xiao Yu, and I frowned when I heard it. Xiao Yu was not satisfied with what she said, so she raised her hand and made a gesture to fight, so frightened that Xiao Yu hid in my arms. When eating, she didn't care whether Xiao Yu finished eating or not, so she took Xiao Yu off the table to play.
I put forward my opinion, but my mother-in-law didn't take my words to heart at all. "I brought up a few of you, and I didn't see any problems!You young people just talk about it, but you don't actually have any parenting experience!The mother-in-law said with her head held high.
I just felt helpless. It's true that my mother-in-law is stubborn, but I can't directly deal with her. After all, she was thinking about me so she came south to help me take care of the children. I was filled with contradictions and anxieties, and I began to reflect on whether I was asking too much.
How long will this last?My mother-in-law's behavior really worries me, what should I do?
On this day, I went to work as usual. A day's work seems like a year, and I can't help but think about my mother-in-law and son at home. At lunchtime, the mobile phone rang suddenly, and I took it out to see that it was a call from the nanny aunt. My heart "chuckled" and picked up ** nervously: Hey, Auntie, is something happening at home?”
Auntie's anxious voice came: "Xiao Zhou, come back quickly!."Just now, my mother-in-law fed Xiaoyu, and Xiaoyu refused to eat that dish, so my mother-in-law lost her temper and scolded Xiaoyu with chopsticks, which scared Xiaoyu into crying!I can't persuade you, so I can only call you first. ”
I was shocked when I heard it: "What?!My mother-in-law actually started beating my son?"I can understand my mother-in-law's bad temper, but it's too much to beat a child!I have to go home and make this matter clear, and I can't let my mother-in-law do this nonsense again.
I hurriedly asked my boss for half a day off and drove straight home. As soon as I entered the door, I saw Xiao Yu shrinking in his aunt's arms and crying, with obvious handprints on his face. I was very distressed, and hurriedly picked up Xiaoyu to comfort him, while glaring angrily at my mother-in-law who was sitting on the side.
The mother-in-law's face turned pale, and she seemed to realize that she had gone too far. I couldn't help but say sternly: "Mother-in-law, hitting a child is absolutely intolerable!".You've hurt Xiao Yu so badly!When the mother-in-law heard this, a trace of panic flashed on her face, but she quickly forced herself to be right: "I'm for his good!."If a child doesn't fight, he can't be talented, don't spoil him!”
I saw that my mother-in-law was completely introspective, and finally couldn't bear it anymore: "No!."This must not go on any longer!Mother-in-law, I know you have good intentions, but our philosophy of children's education is obviously very different. If you discipline Xiaoyu like this again, we can only live separately!”
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she finally showed a sad expression on her face. She sighed and said in a trembling voice: "Grandson, you said to live separately, so what about me going to ** with an old man?"Are you so cruel that you don't want me?”
Seeing my mother-in-law's sad appearance, my tone also softened: "Mother-in-law, I didn't want you, I just hope you can understand my thoughts and stop beating and scolding Xiaoyu." Can you change your bad temper?”
The mother-in-law was silent for a long time, and finally nodded with red eyes: "Okay, I know it's wrong." I'm getting older, and maybe the methods are getting a little outdated. As long as you don't drive me away, I can try to change my temper and stop beating and scolding Xiaoyu. You just give your mother-in-law a chance. ”
I see that my mother-in-law finally has the intention of introspection, and I no longer embarrass her. I told my mother-in-law that we need to establish some common educational rules, such as not hitting and scolding the child, and communicating with him patiently. My mother-in-law repeatedly promised that she would abide by these promises, and I was relieved.
That day, her mother-in-law apologized to Xiaoyu and bought Xiaoyu's favorite chocolate to coax him. Xiao Yu finally showed a smile, and I secretly breathed a sigh of relief. I understand my mother-in-law's stubborn personality, but no one is perfect, and I must also learn to be considerate. I believe that through communication, we will definitely find the best way for two generations to work together to educate children.