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A good college sister of mine, Xiaofang, recently complained to me that she found out that she had married into a family of in-laws who had "a lot of hearts", and her in-laws were really not easy to get along with.
As soon as I heard her sudden complaint, I was a little caught off guard, so I could only quickly put a few exclamation marks to express my surprise, and then sent a comforting emoji.
Xiaofang is from the same dormitory as my university, she is beautiful and lively, and her parents love her very much.
During college, a boy pursued her and chased her for three years, and finally the two got married in the year they graduated.
I remember that on the day of the wedding, I was looking for a job in disgrace, and Xiaofang was already glamorously preparing for the wedding, which made me envious.
She immediately started her life as a full-time housewife who had no job and only had a baby, and she looked relaxed.
However, while I was reminiscing about our college days, Xiaofang's next message came, and it turned out that she was not doing well at all.
Her mother-in-law works in a small local hospital and has a good salary, 6,000 yuan a month. And Xiaofang herself is a full-time housewife and does not have any financial income. The mother-in-law gave her 3,000 yuan a month to take care of the baby, which means that Xiaofang will take care of her grandchildren at home during the day, and she will go to work in the hospital herself.
Xiaofang felt that it was boring to watch the baby every day, and wanted to go out to play or find something to do, so she transferred the 3,000 yuan to her mother, so that her mother could take care of the child and relax herself.
Who knew that her mother-in-law strongly objected, and she had to ask Xiaofang to hire a nanny, and her mother was never allowed to help. Xiaofang was very angry and felt that this was her mother-in-law making things difficult for her!
She spends her husband's money, that is, her mother-in-law's son, why should she care how she spends it?So Xiaofang decided to give it a try and insisted on letting her mother take care of her grandson.
This is good, originally a family of five living in a 100-square-meter house was slightly crowded, but now there are more Xiaofang's mothers, and it suddenly seems more cramped and congested. And Xiaofang's mother was in charge of all kinds of chores at home, and her mother-in-law was angry when she saw her
My mother-in-law goes to the hospital early to work on weekdays, and Xiaofang never does housework or prepares breakfast. Now with Xiaofang's mother, the family's breakfast has become her mother's job.
Only Xiaofang and her mother eat at noon, so it doesn't matter;But in the evening, there were more people, and Xiaofang's mother had to cook more meals.
As the days went by, my mother-in-law began to dislike Xiaofang's mother's unhygienic cooking, which was something that was left overnight. This made Xiaofang very uncomfortable to hear, because her mother only estimated the amount of cooking based on experience, and it was inevitable that there would be more.
In addition, Xiaofang's family background is average, and the conditions are not as good as those in the city. These words undoubtedly mean to look down on her mother, Xiaofang immediately scolded back, and then ran out to play all day long, leaving the child to her mother.
Faced with this embarrassing situation, Xiaofang's mother took the initiative to go back to her home, after all, it was an outsider who helped her son-in-law's house, which was really unsustainable.
Xiaofang persuaded her not to leave, but let her stay. Who knew that the next day, my mother-in-law took a nanny home, saying that she couldn't let her mother-in-law work too hard, and that a full-time nanny was the most suitable. Xiaofang's mother had to pack up and leave, and Xiaofang was very sad.
In fact, now that I think about it, my mother-in-law's approach is understandable.
The mother-in-law of the son-in-law's family and the daughter-in-law's mother could have been on an equal footing, you don't owe me, I don't owe you.
But after really taking the money, this relationship has changed, and my mother will have psychological pressure to serve the family.
Therefore, it is better to hire a nanny instead of looking for your own mother. It's like, a grandmother who doesn't take money brings her grandson out of love, but with money, it's like family affection has deteriorated. I think that makes a lot of sense.
What do you say?